are you insensitive to people who aren't situationally aware?

[Anonymous]

OP, are you a lawyer. My DH is a lot like this and I attribute it to his work. Always finding fault.

[maril332]

Nope, not a lawyer. and im not finding fault in everything. like I know that some accidents are purely accidents and can happen to anyone. Other things are just stupid that are a result of carelessness. Like I said before, we all do these things but some people want sympathy for it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you a lawyer. My DH is a lot like this and I attribute it to his work. Always finding fault.

...I suspect growing up with a sarcastic parent, or two.

[Anonymous]

I absolutely think those things, but I very rarely say them.

[Anonymous]

I think like this but don't say it.

[Anonymous]

I also think like this, but try my best not to say it. It doesn't help anything.

Maybe I grew up in less Carebear times (60s), but I remember adults (including my parents) voicing those feelings regularly around kids.

[maril332]

I'm not saying that you have to draw attention to every little flaw, I am saying that when someone does something completly dumb, im not sure why I would feel "bad" for them

[Anonymous]

I call this a blaming mentality. Some times things just happen, OP. You don't need to fix blame for every little thing.

Are you an anxious person? It sounds like it is calming for you to figure out the "fault" because it helps you feel like it won't happen to you.

[Anonymous]

Saying 'don't be stupid' does not aid one in being less stupid. The act of pointing out ones stupidity will not change them for the better. You being unbending and intolerant of stupidity is highly stupid in itself.

People are at all different stations in life. They will make the same mistakes. They will make stupid mistakes. Rehabbing stupidity takes constant love and understanding. Maybe they'll change, maybe they won't, but giving them a good environment is the smart way to make any difference.

[Anonymous]

Guys, OP has said repeatedly that she doesn't say these things, she just thinks them.

I think this is absolutely natural. It is, after all, the same reasoning behind the Darwin Awards.

[Anonymous]

maril332 wrote:Ok. typically I do respond with caring words and empathy. However a lot of times after the fact, I think that something could have been avoided if more care was given to the idea.

No I don't think I'm perfect and when I do dumb things I think " well its your own fault.. deal with it".

Just saying the other day when my neighbors's stroller was stolen she whined and whined about how they really loved their bugaboo and can't afford a new one. And I told them they can have one of our older strollers (a city mini or a maclaren).

I thought to myself, yes it is really shitty that their stroller was stolen and petty crimes happen all the time to a lot of people. but why would you leave in sitting on the side walk of your row house (like 20 steps to the house) all day while you are at work for it to dry off after washing . That just doesn't make sense.

Clearly you and I encourage the concept of personal responsibility. Keep in mind when reading these responses that it's a foreign concept to people in this area

[Anonymous]

I'm surprised OP is catching flak. Everyone thinks that way, even if apparently they don't realize it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I absolutely think those things, but I very rarely say them.

+1

[Anonymous]

Me too OP. So tired of no personal responsibility but I rarely say what I think out loud!

[Anonymous]

Maril332, kids are kids and you sound like a fucking bitch!