I'm ready to wean, DS is not... what to do?

[Anonymous]

Actually - that could be true, the longer you nurse the higher the kid's IQ. Look it up - 3-5 IQ points for ex. bfeeding. If you take fish oils while preg. and nursing it goes up another 3-5. Not too bad a side-effect...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Actually - that could be true, the longer you nurse the higher the kid's IQ. Look it up - 3-5 IQ points for ex. bfeeding. If you take fish oils while preg. and nursing it goes up another 3-5. Not too bad a side-effect...

I understand the science behind it and I would never discourage anyone from nursing but I'm a baby boomer and my mom smoke, drank, and bottle-fed me and I'm pretty happy with my high IQ -- I can live without the 10 extra points. That said, I was very careful when I was pregnant to follow all the recommendations so I understand people's concern about whether OP should stop nursing at 7 months. It's just that sometimes people get so involved in following every recommendation that they forget that a lot of us made it through just fine at an earlier time without them. OP, good luck with your decision, whichever way you go!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want a bottle either. That formula is disgusting, especially compared to breast milk.

My son weaned himself at 11mos. If he had wanted to stop earlier, then I would have been fine with that, but I would not have forced the formula on him, simply b/c of the fact that the stuff is really gross.

I’m glad you’ve done your own taste testing. And thanks for being so supportive of woman who can’t nurse.

If she COULDN'T nurse I would see your defense. But she CAN and IS. She asked for an opinion on whether or not she is being selfish (her words.) People are giving those opinions. Why attack them for doing what OP asked? You can disagree, surely - but try giving OP YOUR opinion instead of attacking someone for doing what they have been asked. (And yes, I did try both - PP is right.)

By offering HELPFUL advice you don’t use words that are negative. Gross and disgusting are not very encouraging words. You are basically telling foster parents, adoptive parents, and women, who for various reasons, can’t or choose not to nurse, that they are filling their babies’ tummies with gross and disgusting formula.

Why attack, you ask . . .

By using hurtful words like gross and disgusting you’re on the attack.

Sworry your wittle fweelings are hurt.

However, it is gross and disgusting. I've fed formula to my baby as well. I also think baby food is gross and disgusting-especially the "meat" in a jar that looks like little weenies floating in formaldehyde. I find the baby rice and oatmeal cereal extremely gross, disgusting, and FOUL. Am I now insulting all moms? I think all of us have used cereal.

If you find these descriptive adjectives offensive, you might have personal issues with infant nourishment that I can't help you with.

Do you like fish? Do you eat fish? Because I find it completely nauseating. Sorry to hurt your feelings.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Actually - that could be true, the longer you nurse the higher the kid's IQ. Look it up - 3-5 IQ points for ex. bfeeding. If you take fish oils while preg. and nursing it goes up another 3-5. Not too bad a side-effect...

I understand the science behind it and I would never discourage anyone from nursing but I'm a baby boomer and my mom smoke, drank, and bottle-fed me and I'm pretty happy with my high IQ -- I can live without the 10 extra points. That said, I was very careful when I was pregnant to follow all the recommendations so I understand people's concern about whether OP should stop nursing at 7 months. It's just that sometimes people get so involved in following every recommendation that they forget that a lot of us made it through just fine at an earlier time without them. OP, good luck with your decision, whichever way you go!

I don't think that we forget that kids made it through just fine, but many parents want better than just fine or OK. We want to give our kids the best of everyting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want a bottle either. That formula is disgusting, especially compared to breast milk.

My son weaned himself at 11mos. If he had wanted to stop earlier, then I would have been fine with that, but I would not have forced the formula on him, simply b/c of the fact that the stuff is really gross.

Do you feel better now that you have vented?

[Anonymous]

I weaned at 2 months. Felt the guilt for about a week. Life was so much better for all once I was a happier person. I did not enjoy BFing, and hated pumping. My child is now in the gifted and talented program.

OP: ignore the pro-BF posters. You have gone 7 months which is longer than many others have gone! Be happy for that. And if you think you will be a happier momma to stop BFing, then that is YOUR choice and you have every right to do what is best for you. Your baby will be just fine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want a bottle either. That formula is disgusting, especially compared to breast milk.

My son weaned himself at 11mos. If he had wanted to stop earlier, then I would have been fine with that, but I would not have forced the formula on him, simply b/c of the fact that the stuff is really gross.

I’m glad you’ve done your own taste testing. And thanks for being so supportive of woman who can’t nurse.

If she COULDN'T nurse I would see your defense. But she CAN and IS. She asked for an opinion on whether or not she is being selfish (her words.) People are giving those opinions. Why attack them for doing what OP asked? You can disagree, surely - but try giving OP YOUR opinion instead of attacking someone for doing what they have been asked. (And yes, I did try both - PP is right.)

By offering HELPFUL advice you don’t use words that are negative. Gross and disgusting are not very encouraging words. You are basically telling foster parents, adoptive parents, and women, who for various reasons, can’t or choose not to nurse, that they are filling their babies’ tummies with gross and disgusting formula.

Why attack, you ask . . .

By using hurtful words like gross and disgusting you’re on the attack.

Sworry your wittle fweelings are hurt.

