Famiy emails to ex BIL

[Anonymous]

My ex SIL is still the mother of my nieces and still the mother of my children's first cousins. Fortunately, we're still on good terms with her and her new husband (who was an long-time family friend before my brother's divorce and before he married into our "family". We consider them still to be family, so we still include her on info. She actually has a really nice new house, so when we are in that town, we often have our family gatherings at her house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex SIL is still the mother of my nieces and still the mother of my children's first cousins. Fortunately, we're still on good terms with her and her new husband (who was an long-time family friend before my brother's divorce and before he married into our "family". We consider them still to be family, so we still include her on info. She actually has a really nice new house, so when we are in that town, we often have our family gatherings at her house.

Oops, hit [send] too quickly. I meant to add that you need to do what works for your family. If you aren't that close, or don't feel comfortable including him, then take him off. Just make sure that if you have adult nieces/nephews make sure to be sensitive to them if you are cutting their father out of "the family" unless you have a good reason.

[Anonymous]

Hi op here. No children resulted from their marriage. Otherwise I agree, absolutely keep him on board. I will continue removing him from all emails as suggested. If someone brings this up I'll just say that I assumed it was an oversight.

[Anonymous]

My very uptight, "well brought-up", conservative family would listen if I mentioned that the Ex was still receiving family communications and whether that was all right or not. They would hear me out and tell me nicely to fob off

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My in laws are not the types to "talk it out" at all. And my sister in law is the same way. I know, annoying. It is possible they have a "Family" group, which was my justification for not emailing ex BIL. My other justification was since they were in the midst of a legal proceeding, it is inappropriate for me to email him since he has retained counsel.

Stop overthinking this so much. it isn't a big deal to send out an email that says "hey did you know ex BIL is part of this email chain?" It isn't talking it out.

There is no way I could send an email like that. They are super WASPy. No way. Thanks for the advice though.

WTF?
That is is really stupid if they cannot take an email like that.
That is not WASPY -- that is batshit crazy and I see how SIL ended up in a bad marriage, with parents like that.

[Anonymous]

What does your husband say about it? You gave legal advice to your sister but can't tell her that her STBX is on the family list and ask her if she knows?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My in laws are not the types to "talk it out" at all. And my sister in law is the same way. I know, annoying. It is possible they have a "Family" group, which was my justification for not emailing ex BIL. My other justification was since they were in the midst of a legal proceeding, it is inappropriate for me to email him since he has retained counsel.

Stop overthinking this so much. it isn't a big deal to send out an email that says "hey did you know ex BIL is part of this email chain?" It isn't talking it out.

There is no way I could send an email like that. They are super WASPy. No way. Thanks for the advice though.

WTF?
That is is really stupid if they cannot take an email like that.
That is not WASPY -- that is batshit crazy and I see how SIL ended up in a bad marriage, with parents like that.

That's insensitive even for dcum. You're disgusting.

[Anonymous]

You must be new to DCUM, PP. The OP didn't say SIL was being beaten or abused. If her parents can't even be approached with this then I'm sure SIL didn't learn normal communication skills. This often ends up in a bad marriage and divorce.

[Anonymous]

I don't see what WASPy has to do with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You must be new to DCUM, PP. The OP didn't say SIL was being beaten or abused. If her parents can't even be approached with this then I'm sure SIL didn't learn normal communication skills. This often ends up in a bad marriage and divorce.

God you're stupid. I stand by my assessment. You're a disgusting bitter piece of shit.