Do you send peanut butter and/or nuts in your kid's lunches?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If school policy is nuts are allowed - why are you making yourself crazy about this?

There are also kids allergic to blueberries and strawberries - are you thinking about not sending these foods.

There are kids with intense allergic reaction to gluten - are you cutting this out?

Seriously - follow the school policy and move on.

You wouldn't be so relaxed if your child were the one with the peanut allergy. My child does not have one, but I can't imagine the stress it must be for the parents of kids who do have the allergy. Try to be a little more understanding. Kids die from this allergy, you know. Or do you even care?

Gluten cannot be inhaled, as the smell of peanuts can. What is thought to be a mild peanut allergy can in one incident, result in death. I have a 2 year old nephew that gets swollen eyes and sneezes profusely when his big brother eats a PB and J in his presence.

[Anonymous]

I don't, because one of my kids is severely allergic to tree nuts, and I have seen what happens during a reaction. We actually have peanut butter in the house as peanuts are not treenuts, and are a safe food for us.

I don't mind if my other kids bring whatever, as my child is old enough not to eat other people's food and to change seats if someone close to him has nuts in his lunch. He is also aware of his first signs of exposure (tongue tingling followed by stomach pains, and will ask for help immediately upon possible exposure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If school policy is nuts are allowed - why are you making yourself crazy about this?

There are also kids allergic to blueberries and strawberries - are you thinking about not sending these foods.

There are kids with intense allergic reaction to gluten - are you cutting this out?

Seriously - follow the school policy and move on.

You wouldn't be so relaxed if your child were the one with the peanut allergy. My child does not have one, but I can't imagine the stress it must be for the parents of kids who do have the allergy. Try to be a little more understanding. Kids die from this allergy, you know. Or do you even care?

Gluten cannot be inhaled, as the smell of peanuts can. What is thought to be a mild peanut allergy can in one incident, result in death. I have a 2 year old nephew that gets swollen eyes and sneezes profusely when his big brother eats a PB and J in his presence.

People can die from any allergy.

As a parent you cannot stop sending all potential allergenic foods to school. Schools have policies to deal with it. It's not a perfect world.

[Anonymous]

I have a life threatening food allergy. I am very thankful that my school didn't ban the food. And I'm thankful my parents didn't expect everyone else to change their food choices because of my allergy. Two reasons: (1) I learned from a very young age to be very careful about what I ate. And (2) I learned that the world does not revolve around me and my medical issue.

Yes. We send peanut butter. Our school has a great policy to prevent accidental exposure to allergens.

[Anonymous]

It is not a perfect world. You're right.

But, I think what PP is saying is not to change what you're doing, just don't be so crappy about it.

By all means, if the school policy allows peanut butter and your kid likes it, then go ahead and send it. BUT... there seems to be a "screw the kids with peanut allergies... their problem, not mine" type of attitude about it, and that's a bit cold, don't you think?

FWIW, my kids do not have peanut allergies.

[Anonymous]

I do send them.

But, the SECOND anyone were let me know that their kid was at risk, I would stop. That hasn't happened yet. After a few years, I stopped even asking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is not a perfect world. You're right.

But, I think what PP is saying is not to change what you're doing, just don't be so crappy about it.

By all means, if the school policy allows peanut butter and your kid likes it, then go ahead and send it. BUT... there seems to be a "screw the kids with peanut allergies... their problem, not mine" type of attitude about it, and that's a bit cold, don't you think?

FWIW, my kids do not have peanut allergies.

I haven't seen that (in this thread). People have said, "adhere to the school policy," which you yourself advocate. Unclench.

[Anonymous]

Our school allows peanuts but if a child has something with nuts, the parent must notify the teacher. It's a pain so she almost never eats peanut butter at school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is not a perfect world. You're right.

But, I think what PP is saying is not to change what you're doing, just don't be so crappy about it.

By all means, if the school policy allows peanut butter and your kid likes it, then go ahead and send it. BUT... there seems to be a "screw the kids with peanut allergies... their problem, not mine" type of attitude about it, and that's a bit cold, don't you think?

FWIW, my kids do not have peanut allergies.

I haven't seen that (in this thread). People have said, "adhere to the school policy," which you yourself advocate. Unclench.

