Applications are due Jan 1 and DC is still procrastinating

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you are planning on nagging your kid to get applications done that he is clearly not motivated to do? Will you also be in his dorm room nagging him to finish that paper that's due in the morning? Will you be there reminding him not to blow his budget on booze?



How about you begin to foster some sense of accountability and independence in your child (oh wait, the time to do that was 16 years ago) and let them figure their own shit out. Mommy and daddy won't be around to hold their hands forever.

YOU are a nag! OP, the PP doesn't have a a full picture view who your child is. Yes, s[he] is entitled to an opinion but it's full of self-righteous, overbearing opinion. Don't kowtow to the insult. Anonymity's how they get off their chest what they DIDN't do. Now, watch this creep come back with full blown discussion how inadequate everyone else is while their lil darlin' is the toast of the Ivy schools.

PP runs a pattern. Don't fall for it. I GUARANTEE she or he will be back to blast away while preaching their baseless opinion about your child. Parenting is tough work as we try and steer our kids. Flame away, PP. Your cheap words shouldn't impact anyone here because you don't pay one damn bill, provided not one piece of positive advice for OP's kid, didn't attend one teacher meeting, etc. You are just someone with a big ass mouth with weak ass attempts to demoralize OP.

And I give less than a shit about your inevitable attempts to demean me. I see your cheap style and sense of self-righteousness all over this forum. Don't let this self-overrated person's shoddy cheap shot get to you, OP.

Ooh, nice comeback, PP. I agree totally. It is sooo easy to slam someone else anonymously and in hindsight. No one needs that.

OP, I pray he gets it together. For what it's worth, I remember my niece being apathetic when applying for colleges. She did get in and will be graduating this year, but she expressed regret about not putting forth more effort into where she applied. She is really motivated now applying to grad schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you are planning on nagging your kid to get applications done that he is clearly not motivated to do? Will you also be in his dorm room nagging him to finish that paper that's due in the morning? Will you be there reminding him not to blow his budget on booze?



How about you begin to foster some sense of accountability and independence in your child (oh wait, the time to do that was 16 years ago) and let them figure their own shit out. Mommy and daddy won't be around to hold their hands forever.

Drunken thread-killer. Ugh.

Drunk at 8:30 am? My kind of poster....3 cheers!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you are planning on nagging your kid to get applications done that he is clearly not motivated to do? Will you also be in his dorm room nagging him to finish that paper that's due in the morning? Will you be there reminding him not to blow his budget on booze?



How about you begin to foster some sense of accountability and independence in your child (oh wait, the time to do that was 16 years ago) and let them figure their own shit out. Mommy and daddy won't be around to hold their hands forever.

Drunken thread-killer. Ugh.

+1. Another big mouth spewing from the shadows.

[Anonymous]

OP ~ At this point in the process, do what will bring you the least regret. If it's sitting on him, fine. If it's letting it go, fine. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

OP, at this very moment, my nephew and niece are working on their last essays due tomorrow. They are burnt out over the first ones which they started in October. Their mom is pushing to the finish line but you know what? They will be just fine, and so will your child. Tons of school work on top of writing tons of essays. No wonder kids fizzle at the end!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you are planning on nagging your kid to get applications done that he is clearly not motivated to do? Will you also be in his dorm room nagging him to finish that paper that's due in the morning? Will you be there reminding him not to blow his budget on booze?



How about you begin to foster some sense of accountability and independence in your child (oh wait, the time to do that was 16 years ago) and let them figure their own shit out. Mommy and daddy won't be around to hold their hands forever.

Drunken thread-killer. Ugh.

Drunk at 8:30 am? My kind of poster....3 cheers!

The post was 3:48. Misreading the time: another sign of impairment. Cheers!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you are planning on nagging your kid to get applications done that he is clearly not motivated to do? Will you also be in his dorm room nagging him to finish that paper that's due in the morning? Will you be there reminding him not to blow his budget on booze?



How about you begin to foster some sense of accountability and independence in your child (oh wait, the time to do that was 16 years ago) and let them figure their own shit out. Mommy and daddy won't be around to hold their hands forever.

Drunken thread-killer. Ugh.

Drunk at 8:30 am? My kind of poster....3 cheers!

The post was 3:48. Misreading the time: another sign of impairment. Cheers!

3:48 am. I know another poster who posts in the middle of the night. Could it really be... hostile Asian tiger mom??? (Cue creepy music.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm with you. It's been a long haul getting these done. Hoping DC gets one in tonight. The last is a real reach so if it doesn't get done I won't sweat it.

DC is finalizing the essay I'd hoped would get in last night. Should be submitted shortly. Then one to go. Hoping it might get done today too.

[Anonymous]

When I look back on my college application process, wonder why in the world I was writing essays over Christmas break. I should've written my personal statement over the summer!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Southern schools: less competitive admissions, good football, great towns, lower costs, more scholarship money, and better weather, better weather, better weather.

Nailed it! DD refuses to look south, but many of her friends are heading that way for one or more of the above.

[Anonymous]

OP~ we are all invested now in the outcome. On Jan 2 you have to post and let us know if it all got done!

[Anonymous]

OP, your DC is not alone
My DD just submitted her last one with due date 1/1. Unfortunately, when she checked, her teacher has not submitted the recommendation yet...
My DD has four more schools with deadlines in Jan. They all require multiple essays. Sigh

[Anonymous]

OP, I am the previous poster with DD just submitted last one. I just saw her essays, for two schools, she just changed the school name. They were identical content!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am the previous poster with DD just submitted last one. I just saw her essays, for two schools, she just changed the school name. They were identical content!!!

Deep breath and then exhale!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD was accepted early to what I thought was her safety school (Alabama). But the accepted kids communicate (via fb maybe) and DD really likes the girls she messaging with. The group is excited about 'Bama, picking suitemates and discussing sororities. I think she may forego finishing up her apps as planned. I'm disappointed because I think there are other schools that she could get into that are better fits for her. But it's her life at this point. Roll Tide!

There is a broader potential lesson in this for future applicants. If your child going into the process believes X school is a safety and not where he/she wants to go, think twice before applying early to that school. We didn't have to content with the power of Facebook/psychological bonding with future classmates in the fall when we were applying to colleges. I can see there are different strategic choices to make as to whether to apply early to a first choice school harder to get into a or middle of the pack school of interest to the child (I'm assuming here that the student is not applying anywhere binding ED or this discussion just doesn't apply), but I can see there are risks for some kids these days in applying successfully to the safeties (or even the middle of the pack schools) before the really desired schools. Not true for all kids -- we know some children who applied safety first and never waivered in their view of their schools as safeties -- so it depends on the student and schools involved.