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I am into healthy stuff and moderation and never really thought about implants, though I could benefit from the addition. But I saw the other thread about breast augmentation, and then checked one of the recommended drs on that thread, and really liked the results. After 2 kids, I sometimes struggle to find them, and even the smallest size leaves a gap I can only imagine how much better u would look with some cleavage.
If I wasn't so scared of operations, I would have probably checked it out more seriously. |
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that should read: ... I would look.
And browsed the pictures of before and after on the dr's website, and really liked the results |
| Can't you wear a padded bra or such for the look you hope to achieve? I am sure your DH would rather have your natural body than some plastic sticking off bones in bed ... At least worth a try before surgery. |
Who gets surgery for their HUSBAND? What a stupid reason to get surgery. Women get surgery for themselves. |
I post this with fear of sounding like work for the doctor, since I always respond to these kind of posts and post my dr. I used Dr Hess in Fairfax, but was also impressed with Dr French. For goodness sake, WHY run around with nat geo breast when 6K can fix them right up? If you have the money and if the deflated sacks bother you, to me it is pretty simple. I worked HARD on losing a bunch of weight and I was happy with my hard work. The boobs that were left did not fit the package. I'm in my mid 30s and I still have my body, before long my body is going to be old and a mess either way. I'm going to bask what I consider my perfect body as long as it holds out. I look at it this way. I have one life. If there is something that I don't like, I'm going to change it. I seriously don't give a shit what anyone has to say about it. I'm happy with myself and love being naked. Not many women can say that after having 3 kids. |
Good for you! I've had 3 kids and I'm considering some form of a mommy makeover, maybe a breast lift. |
10:15 here. Yes, I do wear bras with padding, I have to. Bras without it are too big and I look ridiculous in them. I get a gap with the padded bras! I didn't ask DH what he thinks, because I never considered it seriously, but I can't imagine him objecting if I would decide to have it done, if that is what I want. |
| OP again. As always, thanks for the useful responses. I wanted to circle back to comments about it being a body issue problem. I did some thinking with all these comments swirling through my head and while it may be in some part a body issue, I think it's more of a correction than an underlying self-loathing. I've always loved how I looked even with the extra weight of childbirth. And believe me, I have my fair share of normal aging issues...face wrinkles, veiny hands, vericose veins, stained teeth..all of which could also be fixed with procedures but I consider them all normal consequences of getting older and appropriate for my age. The breast situation is different. They look like an error, like they clearly do not fit onto my otherwise normally aging but fit body. So is this a body issue that I harbor? Yes, I guess so. But Im starting to feel like aging gracefully does not necessarily mean living with an anomaly for the rest of your life at the expense of your self esteem. And yes, if I get them done, I'll hand in my crunchy card...but won't stop being crunchy! Again, thanks everyone for your honest feedback. |
As someone who shares your values and your concerns (on both sides), I would like to say as gently as possible that the slippage in definition of aging gracefully really has a lot do with the fact that aging is now more costly than you thought it would be when you made those opinions in the past. I was against dying my hair until my hair started going gray. I would argue that it is prematurely gray, but who knows because everyone dyes their hair. I now pout, "yes, i want to stay natural, but I don't want to look old!" I obviously haven't seen your breast so I don't know what the anomaly is, but you haven't seen the breasts of women your age who have had children, so they may not be as anomalous as you feel they are. Again, I am not saying it isn't because I haven't seen them and also haven't seen everyone else's. But we have to be careful because as we age, and feel the negative impacts of aging (body changing away from the norm of attractiveness) it is easy to start changing your definition of growing old gracefully. It is also easy to start defining perfectly normal though bothersome changes as abnormal. It could be that your age is showing in your breasts, not that your breasts are an error. Finally, when the rest of you catches up, your breasts will then be an anomaly for your age, in that they will be "too young." Will you change them back? |
As someone who has had their breasts "done" of course I had a body issue. I hated my boobs! Now I love them. I have issues with my hair. This damn curly hair is so hard to tame. And to the last poster, when I'm 90 and have these perky boobs, I will love them just the same. I will stare at them in the mirror and zone out the rest of my wrinkly body and reminisce on the fun memories we share. Maybe I will have some awesome geriatric nursing home sex and have one more ride on top of my old man, me and my perky breasts riding off into the sunset. I just hope when I die, they remember to remove them before cremation. That would be a melted gooey mess if they didn't. That is the only way they are coming out of my body, unless I get breast cancer, when in that case, they will be replaced. |
This is PP, above. Your message made me laugh! Yes, live gloriously until the very end, boobs and all. Hopefully, we can be roommates in that nursing home. As for my comment, I was simply reversing the anomaly, because that was one of OP's sources of concern. Just pointing out that if she has them done, they will become incongruous with her body at some point again. I say you do what makes you happy. But, up to now OP's value system has made her happy, and in some way she recognizes how this challenges that. |
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I have small breasts, always have, and I have thought about augmentation. I spend a fair amount of money on my hair but that's it - otherwise I am very low maintenance. So why not do it?
I guess for me it comes down to not wanting to do something purely elective that might have negative medical effects or might (probably would) look patently fake. I think I would regret it. My husband wouldn't go for it either, so I am going to remain flat but perky. At least my small boobs don't sag. (Yet?) |
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Thank you! You summed up my feelings. I live out loud and without regrets. Life is a wonderful gift and I'm living it to my fullest. Of course boobs are not the only thing that makes me happy, but it just goes along with living your life for yourself and doing what makes you happy which in turn will be contagious. I'm fully open about my boobs and answer questions readily. You'd be surprised how many women out there literally GRILL me with questions after they found out I have fakes. I can assure you that many women won't admit it, but a lot of us think about it. They want to touch them, inspect them, the whole 9 yards. |