Are there any moms here that didn't breastfeed?

[Anonymous]

What I find so sad about a mentality that is often projected on DCUM is how mothers who didn't breastfeed for medical reasons feel like they have to defend themselves. I'm one of them. It sucks. Clearly there is another PP on here who feels like she has to defend the fact that her baby has formula. My son, thankfully, was never so bad that he wound up in the hospital. There is a PP on another thread who is literally killing herself because of her elimination diet in order to continue breastfeeding her baby. She has heart palpitations and her baby is still vomiting. I swear those of us who formula feed need to walk around with signs around our neck explaining the situation so you breastfeeding whacks don't judge us.

I guess I"m a horrible mother that I'd rather give my son formula than watch him scream in pain, vomit, and have explosive diarrhea.

And yes, if I seem touchy, I am. I'm just sick of all these posts that are only written so someone can try to feel superior.

[Anonymous]

My mom didn't breastfeed me, and I'm fine. Same with my 2 siblings. (We are all in our 30s, no major issues, didn't get sick more than other kids.)

My partner also was not breastfed. And he's fine. Again, no major issues, no major illnesses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not a cow.

I needed heavy duty meds due to serious complications during the delivery.

My milk never came in.

Baby had such a severe milk protein allergy that he ended up being hospitalized for a week after he was born and the docs put him on special prescription formula to stop the nonstop explosive diarrhea that caused him to drop two pounds within days of his birth.

Any of these satisfy you, OP? Or am I a horrible mom because I didn't BF?

There are tons of reasons why women can't or choose not to BF.

So mothers who BF are cows? Don't be so defensive. I get that it's hard because of all the BFing zealots, but you don't have to make the same mistakes as the other side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Child #1 was adopted as an older infant.

Child #2 couldn't latch so I exclusively pumped for a year.

Whenever I hear stories like this, I want to give people like you a prize. There should be a exclusively pumping prize.

[Anonymous]

Geez, PP...it's a joke! Actually, one of my friends used to say it all the time when nosy colleagues used to bring up the whole BFing thing. When people asked if she planned to BF (which is a really personal question) at work in font of others, she would dramatically say, "oh Hell no! Do I look like a cow?!" And everyone would laugh. Some people actually have a sense of humor. And I purposely led off my laundry list of reasons with that one, so please chill.

[Anonymous]

I was on a medication that passes into the breast milk. Research, my doctor, my babies ped and my OB advised against breast feeding.

I'm wondering why we need another "defend yourself on why you FF" post as we already have one going. Thanks for this OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Child #1 was adopted as an older infant.

Child #2 couldn't latch so I exclusively pumped for a year.

Whenever I hear stories like this, I want to give people like you a prize. There should be a exclusively pumping prize.

Oh, I got a prize alright...as I sat in my chair pumping at midnight for months, staring at my peacefully snoring husband, I formulated my prize- an antique 3 stone diamond ring. Originally I was going to pump for 9 months so I figured the 3 stones represented multiples of 9 months...and then found I couldn't quit, but i got my ring, damn it!!

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I hated it. It was constant, painful, and just not for me. I switched to formula after 2 weeks for DC #1. For DC #2, I didn't even try.

[Anonymous]

Plus, if the BFing nazis can call me a selfish/bad mom for not BFing, then I feel comfortable poking fun at this ridiculous mommy wars debate by making a joke about cows. Lighten up. It's not a literal statement. In fact, I'm fairly adept at distinguishing between people and cows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Child #1 was adopted as an older infant.

Child #2 couldn't latch so I exclusively pumped for a year.

Whenever I hear stories like this, I want to give people like you a prize. There should be a exclusively pumping prize.

Oh, I got a prize alright...as I sat in my chair pumping at midnight for months, staring at my peacefully snoring husband, I formulated my prize- an antique 3 stone diamond ring. Originally I was going to pump for 9 months so I figured the 3 stones represented multiples of 9 months...and then found I couldn't quit, but i got my ring, damn it!!

I think I know you!

Don't know why I didn't notice it before.....K!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was on a medication that passes into the breast milk. Research, my doctor, my babies ped and my OB advised against breast feeding.

I'm wondering why we need another "defend yourself on why you FF" post as we already have one going. Thanks for this OP.

I didn't realize there was already one going. I'll ask Jeff to close this thread. Thanks for letting me know!

[Anonymous]

I had twins and its was an effing nightmare. Pumped for 8 miserable weeks - moved right along to formula.

[Anonymous]

Wow! The OP just admitted her motivation for starting this thread! Yikes.

[Anonymous]

Love the cow comment. I had a friend who said that exact same thing with child number one. Now she has 4 kids and BF 3 and 4 because of the cost and convenience. She wishes she had saved the money with the first two.

We adopted DD at 30 days so used formula. Not gonna lie though, if i had had a baby biologically i dont think I would have BF either, pumped maybe, but not BF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I did not produce milk. I have no worries about it though. I was advised by a lactation consultant not to BF.

I BF'd #1 - who does not seem much more special than #2.

Not producing milk in itself is very rare. Producing milk for one child but not another is almost unheard of. This is exceedingly, exceedingly rare.

Not the person you quoted but my milk never came in either. Not a drop. I don't care if it is rare. It happened to me.