What is harshest "acceptable" punishment by teacher? screaming, grabbing arm, grabbing neck etc...

[Anonymous]

I have an active, tantrum prone kid. Daycare could manage him with time outs. No need for more than that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have an active, tantrum prone kid. Daycare could manage him with time outs. No need for more than that.

Are you the OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an active, tantrum prone kid. Daycare could manage him with time outs. No need for more than that.

Are you the OP?

No. I'm responding to the OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an active, tantrum prone kid. Daycare could manage him with time outs. No need for more than that.

Are you the OP?

No. I'm responding to the OP.

Oh thanks. How old is your child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have an active kid who sometimes can get a little worked up , what would be the harshest form of acceptable punishment?

I am ok with time outs, but what about screaming at kids, grabbing then etc.. where do you draw the line?

This is a leading question. Sounds like you have a brat who needs a smack across the ass on a regular basis to keep him in line. So, if the teacher spanks your son, I'm good with that.

[Anonymous]

I'm a teacher. I yell to get a kid's attention, but otherwise don't yell.

I can't imagine grabbing a neck or any body part to discipline. I've had several students over the years who are climbers and I've definitely grabbed a few kids around the waist to carry them back down to the ground, but it's not a punishment.

I do not give a time out unless the child needs to step away to calm down or I need to calm down.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't seem that OP wants to share the full story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an active, tantrum prone kid. Daycare could manage him with time outs. No need for more than that.

Are you the OP?

No. I'm responding to the OP.

Oh thanks. How old is your child?

He's seven now, but is an intense kid. I was very impressed with how a couple of day care teachers helped manage his behavior and learned a lot from them. A lot was preventing situations where he'd act up. If he didn't want to sit still at circle time, for example, they'd let him play quietly in another part of the room. If he wouldn't nap, they didn't force him to lie down. They let him color or look at books. He wasn't perfect of course, hence the time outs. But they showed me a lot of good tips for setting a child up for success.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an active, tantrum prone kid. Daycare could manage him with time outs. No need for more than that.

Are you the OP?

No. I'm responding to the OP.

Oh thanks. How old is your child?

He's seven now, but is an intense kid. I was very impressed with how a couple of day care teachers helped manage his behavior and learned a lot from them. A lot was preventing situations where he'd act up. If he didn't want to sit still at circle time, for example, they'd let him play quietly in another part of the room. If he wouldn't nap, they didn't force him to lie down. They let him color or look at books. He wasn't perfect of course, hence the time outs. But they showed me a lot of good tips for setting a child up for success.

Three cheers for competent, experienced daycare teachers!
At what age did he give up his nap, and how much sleep did he get at home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Safety intervention = any of the above are fine.

Punishment = none of the above are fine

Redirection - holding an arm might be fine.

+1

I don't think of grabbing a kid as a punishment--it's an intervention to keep him from hurting himself or someone else. I would not be okay with anyone using physical force as a punishment, but if a teacher has to grab a kid to keep them from running in front of a bus or hitting another kid with a rock or something, so be it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a weird post.

Exactly. Teachers are not allowed to punish children. ANYWHERE. This is just a confused OP.

[Anonymous]

Time outs are acceptable, in my opinion, and I wouldn't be fully comfortable sending my kid to a school where there are no punishments regardless of the behavior. My issue with "redirection" is that it requires the child to piece together why they're being shooed away from their friend to another activity. Why make them do all that guess work? Direct communication is very effective - just look the child in the eye and tell them that hitting, biting, kicking, scratching are not ok and that behavior earns you a time out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Safety intervention = any of the above are fine.

Punishment = none of the above are fine

Redirection - holding an arm might be fine.

+1 This. Wonderfully succinct answer.