Today I was supposed to fast for the long life of my husband, except I didn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry your husband is an asshole.

I was raised Muslim, and never really understood the point of fasting during Ramadan. My time would be better spent having the energy to be a good, decent human being and spending my time helping others, rather than hungry and tired and crabby. Then again I'm not one for tradition. "Traditions" were all made by people. Why do those people in the past, dictate the present or the future?

I don't know much about the Hindu festival you mention, but it sounds like a sucky tradition. It sounds like it was made up as another way to subjugate women/wives. Fuck that shit.

Another Muslim here and I agree.

Yes -- but how many of us would actually spend the day helping others instead of fasting for the day? The point of Ramadan (and I'm not suggesting I am good at observing so no judgment from me) is to show you how it feels to be poor and only get a meal a day and still have to work and keep up with your regular schedule. It's supposed to make you more aware and thankful for what you have.

[Anonymous]

Does your DH know you didn't fast? Does he care? Is he a traditional guy who expects you to observe such things or is it up to you what you do?

[Anonymous]

Tell us more. Did things sour recently? Did you fast last year?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry your husband is an asshole.

I was raised Muslim, and never really understood the point of fasting during Ramadan. My time would be better spent having the energy to be a good, decent human being and spending my time helping others, rather than hungry and tired and crabby. Then again I'm not one for tradition. "Traditions" were all made by people. Why do those people in the past, dictate the present or the future?

I don't know much about the Hindu festival you mention, but it sounds like a sucky tradition. It sounds like it was made up as another way to subjugate women/wives. Fuck that shit.

Another Muslim here and I agree.

Yes -- but how many of us would actually spend the day helping others instead of fasting for the day? The point of Ramadan (and I'm not suggesting I am good at observing so no judgment from me) is to show you how it feels to be poor and only get a meal a day and still have to work and keep up with your regular schedule. It's supposed to make you more aware and thankful for what you have.

+1

[Anonymous]

OP - Hope your non-fasting works, DH isn't here next year, and he leaves you a bundle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - Hope your non-fasting works, DH isn't here next year, and he leaves you a bundle.

Hear, hear! I hope so too!