1st Grader

[Anonymous]

+ 1 - that is so uncalled for and completely inappropriate for the school to let him be wet and just put his clothes directly into the pack. Good luck today!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Today he again had an accident. For four hours they let him continue in class without cleaning him up properly or calling us.

His socks, shoes and tee were soiled.

They dumped his soiled clothes in his bag directly. The inside of his bag and lunch box had poop over it.

All I can is tomorrow's meetings will not be easy for them. We've taken pictures of it all.

Thanks for all the advise.

This is horrible! I am so sorry your son had to experience this. If your meeting did not go well, please get representation.
If I knew you OP, I'd send a pizza over to your house for dinner tonight!

[Anonymous]

Thanks everyone. Great support from you all.

So the night before the meeting, we sent them the email and pictures. They were not very happy. So we asked them a bunch of questions during the meeting and here are the answers -

a) Kids versus nurse ratio ?
++ 700 kids and one nurse, she takes Tuesday off

b) Special aides in school to support special needs kids?
++ None, teachers and nurse manage the show. Each class has (1st grade) 18-20 kids with 2-3 SN kids.

c) Do you know about kabuki syndrome and the health-plan on his file from the doctor? Why is he being allowed to clean his own poop all over his body and why was he allowed to go himself when he is not capable?
++ No answer

d) Last year you guys called us when there was such an accident and we cleaned him up
++ Vice principal says, that's a good idea, maybe we can call them when we have accidents

e) So are you saying the county has no service to support this and one of have to quit our job and be on stand by?
++ We'll call the SN division and find out ..was the answer

As the next steps -

a) we have lodged a complaint with the county, send the pictures as well. waiting for updates

b) We are looking for a special needs advocate in Northern Virginia. We would like this person to help us with all the SN related issues and be our advocate and represent us during school meetings/IEP sessions etc. All recommendations are appreciated!

Please do let us know.

Thanks for all your help.

[Anonymous]

That is shocking!!!! Poor kid .


I would call Weinfeld Educational Group and see if they have anyone familiar with your school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I would call Weinfeld Educational Group .

Thanks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Thanks everyone. Great support from you all.

So the night before the meeting, we sent them the email and pictures. They were not very happy. So we asked them a bunch of questions during the meeting and here are the answers -

a) Kids versus nurse ratio ?
++ 700 kids and one nurse, she takes Tuesday off

b) Special aides in school to support special needs kids?
++ None, teachers and nurse manage the show. Each class has (1st grade) 18-20 kids with 2-3 SN kids.

c) Do you know about kabuki syndrome and the health-plan on his file from the doctor? Why is he being allowed to clean his own poop all over his body and why was he allowed to go himself when he is not capable?
++ No answer

d) Last year you guys called us when there was such an accident and we cleaned him up
++ Vice principal says, that's a good idea, maybe we can call them when we have accidents

e) So are you saying the county has no service to support this and one of have to quit our job and be on stand by?
++ We'll call the SN division and find out ..was the answer

As the next steps -

a) we have lodged a complaint with the county, send the pictures as well. waiting for updates

b) We are looking for a special needs advocate in Northern Virginia. We would like this person to help us with all the SN related issues and be our advocate and represent us during school meetings/IEP sessions etc. All recommendations are appreciated!

Please do let us know.

Thanks for all your help.

Document all of this in a letter to all that were in the meeting. Start with "As we discussed at our meeting (date of meeting), 1, 2, 3,. Please let us know if you have anything to add." If they do not respond within one week, resend email again (including the original email) with SECOND REQUEST in the title and bcc the Superintendent of Schools. Good luck, I am sorry your DC has had to go through this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Thanks everyone. Great support from you all.

So the night before the meeting, we sent them the email and pictures. They were not very happy. So we asked them a bunch of questions during the meeting and here are the answers -

a) Kids versus nurse ratio ?
++ 700 kids and one nurse, she takes Tuesday off

b) Special aides in school to support special needs kids?
++ None, teachers and nurse manage the show. Each class has (1st grade) 18-20 kids with 2-3 SN kids.

c) Do you know about kabuki syndrome and the health-plan on his file from the doctor? Why is he being allowed to clean his own poop all over his body and why was he allowed to go himself when he is not capable?
++ No answer

d) Last year you guys called us when there was such an accident and we cleaned him up
++ Vice principal says, that's a good idea, maybe we can call them when we have accidents

e) So are you saying the county has no service to support this and one of have to quit our job and be on stand by?
++ We'll call the SN division and find out ..was the answer

As the next steps -

a) we have lodged a complaint with the county, send the pictures as well. waiting for updates

b) We are looking for a special needs advocate in Northern Virginia. We would like this person to help us with all the SN related issues and be our advocate and represent us during school meetings/IEP sessions etc. All recommendations are appreciated!

Please do let us know.

Thanks for all your help.

Please give your N. VA. suggestions to OP. This cannot go on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:mine is also in first and has also started doing something similar. for him it is an excuse to get out of class. the class work is hard and he knows he is below his peers. so he uses this as an excuse to get out of doing what he needs to be doing. we have talked about it and he knows there will be consequences for doing it again. we also have him seeing a psychiatrist to help talk through the anxiety and get to thr root of these issues.

IMHO, the root of the issue is the school work. They are ratcheting up his anxiety. Poor boy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Thanks everyone. Great support from you all.

So the night before the meeting, we sent them the email and pictures. They were not very happy. So we asked them a bunch of questions during the meeting and here are the answers -

a) Kids versus nurse ratio ?
++ 700 kids and one nurse, she takes Tuesday off

b) Special aides in school to support special needs kids?
++ None, teachers and nurse manage the show. Each class has (1st grade) 18-20 kids with 2-3 SN kids.

c) Do you know about kabuki syndrome and the health-plan on his file from the doctor? Why is he being allowed to clean his own poop all over his body and why was he allowed to go himself when he is not capable?
++ No answer

d) Last year you guys called us when there was such an accident and we cleaned him up
++ Vice principal says, that's a good idea, maybe we can call them when we have accidents

e) So are you saying the county has no service to support this and one of have to quit our job and be on stand by?
++ We'll call the SN division and find out ..was the answer

As the next steps -

a) we have lodged a complaint with the county, send the pictures as well. waiting for updates

b) We are looking for a special needs advocate in Northern Virginia. We would like this person to help us with all the SN related issues and be our advocate and represent us during school meetings/IEP sessions etc. All recommendations are appreciated!

Please do let us know.

Thanks for all your help.

Woah. That is so unacceptable. Almost hard to believe this is true, but I believe it!

[Anonymous]

OMG. Now my pre-K also has had accidents the first 2 weeks of school but that was primarily due to a regime change and him being constipated. But he never EVER came home soiled. His dirty clothes were always in a separate bag, with a note attached "hey guys, D. had an accident, please put extra clothes just in case." Very polite and understanding.

Soiled lunch box? Disgusting. I would hire a lawyer too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: We are looking for a special needs advocate in Northern Virginia. We would like this person to help us with all the SN related issues and be our advocate and represent us during school meetings/IEP sessions etc. All recommendations are appreciated!

I'm the OP , please keep them coming. I've emailed two that I found on the internet.

Thanks again!