being alone again as an older woman

[Anonymous]

As long as I don't end up like my MIL, and I am alive and healthy, I will be happy. Some women are afraid to be alone, I guess some men might be, too.

MIL has been a widow for decades and she basically hates men, so you can only imagine "what a match made in heaven" (sarcasm). Any friends she has was through her husband. Anyway, shoot me first. She is a byotch on wheels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I fantasize about this.....

+1

[Anonymous]

I am 57 and alone (kids are grown). Now I am amazed what people put up with to be part of a couple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd like to have a family compound, with my adult kids and their families in their houses. I'd live in a little bungalow on the edge of it all.

Yes, that would be awesome. I dream of that, too .

[Anonymous]

OP here, like the golden girls idea!

For those who expressed surprise that i hadn't really thought of this before...i would love a big family compound and effectively that's what my grandmothers had, or lived on their own but visited their children often. But they each had several kids. Not my world and I don't see my kids in their 20s or 30s welcoming me to live with them permanently (also not sure if I would want to if i were able bodied).

and re growing isolated, i don't know about others, but especially since i've had kids i feel like i look up and suddenly five years have gone by since i really got together and spent a weekend with a girlfriend, just the two of us. the time just seems to fly by and we're so busy tackling the schedules of growing kids, working, caring for aging parents, that you forget you are not investing in other things.