Daycare asked us to provide a reference on their behalf but we don't want to

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I spoke with the daycare near my job and they have a spot for DS right after Labor Day. I will put in my deposit tonight and talk to the homecare provider tomorrow morning.

ANd yes, we talked to her about TV. Last time she said, "well, you have to remember this is my home too, not just a place of business. So if A. wants to watch TV, I can't really stop her." That says it all.

I agree. It sounds like moving him is the right decision.

[Anonymous]

The county/state she's licensed in probably has a time on how long she can have it on - probably less than an hour each day. I'd probably call it in and let them know.

When the other family calls, I'd give honest feedback - what have you liked that's kept you there for the past 8 months and why are you now moving on? She gave out your number without your permission so you should be honest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I spoke with the daycare near my job and they have a spot for DS right after Labor Day. I will put in my deposit tonight and talk to the homecare provider tomorrow morning.

ANd yes, we talked to her about TV. Last time she said, "well, you have to remember this is my home too, not just a place of business. So if A. wants to watch TV, I can't really stop her." That says it all.

That is just it. It IS a providers home first, then a daycare secondary. Parents seem to lose that concept. I do not have a tv in the playroom, but my own kids WILL watch tv in an area that the daycare kids do not have access to. As for the kids watching tv coming in and as they are waiting to leave. I have done that as well. mostly rainy days, otherwise we are outside. if i am in the back of the house I cannot hear the parents coming to the door.

For all those tv hating parents, I would LOVE to see IN REALITY how much tv your kids are watching.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The county/state she's licensed in probably has a time on how long she can have it on - probably less than an hour each day. I'd probably call it in and let them know.

When the other family calls, I'd give honest feedback - what have you liked that's kept you there for the past 8 months and why are you now moving on? She gave out your number without your permission so you should be honest.

I dont know what makes you think the county/state has any say so in the matter. I have never seen in any rules where it limits tv time in a daycare. I agree that they shouldnt be sitting there watching tv all day. but a little here and there, as described above, is not going to hurt them. As long as the shows are educational in material

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I spoke with the daycare near my job and they have a spot for DS right after Labor Day. I will put in my deposit tonight and talk to the homecare provider tomorrow morning.

ANd yes, we talked to her about TV. Last time she said, "well, you have to remember this is my home too, not just a place of business. So if A. wants to watch TV, I can't really stop her." That says it all.

Then just pull your kid out and give the honest reference. What are you waiting for?

No OP but most places require a 2 week notice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I spoke with the daycare near my job and they have a spot for DS right after Labor Day. I will put in my deposit tonight and talk to the homecare provider tomorrow morning.

ANd yes, we talked to her about TV. Last time she said, "well, you have to remember this is my home too, not just a place of business. So if A. wants to watch TV, I can't really stop her." That says it all.

That is just it. It IS a providers home first, then a daycare secondary. Parents seem to lose that concept. I do not have a tv in the playroom, but my own kids WILL watch tv in an area that the daycare kids do not have access to. As for the kids watching tv coming in and as they are waiting to leave. I have done that as well. mostly rainy days, otherwise we are outside. if i am in the back of the house I cannot hear the parents coming to the door.

For all those tv hating parents, I would LOVE to see IN REALITY how much tv your kids are watching.

IN REALITY my 2 year old is watching none. So if I am PAYING YOU (since we're shouting) and we have AGREED UPON an amount of time my toddler will watch and you are NOT FOLLOWING our agreement, your business practices are EXCEPTIONALLY POOR and I will FIRE YOU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I spoke with the daycare near my job and they have a spot for DS right after Labor Day. I will put in my deposit tonight and talk to the homecare provider tomorrow morning.

ANd yes, we talked to her about TV. Last time she said, "well, you have to remember this is my home too, not just a place of business. So if A. wants to watch TV, I can't really stop her." That says it all.

That is just it. It IS a providers home first, then a daycare secondary. Parents seem to lose that concept. I do not have a tv in the playroom, but my own kids WILL watch tv in an area that the daycare kids do not have access to. As for the kids watching tv coming in and as they are waiting to leave. I have done that as well. mostly rainy days, otherwise we are outside. if i am in the back of the house I cannot hear the parents coming to the door.

