Twin birthday party--two less expensive gifts or one more expensive gift?

[Anonymous]

We have good friends who are twins and we've done two smaller gifts. Not identical gifts but something very similar--i.e. both get a coloring book, one with markers and glitter pens, one with paints.

[Anonymous]

Oh my god. Do not show up at my house with coloring books as a birthday gift. You are so cheap.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh my god. Do not show up at my house with coloring books as a birthday gift. You are so cheap.

And you sound like an ungrateful twit. So no, hopefully I'll never have to show up at your house with anything. Ever.

[Anonymous]

Must agree, no coloring books

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a parent of identical twins. Two is better. And you get brownie points from me if its two of the same thing.

I'm a parent of fraternal girl twins. Two is better for us, too, but brownie points if they're different things. Super extra brownie points if the gifts actually match the interests of the individual kids, but with a classmate situation like this you probably have no idea what each twin likes.

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Anonymous wrote:DC is invited to a birthday party for a preschool classmate who is a twin. Do I get two smaller presents, one for each birthday child, or one more expensive gift and just put both their names on it? I usually spend about $20 per birthday party, so I'd be looking at two $10 gifts or one $20 gift.

If you normally spend 20 per party then really you normally spend 20 per kid. I think it is crappy that you would spend HALF that just bc they are twins having a single party.

Parent of twins here who posted two small gifts would be fine. The last thing I want is for parents to feel put out by having to double the cost of the birthday gifts. More important than the gift is that my kids' friends come to the party. My kids appreciate gifts of any size and they wouldn't know the difference between a $10 gift and a $20 gift.

PP here with the fraternal twin girls. I agree with this, but would also note that if you can afford to get two gifts of your usual size, please do. My twins have a singleton sibling, and always see that sibling getting more or better gifts from friends and family.

[Anonymous]

Another parent of twins here. If the kids are old enough to understand opening gifts then bring something for each child so they each have something to open.

I don't want anyone spending tons of money on my kids - don't want to put anyone else out, don't want my kids to be spoiled, don't need/want the tons of inevitable stuff. So I am fine w/ a coloring book and markers, or a book they can read, or a bubble wand, or some little toy.

[Anonymous]

Two $10 gifts.

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Anonymous wrote:DC is invited to a birthday party for a preschool classmate who is a twin. Do I get two smaller presents, one for each birthday child, or one more expensive gift and just put both their names on it? I usually spend about $20 per birthday party, so I'd be looking at two $10 gifts or one $20 gift.

If you normally spend 20 per party then really you normally spend 20 per kid. I think it is crappy that you would spend HALF that just bc they are twins having a single party.

Parent of twins here who posted two small gifts would be fine. The last thing I want is for parents to feel put out by having to double the cost of the birthday gifts. More important than the gift is that my kids' friends come to the party. My kids appreciate gifts of any size and they wouldn't know the difference between a $10 gift and a $20 gift.

PP here with the fraternal twin girls. I agree with this, but would also note that if you can afford to get two gifts of your usual size, please do. My twins have a singleton sibling, and always see that sibling getting more or better gifts from friends and family.

Then perhaps you should separate parties for each girl and provide your guests with double the entertainment, food, and goody bags.

[Anonymous]

WTH is up with twins parents stating a gift giver gets "brownie points" if we buy two of the same or two different presents. Tacky!!

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Anonymous wrote:WTH is up with twins parents stating a gift giver gets "brownie points" if we buy two of the same or two different presents. Tacky!!

Someone is asking for advice on giving gifts to a set of twins. This is advice.

[Anonymous]

For preschoolers, I'd get two of the same (or similar) item.

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Anonymous wrote:WTH is up with twins parents stating a gift giver gets "brownie points" if we buy two of the same or two different presents. Tacky!!

I'm a parent of twins and agree! Also am appalled that some posters are so particular about what gifts are good enough. No coloring books? My kids love coloring books, but more importantly, a gift is a gift. Teach your kids some class and how to be appreciative.

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Anonymous wrote:WTH is up with twins parents stating a gift giver gets "brownie points" if we buy two of the same or two different presents. Tacky!!

I'm a parent of twins and agree! Also am appalled that some posters are so particular about what gifts are good enough. No coloring books? My kids love coloring books, but more importantly, a gift is a gift. Teach your kids some class and how to be appreciative.

I'm the poster who said no coloring books. I'm sticking to my guns. I will laugh at you if you gift my dd with a coloring book.

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Anonymous wrote:DC is invited to a birthday party for a preschool classmate who is a twin. Do I get two smaller presents, one for each birthday child, or one more expensive gift and just put both their names on it? I usually spend about $20 per birthday party, so I'd be looking at two $10 gifts or one $20 gift.

If you normally spend 20 per party then really you normally spend 20 per kid. I think it is crappy that you would spend HALF that just bc they are twins having a single party.

Parent of twins here who posted two small gifts would be fine. The last thing I want is for parents to feel put out by having to double the cost of the birthday gifts. More important than the gift is that my kids' friends come to the party. My kids appreciate gifts of any size and they wouldn't know the difference between a $10 gift and a $20 gift.

PP here with the fraternal twin girls. I agree with this, but would also note that if you can afford to get two gifts of your usual size, please do. My twins have a singleton sibling, and always see that sibling getting more or better gifts from friends and family.

Then perhaps you should separate parties for each girl and provide your guests with double the entertainment, food, and goody bags.

I suppose that you also think that a wedding guest has to "cover the cost of their plate" when giving a gift? Gifts are not given in exchange for the hospitality. I don't give gifts to get some stupid goody bag and a piece of cake. Between you and the no-coloring-book person, there are some tacky-ass people on this thread.

Speaking as a non-twin who shared a birthday with a sibling--please get separate gifts if you can. It's nice.