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Anonymous wrote:Coming from the other side my family is pretty obviously jealous of how much my husband and I make and it makes me sad. I can't talk about something I bought at auction because I feel the jealously or even my own fears about the future because they brush off my concerns that our careers aren't 100%. It just puts you in a position where you don't want to talk about trips or anything other than mundane topics. Also I've been asked to bail out an irresponsible family member. In your case have you even told your sister that you're having problems?
I don't think it's jealously. I don't really care about someone's purchases at auction, and if someone tried to have a conversation about it with me, I'd be bored to tears.
And if you're talking about things you're buying at auction and then big trips you go on, can you blame them for not taking seriously your "fears about the future"? If someone told me how much they were spending on stuff and travel and then expressed anxiety about the future, I'd tell them, "Well, if you really have legitimate fears about the future, you wouldn't be spending so much money. You'd be saving it." You sound sort of insufferable.
I'd also like to add that I think a purchase at an auction *is* a mundane topic.
And my parents have always been asked to bail out irresponsible family members, and they actually don't make a lot. They just happen to be the most responsible of all of the family members. So even people who don't make a lot have that problem -- being asked to help irresponsible relatives. I think that happens in poor families, rich families and everything in between. There are always people who make bad choices and they usually if they make a lot of bad choices, family members are the only people who still care about them, so that's who they ask.
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