For all those tv hating parents, I would LOVE to see IN REALITY how much tv your kids are watching.

I don't hate tv, but I don't see a place for it in a daycare setting. My 3 yr old rarely watches any during the week (as in most weeks none at all) and maybe 2-3 shows on the weekend total. He'd rather have us read to him or he plays with toys, playdough, colors, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I spoke with the daycare near my job and they have a spot for DS right after Labor Day. I will put in my deposit tonight and talk to the homecare provider tomorrow morning.

ANd yes, we talked to her about TV. Last time she said, "well, you have to remember this is my home too, not just a place of business. So if A. wants to watch TV, I can't really stop her." That says it all.

That is just it. It IS a providers home first, then a daycare secondary. Parents seem to lose that concept. I do not have a tv in the playroom, but my own kids WILL watch tv in an area that the daycare kids do not have access to. As for the kids watching tv coming in and as they are waiting to leave. I have done that as well. mostly rainy days, otherwise we are outside. if i am in the back of the house I cannot hear the parents coming to the door.

For all those tv hating parents, I would LOVE to see IN REALITY how much tv your kids are watching.

Yikes, I feel sorry for the kids and families that you provide services for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you want other potential parents be informed about this provider? I can understand if you want to keep him there, but not if you're leaving. I wish the references I spoke to with our first home provider had told us the TV reality instead of the "15 minutes after lunch" we were told by the provider.

But you need to get your kid out first. Then call those parents right back

[Anonymous]

The amount of TV time should be zero, per APA:

Television and other entertainment media should be avoided for infants and children under age 2. A child's brain develops rapidly during these first years, and young children learn best by interacting with people, not screens. - See more at: http://www.aap.org/en-us/advocacy-and-policy/aap-health-initiatives/Pages/Media-and-Children.aspx?nfstatus=401&nftoken=00000000-0000-0000-0000-000000000000&nfstatusdescription=ERROR%3a+No+local+token#sthash.A9TIfwgt.dpuf

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I spoke with the daycare near my job and they have a spot for DS right after Labor Day. I will put in my deposit tonight and talk to the homecare provider tomorrow morning.

ANd yes, we talked to her about TV. Last time she said, "well, you have to remember this is my home too, not just a place of business. So if A. wants to watch TV, I can't really stop her." That says it all.

That is just it. It IS a providers home first, then a daycare secondary. Parents seem to lose that concept. I do not have a tv in the playroom, but my own kids WILL watch tv in an area that the daycare kids do not have access to. As for the kids watching tv coming in and as they are waiting to leave. I have done that as well. mostly rainy days, otherwise we are outside. if i am in the back of the house I cannot hear the parents coming to the door.

For all those tv hating parents, I would LOVE to see IN REALITY how much tv your kids are watching.

Geesh, that attitude makes me want to avoid in-home providers. An in-home provider should have a separate space for the daycare. If your kids are watching tv in a place the kids truly do not have access to, then the parents wouldn't notice the tv on when they pick up or drop off their kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I spoke with the daycare near my job and they have a spot for DS right after Labor Day. I will put in my deposit tonight and talk to the homecare provider tomorrow morning.

ANd yes, we talked to her about TV. Last time she said, "well, you have to remember this is my home too, not just a place of business. So if A. wants to watch TV, I can't really stop her." That says it all.

That is just it. It IS a providers home first, then a daycare secondary. Parents seem to lose that concept. I do not have a tv in the playroom, but my own kids WILL watch tv in an area that the daycare kids do not have access to. As for the kids watching tv coming in and as they are waiting to leave. I have done that as well. mostly rainy days, otherwise we are outside. if i am in the back of the house I cannot hear the parents coming to the door.

For all those tv hating parents, I would LOVE to see IN REALITY how much tv your kids are watching.

I would never use an in home daycare, but my 2 year old does not watch tv. And if I found the daycare ever allowing it, I would pull him as soon as possible. There just is no reason for a toddler to watch tv at daycare. None.