No One Offered to Host A Baby Shower :(

[Anonymous]

Another vote for getting your DH involved to talk with either a close friend or family member to plan something for you. Otherwise I agree with the PP who said to have your "husband" plan the party and act surprised!

[Anonymous]

I agree with previous posters that hosting a party yourself- or having your husband "surprise" you with one - is a great idea. And it may be preferable to attending one hosted by someone else. My aunt hosted one for me when I was 33+ weeks, and I found it exhausting and overwhelming. She invited too many people (including, weirdly, some of her friends that I didn't know that well), it went on too long, I was huge and tired and achey, and I didn't enjoy opening all the presents in front of the huge crowd. Hope I'm not being a buzzkill, but this was my honest experience. I know my aunt meant well...it was all just a little too much at that stage in my pregnancy. I think a small party at your home, with your closest friends and family, would be lots of fun. You can relax and do what you want - it's your house, after all - keep the list small, and have exactly the party you want.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

[Anonymous]

As someone who didn't have family close by or an extended network of friends I had no expectations of having a shower. The most important thing to focus on is how much you love your baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, this might not be proper etiquette, but if I were you I would just tell my family (the family member I am the closest to) that I would just really like it if they were hosting a baby shower for me. I would not ask friends but I think with family it's ok to ask, especially if you are close to them, they will understand.
Otherwise, I agree with everyone else, a party after the birth of the child is really nice, the only problem is that you might be exhausted...

I agree with this post. I would just tell my sisters and moms that they were going to host the shower for me!

[Anonymous]

That's why moms and sisters aren't supposed to host wedding or baby showers -- it's seen as a little close to the bride/mom-to-be throwing it for herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's why moms and sisters aren't supposed to host wedding or baby showers -- it's seen as a little close to the bride/mom-to-be throwing it for herself.

No kidding? I'm so glad there are people out there who know these things. That wouldn't have occured to me. Was it ok that I hosted my sister's bridal shower? Although, if not, I don't think anyone there knew we were in such flagrant disregard of the rules!

[Anonymous]

I don't see anything wrong with having your sister or your mom host a Baby Shower for you. I have a friend whose mom and sister live out of town and hoster a shower for her at her own house. Everything went very well. I also think it's a great idea to get your husband involved.

When I had my DD, my mom wanted to host a shower for me, but she did not have any money. We had the shower at her house, but I ended up paying for all the food. Of course, the guests never found out about that

Congratulations to you and don't worry! I know that when women are pregnant, we get sensitive and have our feelings hurt more easily. I'm sure that your friends are very happy for you!

[Anonymous]

I think a gathering sounds like a nice idea! If you have it before the baby comes, you could call it something like, "one last blowout before baby" or something like that. If after the arrival, maybe the theme could be "You gotta see the baby" in homage to that Seinfeld episode. Chances are some people will bring gifts, whether you want them to or not.

I threw my own shower, though several friends offered to do so, because I have a big circle of friends and didn't want to saddle any of them with the hassle and expense of food and booze for 40 people. Most brought gifts, but I didn't open them at the event, and the invite said, "don't feel the need to bring a gift - your presence is enough!"

maybe nobody's offered to throw a shower for you because they might assume someone else has offered. or it might be that it's a really hard time of year for another event- people are kind of holiday focused right now. and given the economy, they might worry that they couldn't afford to throw the kind of event you'd want. I spent quite a bit on my shower, and couldn't have afforded to throw a similar event for a friend, no matter how close. ($500ish, including invites, food, booze, etc.)

[Anonymous]

Gosh, I am sorry about no one offering to host. My guess is a myriad of things. . .holidays and the shitty economy to name two.

I like the idea of your husband getting involved. OR, you could host a "Babies Down, Bottoms Up!" party before or after the birth. (You mention that some of your friends have kids, so this would be appropriate.)

Congratuations to you, and just know that in 7 short weeks you will have the greatest gift ever.

[Anonymous]

Man, that is shitty. Sorry OP. This is what I would do. I would have your HUSBAND host a couples party to celebrate YOU and the BABY. Make it light, drinks and apps, and hopefully anyone with a heart will you get you something cute! Plan it with him and then claim to be surprised!


DITTO TO THIS ABOVE POST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

I think throwing one for yourself is just fine. Since you have lots of friends with kids already maybe you can do a freecycle theme. That way they can offload some stuff, help you out, and not have to spend too much $ at the holidays.