However, it is gross and disgusting. I've fed formula to my baby as well. I also think baby food is gross and disgusting-especially the "meat" in a jar that looks like little weenies floating in formaldehyde. I find the baby rice and oatmeal cereal extremely gross, disgusting, and FOUL. Am I now insulting all moms? I think all of us have used cereal.

If you find these descriptive adjectives offensive, you might have personal issues with infant nourishment that I can't help you with.

Do you like fish? Do you eat fish? Because I find it completely nauseating. Sorry to hurt your feelings.

If you were raised on breast milk, then I guess your ignorance and low IQ disprove the connection between nursing and creating baby geniuses.

Nice use of baby talk, by the way

[Anonymous]

OP- I think some of the snarkiness here is hurtful. I too am thinking of weaning and .... "oh no!!" My DD is only 6 months old!!! horrific idea for some, I know. Even my pediatrician said she weaned at 4 months b/c she just couldn't do it anymore and that there's strong evidence that breastfeeding for the first 3 months is the most important nutritionally, after that it drops off dramatically. Again, this is my DDs pediatrician. I think that if Mama is happy, baby will be happy (eventually, even if it's hard at first not having the Magic Booby). He'll be okay! Good luck to you and try to ignore all the non supportive negative comments.
Also, I have found that this board is filled with woman who have nursed for a long time. In my social network and family I don't know anyone who has gone up to a year of nursing. Most have stopped around 4 or 6 months.

[Anonymous]

OP here- thank you for all of the responses that were constructive. It has definitely given me food for thought. To the PP, I too come from a community where breastfeeding past 6 months is not the norm. My mom told some of her friends back in our hometown that I was still bfing and they were very surprised... impressed but surprised. Most women I know don't make it past 3 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:when is the "average" time for weaning?

where I'm from they give the breast to the child until they're 24mo.

Just out of curiosity, where is it that you're from?

I recently saw a report on the national news that said much to the disappointment of the AAP the "average" American woman weans before 6 mo. I think it's around 3-4 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want a bottle either. That formula is disgusting, especially compared to breast milk.

My son weaned himself at 11mos. If he had wanted to stop earlier, then I would have been fine with that, but I would not have forced the formula on him, simply b/c of the fact that the stuff is really gross.

I’m glad you’ve done your own taste testing. And thanks for being so supportive of woman who can’t nurse.

If she COULDN'T nurse I would see your defense. But she CAN and IS. She asked for an opinion on whether or not she is being selfish (her words.) People are giving those opinions. Why attack them for doing what OP asked? You can disagree, surely - but try giving OP YOUR opinion instead of attacking someone for doing what they have been asked. (And yes, I did try both - PP is right.)

By offering HELPFUL advice you don’t use words that are negative. Gross and disgusting are not very encouraging words. You are basically telling foster parents, adoptive parents, and women, who for various reasons, can’t or choose not to nurse, that they are filling their babies’ tummies with gross and disgusting formula.

Why attack, you ask . . .

By using hurtful words like gross and disgusting you’re on the attack.

Sworry your wittle fweelings are hurt.

However, it is gross and disgusting. I've fed formula to my baby as well. I also think baby food is gross and disgusting-especially the "meat" in a jar that looks like little weenies floating in formaldehyde. I find the baby rice and oatmeal cereal extremely gross, disgusting, and FOUL. Am I now insulting all moms? I think all of us have used cereal.

If you find these descriptive adjectives offensive, you might have personal issues with infant nourishment that I can't help you with.

Do you like fish? Do you eat fish? Because I find it completely nauseating. Sorry to hurt your feelings.

If you were raised on breast milk, then I guess your ignorance and low IQ disprove the connection between nursing and creating baby geniuses.

Nice use of baby talk, by the way

I'm glad you liked it, I knew it would get under your skin

[Anonymous]

OP - could the rooting be a little bit of sucking-for-comfort? Or even a little bit of evidence of teething/budding?

Perhaps try a different bottle nipple or breast shield?

OP - I'm actually a little confused on what you are seeking advice on - your guilt? And what exactly or you feeling bad about - it actually sounds like your son is weaning quite well.

Or are you seeking advice on how to physically transition your child (you sound like you're on the right track with introducing solids, giving a bottle, etc.)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Actually - that could be true, the longer you nurse the higher the kid's IQ. Look it up - 3-5 IQ points for ex. bfeeding. If you take fish oils while preg. and nursing it goes up another 3-5. Not too bad a side-effect...

But those extra IQ points will be shot once he starts drinking!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:when is the "average" time for weaning?

where I'm from they give the breast to the child until they're 24mo.

Just out of curiosity, where is it that you're from?

I recently saw a report on the national news that said much to the disappointment of the AAP the "average" American woman weans before 6 mo. I think it's around 3-4 months.

That's what I want - a 2 year old sucking on my tits!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:when is the "average" time for weaning?

where I'm from they give the breast to the child until they're 24mo.

Just out of curiosity, where is it that you're from?

I recently saw a report on the national news that said much to the disappointment of the AAP the "average" American woman weans before 6 mo. I think it's around 3-4 months.

That's what I want - a 2 year old sucking on my tits!

You make is sound sexual-you are creepy.