does your sibling know your HHI?
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Anonymous
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never.
my sister was angry with me when i didn't share her what my DC rent was. she lives in the midwest in a location where rent is pennies compared to what we pay and has never lived somewhere with a high living expense. she also is a gossip. i wouldn't tell anyone, especially siblings. i think it just sets up the potential for too much drama. |
Anonymous
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Nope. My parents had a cow when they saw my house price ($420k for a completely renovated townhouse, which was just about the best I could do!) and then figured out we make more than they think.
My sister is an exec and super obnoxiously tells everyone not only her salary but how much every object she purchases costs. It's crass. My other sister is a teacher and it can be hard on her at times to be around this behavior. My cousin was sharing with her parents her salary and I told her to stop. She saw my point when she finally did and her dad said "how am I supposed to be proud of you if I don't know?" So sad. |
Anonymous
| No. My single, early-30s sister works a relatively low paying job (about $25-30K/year) in an area with a low COL, where we both grew up. She lives in a great 1 BR apartment in a highly desirable area, and pays about $650/month, everything included. She'd be astounded that DH and make what we do, though by DC standards (and compared to our friends) we're certainly nowhere close to wealthy - pretty solidly middle/upper-middle. We have a small townhouse in the suburbs that we bought before we married 10 years ago, so she'd have no sense from that what our HHI actually is. I'd tell her if she ever asked, simply because I wouldn't want her to think I was trying to hide it from her or be dishonest with her, but she'd never ask. |
Anonymous
| Their assets don't belong to me, their bills ain't my problem - so nope, can't say that we talk about income, either. And even if we did, so what? Why would I care, why would they care? |
Anonymous
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Yikes.
I wouldn't, income is so volatile too. Hope you don't get dumped on with all the future elderly care, gifts, etc. then again, if you and your husband work in a industry where it is relatively easy to guess what you're paid in a urban area, she should get over it. Just continue to work hard, save your money, and focus on your spouse and kids. There will always be people making more or less that you. SIL needs to grow up if she continues to make snarky remarks about your successes. |
Anonymous
| Both are feds so it's easy to guess. They just have to look it up on the GS chart. Almost even so it's no big deal. |
Anonymous
Ugh, my husbands european family thinks we're loaded because we have a single family home with a basement (they never saw one of these before). Now they like to fly over for weeks and eat us out of house and home, rationalizing that we have 'so much income and savings'. Too bad we both work our butts off to pay grad school loans and childcare. They didn't have either of those, and grandma never worked a FT job. I'd avoid specifics. Ad if you have to say something, be sure to add in cost of living and the high tax rates. |
Anonymous
| Noooooo! Both my family and my husband's live in places where the COL is very, very low. And they all operate with the belief that even people with a HHI just half (or less) than ours are a different species than them. We are the same people we always have been, but if our families knew our HHI it would change our relationships and put a distance between us. |
Anonymous
| No. My brother isn't doing well so why would I want to rub it in his face? |
Anonymous
| No. We don't talk about it with anyone but our accountant. |
Anonymous
| Yes; I think my younger brothers and I roughly know one another's incomes. I'm a physician and they're bankers - we all find it ironic that I make so much less than them. |
Anonymous
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No. F*cking. Way. |
Anonymous
| No, I would never tell them. |
Anonymous
You'd think that with all that education and success at least ONE of you would know the meaning of "ironic." |