Oh... Nothing clenched here.... I'm looking at the whole picture... something you're apparently unable to do.

I'm talking about crappy attitudes, not personal decisions. The attitude about other kids with peanut allergies seems to be the equivalent of holding up the middle finger. Do what you want, just don't allow your attitude to say "F-you" while you're doing it.

I agree with the PP who said some people would probably be a bit more understanding if their kids were the ones with a deadly allergy. I have the most respect for the schools who have strict standards set in place, but not all schools do. That's why there's an issue.

[Anonymous]

I haven't seen that (in this thread). People have said, "adhere to the school policy," which you yourself advocate. Unclench.

You're kids don't have peanut allergies, correct? CORRECT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I follow the school policy. One year I knew of a child with a peanut allergy in my son's class so I avoided PB, even though the school allowed it. Honestly, it was hard, as my son is VERY picky, doesn't get enough food or protein, and dislikes the PB substitutes.

And then I chaperoned a field trip where the school provided lunch to the kids and they promptly told the peanut-allergic kid to eat his school-provided PB&J (and then the ambulance came, and the child went off on his own to the ER....)

Which is to say that dangers to an allergic child are everywhere.

That scares me far worse than anything another kid might bring in his lunch. I depend on the teachers to not give my kid food. (I send in everything for my son).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is not a perfect world. You're right.

But, I think what PP is saying is not to change what you're doing, just don't be so crappy about it.

By all means, if the school policy allows peanut butter and your kid likes it, then go ahead and send it. BUT... there seems to be a "screw the kids with peanut allergies... their problem, not mine" type of attitude about it, and that's a bit cold, don't you think?

FWIW, my kids do not have peanut allergies.

I haven't seen that (in this thread). People have said, "adhere to the school policy," which you yourself advocate. Unclench.

Oh... Nothing clenched here.... I'm looking at the whole picture... something you're apparently unable to do.

I'm talking about crappy attitudes, not personal decisions. The attitude about other kids with peanut allergies seems to be the equivalent of holding up the middle finger. Do what you want, just don't allow your attitude to say "F-you" while you're doing it.

I agree with the PP who said some people would probably be a bit more understanding if their kids were the ones with a deadly allergy. I have the most respect for the schools who have strict standards set in place, but not all schools do. That's why there's an issue.

NP here. You are reading a lot into other poster's comments. How does "I follow the school policy" equal "F-you"?

[Anonymous]

Are the policies set in place by schools not working? The parents of kids in our school system are not shy about vocalizing any and every concern or complaint they have, and I have heard no complaints about exposure to allergens. I don't think that most parents have a callous attitude on this topic (who would want to be the one to send in a food that harms a kid?), they just understand that the school has things under control. If anyone has evidence that a school isn't keeping the kids safe they should take it up with the school and community, not hope that every one of hundreds of parents and kids will somehow understand, without precedent, that the school's policies are inadequate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is not a perfect world. You're right.

But, I think what PP is saying is not to change what you're doing, just don't be so crappy about it.

By all means, if the school policy allows peanut butter and your kid likes it, then go ahead and send it. BUT... there seems to be a "screw the kids with peanut allergies... their problem, not mine" type of attitude about it, and that's a bit cold, don't you think?

FWIW, my kids do not have peanut allergies.

I haven't seen that (in this thread). People have said, "adhere to the school policy," which you yourself advocate. Unclench.

Oh... Nothing clenched here.... I'm looking at the whole picture... something you're apparently unable to do.

I'm talking about crappy attitudes, not personal decisions. The attitude about other kids with peanut allergies seems to be the equivalent of holding up the middle finger. Do what you want, just don't allow your attitude to say "F-you" while you're doing it.

I agree with the PP who said some people would probably be a bit more understanding if their kids were the ones with a deadly allergy. I have the most respect for the schools who have strict standards set in place, but not all schools do. That's why there's an issue.

NP here. You are reading a lot into other poster's comments. How does "I follow the school policy" equal "F-you"?

+1. I didn't see any "F-you" attitude here in this thread. At all. If PP means it's been on display here, she is way oversensitive.

[Anonymous]

I don't even though my kids are not allergic. There are so many good alternatives, including sunbutter. I don't want my kids to cause some other kid to go into anaphylactic shock.