Sister not speaking to me
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Anonymous
+1 Sorry, OP, but what happened to you is LIFE, not a rough couple of months. I understand it was a busy time for you, but have some perspective. |
Anonymous
Maybe she is having difficulty and wanted to talk about it. Or maybe she had something else she wanted to discuss and was frustrated you were not there for her. Regardless, you will probably need to let her get angry with you so that both of you can move forward. |
Anonymous
More evidence that infertility stories are boring. |
Anonymous
| OP again. Really appreciate everyone's input, I'm really kind of at a loss on this one. Bottom line, I didn't call, as far as I know she didn't call, months passed and now she's giving me the silent treatment. What do you guys think - is it on me to apologize? |
Anonymous
I wouldnt. You said you will see her soon so try to engage her there meaningfully (eg ask meaningful, specific qs about her life). she might explode but you are kind of half ready for that already. It will pass and you will move on. |
Anonymous
Good lord woman! Grow up! NO, it is not on you to apologize. What has your sister said to let you know you offended her in some way? Oh that's right:NOTHING! She hasn't said a word. The silent treatment gets NO RESPONSE. Just carry on and ignore it. |
Anonymous
| OP, did you post about your sister a couple of years ago? The story seems familiar. Not this particular situation, but doctor sister who works part-time, with wealthy husband, while you and your husband are in lower paying careers and work long hours. |
Anonymous
| When you bought and sold a house, did you move farther away from her? That could be a part of the problem, she feels abandoned. |
Anonymous
| Look, it sounds like you want to stay on good terms with your sister. She also sounds pretty selfish, yes. I'd just clear the air. Either on email or voicemail: "I can sense you are mad at me, and I want to clear the air. Can you please help me understand why you are upset with me so I can help make it right? I love you and don't like the tension.". If she responds with "I'm fine what are you talking about" then continue on IGNORING her cold shoulder and reaching out in a friendly manner. Eventually she'll get tired of it and move onto something else. |
Anonymous
| "No, I'm not ok because I miss talking to you! I am sorry I have been so wrapped in my own life the last couple of months, but you have my full attention now. When can we catch up? |
Anonymous
| These are great suggestions, thank you so much. I am too upset to be neutral at this point so the exact language you are giving is SUPER helpful. |