Verbal Agreement re: Swinging and BDSM

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree. I feel so bad for the kids.

Oh my God!!!!! People get the sticks of your arses. People have sex. They do it : missionary, doggy, on top, on bottom, in the anus,in the mouth, with more than one person, sometimes alone, with people of the same sex, with people of a different race. Sex. Sex. Sex. It is fun and it is good so long as all involved agree to participate.

Ugh. Hon, I can't recommend a good lawyer, but if you are anywhere in DMV (NoVa) no judge is going to give two shits about his adultery claim. Just in case get a little on him so even if a judge lost their damn mind and tried something he'd be faced with two "evil" but sexy parents to award he kids to.

the op probably has sticks in the ars more like baseball bats

[Anonymous]

I've always heard that nowadays, so many divorces involve adultery that it doesn't really count against anyone anymore.

[Anonymous]

OP here...

Thanks to the ones that are able to not judge.

H is the biz owner who has always wanted to share his wife (which I never did), provides a good material life for me and kids while I'm a SAHM, and that never, ever, thought I would have the courage to leave him because "I can have with him the best of both worlds!" Meaning stay married and have sex with everyone in town, which is not me whatsoever... never will. So he thought I would stay...

After years of trying to talk and make him understand, it took him by surprise that I no longer want to be with him... that the perfect family that we pretended to be for a while is no longer what it used to be... It is extremely painful for me to end the marriage and not being able to have the family I always wanted, but I am not staying for the sake of my kids, and will not continue to punish myself by being with someone that I do not love or have any respect because I live a good material life.

He's biggest concern is that he doesn't want to pay me alimony, and that I do not get a penny of the money he'll soon make from patents and patents pending. I do not want more that what it is my right. All I want is the kids taken care of. So I pray he makes his millions and find his harem... and leave me alone.

Thanks...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've always heard that nowadays, so many divorces involve adultery that it doesn't really count against anyone anymore.

Most judges consider it a moral issue and do not like to make it central unless the children were aware of the affair by actions of the person engaged in it - at least from what I have been told but I am not a legal professional