Parent teacher conference with student

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then at the end of the conference, ask the kid to step outside. Problem solved.

Our school allots 15 minutes, and the teacher isn't even there for all of it. It's "student led". You would have to try to cram a real conversation into a couple of minutes at the end and hope that the other two sets of parents in the room didn't want to do the same thing.

Silly amateurs. You ask for the last conference of the day for this reason. I've always asked for the last conference. I won't take more than 25 mins or so if it is needed. And if we need to meet again, we can do that. Just because they schedule them in 15 min blocks doesn't mean you can only ever meet on this day for this amount of time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then at the end of the conference, ask the kid to step outside. Problem solved.

Our school allots 15 minutes, and the teacher isn't even there for all of it. It's "student led". You would have to try to cram a real conversation into a couple of minutes at the end and hope that the other two sets of parents in the room didn't want to do the same thing.

Silly amateurs. You ask for the last conference of the day for this reason. I've always asked for the last conference. I won't take more than 25 mins or so if it is needed. And if we need to meet again, we can do that. Just because they schedule them in 15 min blocks doesn't mean you can only ever meet on this day for this amount of time.

None of us are amateurs. We all know we can schedule a conference any time if there is a need. That said, when interacting with the teacher it is important to respect their time, schedule, etc. - in this case a 15 minute meeting. It should also be important for teachers to respect the parent's time - in this case have an adults only meeting where adults can speak honestly and openly.

[Anonymous]

Where is this happening?

[Anonymous]

Set boundaries and a time frame - and stick to them.

like Back to School Night when it's NOT about the individual child

In this case, it is, but parents need to understand that the discussion should be constructive and not punitive.

The school should have sent out letters with guidelines, and teachers should know how to stop a parent from leading meeting in the wrong direction.

Anonymous wrote:When I taught, I was always SO leery of any parent, teacher and student meetings. So often, if I gave any constructive feedback, the parents would start drilling the kid and in some cases, berating the child. The kid would be embarrassed, I would be embarrassed and I think the parents were embarrassed as well. I really didn't like them.

I tell you this not as a judgement of the teacher holding the conferences, but as a caution, to you the parent. Take what the teacher says in-stride and discuss with your child (the good and bad) in private.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then at the end of the conference, ask the kid to step outside. Problem solved.

Our school allots 15 minutes, and the teacher isn't even there for all of it. It's "student led". You would have to try to cram a real conversation into a couple of minutes at the end and hope that the other two sets of parents in the room didn't want to do the same thing.

Silly amateurs. You ask for the last conference of the day for this reason. I've always asked for the last conference. I won't take more than 25 mins or so if it is needed. And if we need to meet again, we can do that. Just because they schedule them in 15 min blocks doesn't mean you can only ever meet on this day for this amount of time.

None of us are amateurs. We all know we can schedule a conference any time if there is a need. That said, when interacting with the teacher it is important to respect their time, schedule, etc. - in this case a 15 minute meeting. It should also be important for teachers to respect the parent's time - in this case have an adults only meeting where adults can speak honestly and openly.

So the OP just needs to schedule a meeting after school on a different date. You do not have to go on the conference day. You know if you do that you will only get 15 mins. Pick another day that works with the teacher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then at the end of the conference, ask the kid to step outside. Problem solved.

Our school allots 15 minutes, and the teacher isn't even there for all of it. It's "student led". You would have to try to cram a real conversation into a couple of minutes at the end and hope that the other two sets of parents in the room didn't want to do the same thing.

Silly amateurs. You ask for the last conference of the day for this reason. I've always asked for the last conference. I won't take more than 25 mins or so if it is needed. And if we need to meet again, we can do that. Just because they schedule them in 15 min blocks doesn't mean you can only ever meet on this day for this amount of time.

None of us are amateurs. We all know we can schedule a conference any time if there is a need. That said, when interacting with the teacher it is important to respect their time, schedule, etc. - in this case a 15 minute meeting. It should also be important for teachers to respect the parent's time - in this case have an adults only meeting where adults can speak honestly and openly.

So the OP just needs to schedule a meeting after school on a different date. You do not have to go on the conference day. You know if you do that you will only get 15 mins. Pick another day that works with the teacher.

I kind of do have to go, not for my sake but for my child's so that my child can hear what the teacher wants him to hear. And I'd like to hear what the teacher tells my child too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where is this happening?

It's an HGC class. I don't think it is school wide.

[Anonymous]

OP here. We had the conference and it was fine. I liked seeing how my child interacted with the teacher. The teacher had my child run the conference so we all got to hear how he thinks he's doing.