Any younger parents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're 38, not a child. You should be able to socialize with the other parents, no matter their age. It's what well-adjusted adults do.

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[Anonymous]

People who are older have more money to afford private school. They may appreciate having a younger friend as long as you can accept them as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend is 47 with a 15-year-old at a smaller DC private, and says she and her 46-year-old husband are the youngest parents there by a long shot. So yes, I think she would notice if she were ten years younger and all those parents were that old.

Not everyone chooses to have children at 18 or 25 or even 30. Like all, we were "young" when we had our kids. OP might be considered 'old' by a 25-year old with a 1st grader.

It's all relative, and it is what you make it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a bit awkward to try to strike up friendships with people from a different generation.

You're 38, not 18. Unless you've been living under a rock, you should have some basic social skills and you can use this to socialize as much as necessary with the other parents. I have been a part of several past-times, groups and organizations where the participants range in age from the 20's to the 80's and I've never had a problem socializing and creating friendships with both people old enough to be my parents and those young enough to be my children. If you can't do that, that's a limitation that you should work on. It's not a function of age, but your social skills.

But as someone else pointed out, really your children need to make friends, not you and the other parents. You need to be social acquaintances, not friends. That's even easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who are older have more money to afford private school. They may appreciate having a younger friend as long as you can accept them as well.

I'm not so sure they would really care if OP accepted them or not whether they have or don't have money. I think it's all about attitude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 40 with an 11th grader, so perhaps I am just looking older.

Yes, appearance depends much more on fitness than chron age as we get older.

[Anonymous]

I wanted to be a younger mom but have dealt w infertility for a couple years. I'll be 29 at the earliest if/when we have a kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wanted to be a younger mom but have dealt w infertility for a couple years. I'll be 29 at the earliest if/when we have a kid.

that is pretty young in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

This is kinda of a DC thing. Parents at the suburban schools are younger. Very noticeable at sporting events.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DC started this year as a 9th grader at a Big 3. He came from a public school where I was on the younger side of the parent group (I'm 38 now) but everyone seemed roughly the same age. I can't believe how much older the private school parents are (especially the fathers). Many of them seem old enough to be MY parents. Has anyone else noticed this? It's a bit awkward to try to strike up friendships with people from a different generation.

Men would never have your issues. They don't care and are more into the socialization and networking aspect regardless of whether they're 38 or 58.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wanted to be a younger mom but have dealt w infertility for a couple years. I'll be 29 at the earliest if/when we have a kid.

that is pretty young in my opinion.

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're 38, not a child. You should be able to socialize with the other parents, no matter their age. It's what well-adjusted adults do.

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I'm 41 with a 2yo. Somehow I manage to talk to the late 20s/early 30s moms. At 38, the age difference really shouldn't be that noticeable. If it is, it is likely on you.

[Anonymous]

Very few in this area have kids before their early-mid thirties. I graduated and got married at 21 and had 2 kids by 25. I have always been the youngest, by a long shot, in both public and private schools in the area, and I have had no trouble getting along with the other moms. Our kids have a lot in common, and that overrides whatever we do not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is kinda of a DC thing. Parents at the suburban schools are younger. Very noticeable at sporting events.

Suburban, like West Virginia... they start young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very few in this area have kids before their early-mid thirties. I graduated and got married at 21 and had 2 kids by 25. I have always been the youngest, by a long shot, in both public and private schools in the area, and I have had no trouble getting along with the other moms. Our kids have a lot in common, and that overrides whatever we do not.

I agree. Even before I had kids - I had friends of all ages. (I am an older Mom)