Cousin has requested that everyone wear navy blue at her engagement party

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she is going to have a professional photographer there to take pictures and you would stick out like a sore thumb in your hot PINK dress?

Go to Ross or Marshall's. You can often luck out and find something appropriate to wear - at least navy blue is a color that you're likely to wear again.

No, she is not. I know this because my parents are the ones hosting the party for her (long story). This is one of many requests/changes she has made, but it's the one that sort of pushes my buttons the most.

I guess she wants to be the standout at her own party, the "belle of the ball" so to speak. I'd humor her and do it her way just this once. How dressy do you have to be? Could you get away with a nice pair of dark blue jeans and a navy top?

[Anonymous]

She's annoying. Are others going along with this?

[Anonymous]

Most engagement/bridal showers ask that the guests do somewhat kooky things (games, etc). Some people will think it's odd, some people will think it's fun. If you choose to accept the invitation, you should not judge - don't be a drag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she is going to have a professional photographer there to take pictures and you would stick out like a sore thumb in your hot PINK dress?

Go to Ross or Marshall's. You can often luck out and find something appropriate to wear - at least navy blue is a color that you're likely to wear again.

No, she is not. I know this because my parents are the ones hosting the party for her (long story). This is one of many requests/changes she has made, but it's the one that sort of pushes my buttons the most.

I guess she wants to be the standout at her own party, the "belle of the ball" so to speak. I'd humor her and do it her way just this once. How dressy do you have to be? Could you get away with a nice pair of dark blue jeans and a navy top?

No, she sort of expects everyone to dress very formal, like a wedding. DH helpfully reminded me that her specific request was "navy blue and white." I am not going to get into her other requests/expectations. If it were a jeans sort of affair I wouldn't complain, but do you think someone making this type of request is going for a casual affair?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she is going to have a professional photographer there to take pictures and you would stick out like a sore thumb in your hot PINK dress?

Go to Ross or Marshall's. You can often luck out and find something appropriate to wear - at least navy blue is a color that you're likely to wear again.

NP here. If it's a big party, OP probably wants to wear something she likes and that makes her feel good, not just whatever acceptable thing she can dig up at Target or Marshall's. And since OP doesn't own anything navy, it's probably safe to say it's a color she does not feel is flattering to her. So if she buys something navy for this event, she is unlikely to wear it again.

I think the cousin's request is ridiculous. OP's plan sounds fine to me, although this is definitely a post where there appears to be a lot of detail and family history that may make things less black and white.

[Anonymous]

I'd wear the most awful print dress you can find from Chicos or Dress Barn, just for the reaction.

How much you want to bet they'll be divorced within 5 years?

[Anonymous]

Nice jeans and dressy top?

[Anonymous]

That is one of those request that seems reasonable to the bride (zilla) and crazy and inconvenient to everyone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she is going to have a professional photographer there to take pictures and you would stick out like a sore thumb in your hot PINK dress?

Go to Ross or Marshall's. You can often luck out and find something appropriate to wear - at least navy blue is a color that you're likely to wear again.

No, she is not. I know this because my parents are the ones hosting the party for her (long story). This is one of many requests/changes she has made, but it's the one that sort of pushes my buttons the most.

I guess she wants to be the standout at her own party, the "belle of the ball" so to speak. I'd humor her and do it her way just this once. How dressy do you have to be? Could you get away with a nice pair of dark blue jeans and a navy top?

No, she sort of expects everyone to dress very formal, like a wedding. DH helpfully reminded me that her specific request was "navy blue and white." I am not going to get into her other requests/expectations. If it were a jeans sort of affair I wouldn't complain, but do you think someone making this type of request is going for a casual affair?

I have no idea what she's looking for. It could very well be casual/nice - white polo/dark blue pants for the men. White blouse/sweater and dark blue skirt/pants for the ladies. Or something along those lines. Certainly not unheard of. What are your parents wearing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most engagement/bridal showers ask that the guests do somewhat kooky things (games, etc). Some people will think it's odd, some people will think it's fun. If you choose to accept the invitation, you should not judge - don't be a drag.

There is a HUGE difference in expecting guests to do something "kooky" (like participate in a game) and expecting guests to shell out a ton of money to dress a specific way for your party, when they are already expected to shell out money for a gift.

[Anonymous]

I think it's cute.

[Anonymous]

I wear whatever the hell I want and if new husband and wife don't like it let em come tell me to leave - I'll gladly take my gift and go home.

[Anonymous]

I'd just wear something black if I didn't have navy blue. Close enough and will blend in fine.

[Anonymous]

Is the request navy blue and white or navy, blue and white? 'Cause if you're going to be picky, at least be clear!!!!!

[Anonymous]

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But really, imagine how much *worse* this is going to get leading up to the wedding!