How rude is this?

[Anonymous]

That is not oak, OP. That is maple, possibly maple finished over another wood.

The thing is likely made in the 40s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That is not oak, OP. That is maple, possibly maple finished over another wood.

The thing is likely made in the 40s.

That thing is an ugly junk of crap that
Should be promptly donated to some
Charity or the curb.

I would want that in my house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That is not oak, OP. That is maple, possibly maple finished over another wood.

The thing is likely made in the 40s.

I never said it was oak. It's pine. Knotty, lacquered, bright yellow pine. That photo is an example, not the actual thing.

[Anonymous]

This is OP. It gets better. Now that I am (attempting) to sleep on the mattress, it's become clear that my aunt is a smoker (can't remember if she smoked when I was a kid). I can smell the cigarette stench coming off the mattress and have a great migraine forming.

I'm so mad at this whole situation.

[Anonymous]

Suck it up for 6 months to avoid hurt feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. It gets better. Now that I am (attempting) to sleep on the mattress, it's become clear that my aunt is a smoker (can't remember if she smoked when I was a kid). I can smell the cigarette stench coming off the mattress and have a great migraine forming.

I'm so mad at this whole situation.

OP, stop whining. Make a plan for getting the mattress back to them.

[Anonymous]

Can you just thank them for it, ask themif you can paint it, and if they say no, see if they would mind taking it back. It's likely that your aunt was just trying to get rid of it herself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You live in a rented room, who gives a shit about furniture matching. Why don't you focus on getting a home, then you can furnish it.

I'm 21... how is "focus on getting a home" useful advice? And I actually explained exactly why I care about furniture matching, so why don't you just go suck an egg.

"how is "focus on getting a home" useful advice?"=saves you money in long run.You clearly can't even afford a bed(free from Craigslist).

[Anonymous]

OP, I think it's totally reasonable to say that you are so thankful for her efforts in bringing you the bed, but that the mattress is v musty after being in storage for so long (or that it is smoky and you're allergic to cigarette smoke) and that the bed does not fit your room, so you will be storing it in a closet until you an see her again.

How is your relationship with your cousin? I'd run interference with cousin first, but don't back down and make yourself sleep on a smoky mattress. If I drove 4 hours just to bring you a piece of furniture, I'd be annoyed, maybe, but some of your objections (size, smoke, lack of frame) are v reasonable and any reasonable person will not be offended by them.

Please do not mention that you like things to be matchy-matchy. That's something you should have considered before she schlepped the stuff 200+ miles for you, and it does make you look like an entitled jerk. But you have reasonable reasons for not wanting it.

Please don't buy a bed on Craigslist. Gross. Bedbugs. Ick. As a pp said, you can get a twin set from a discount mattress place for $50 bucks, regularly. It may not match, but who cares. They usually throw in a metal frame free.

[Anonymous]

OP: lesson learned -- some people cannot throw anything away. They want you to take it. Just tell them that the mattress has problems and that there are pieces missing, but it is a lovely piece that needs to go into storage again (at the local Salvation Army)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you just thank them for it, ask themif you can paint it, and if they say no, see if they would mind taking it back. It's likely that your aunt was just trying to get rid of it herself

Really! Like my MILs piano. NO! no! no!

[Anonymous]

The headboard - suck it up. It's not permanent and really you can live with it. This is the advice I would go back and give my 21 yr old stupid, childish, whiny self.

The mattress - bigger problem for sure but since it's there and you can't move it. There are plastic storage bags that totally encase the mattress. Buy one with a 20% coupon and Bed Bath and Beyond and see if it helps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think it's totally reasonable to say that you are so thankful for her efforts in bringing you the bed, but that the mattress is v musty after being in storage for so long (or that it is smoky and you're allergic to cigarette smoke) and that the bed does not fit your room, so you will be storing it in a closet until you an see her again.

How is your relationship with your cousin? I'd run interference with cousin first, but don't back down and make yourself sleep on a smoky mattress. If I drove 4 hours just to bring you a piece of furniture, I'd be annoyed, maybe, but some of your objections (size, smoke, lack of frame) are v reasonable and any reasonable person will not be offended by them.

Please do not mention that you like things to be matchy-matchy. That's something you should have considered before she schlepped the stuff 200+ miles for you, and it does make you look like an entitled jerk. But you have reasonable reasons for not wanting it.

Please don't buy a bed on Craigslist. Gross. Bedbugs. Ick. As a pp said, you can get a twin set from a discount mattress place for $50 bucks, regularly. It may not match, but who cares. They usually throw in a metal frame free.

This. If I offered you a free bed, and drove eight hours total to give it to you, and you told me later you didn't want it because it didn't match your other furniture or offended you sense of aesthetics, I would be pissed and think you were an entitled brat. If you said that you couldn't use it because the box spring didn't fit up the stairs so you couldn't use the frame--totally reasonable.

[Anonymous]

If you have the money to rent a uhaul to drive it back to them and the money to build yourself a platform for the mattress - then you had the money to get yourself something to sleep on. Especially since you are willing to spend that kind of money just because you don't like the look of the bed. You didn't buy yourself a bed though and they went out of their way to bring you a bed because you made it seem to them like you had no choice but to sleep on a piece of foam on the floor.

You sounds quite immature. Yes, it would be rude to pout and complain about how you don't like how the bed frame looks in your room. Yes it would be rude to ask them to come and get it because you don't like pine furniture. Your cousin probably knows how you feel so I wouldn't lie to her parents or make up a random story. I assume they know the box spring didn't fit as they were the ones who brought it and set it up. What did they do with the box spring that didn't fit?

Personally for it only being 6 months - I would suck it up and not make a scene about anything. Do they want this piece of furniture returned to them or are they done with it?

[Anonymous]

Mid-twenties poster here--OP you sound a little bit ridiculous.

Like someone else mentioned, you slept on a foam mattress for months, clearly aesthetics weren't a major priority for you (economics were, which sounds reasonable given your financial situation). And now all of a sudden you won't be happy living in a room that doesn't look right?

Furthermore, as you acknowledged, you could have just asked for a cell phone picture of the bed.

But you didn't, and your aunt drove hours to drop it off, which is a major sacrifice on her end in its' own right. If she "just wanted to get rid of it", she wouldn't have made the effort.

In my mind, the moment your aunt made a long trek to deliver the bed, was the moment you have to suck it up for 6-months.

Consider it a lesson learned.