Just found out I am pregnant. Quit my job that I dislike?

[Anonymous]

OP, either go part time, or make sure you have some other project to work on so you're not hanging out at home doing nothing. Can you do a short term consulting project? A volunteer project? Supervise a home improvement project?

[Anonymous]

Yes, try asking for pt

[Anonymous]

Can you plan our exit, downshift how seriously you take work and look around for another job? Yes, you will have to disclose your pregnancy after getting an offerand comeup with a start date plan, etc.

Or you can plow through and find a new job during mat leave?

Oryes, you can just quit and look for a job in 12 months or so, after being out of the market. depends on your profession (are you losing clients, transactions, etc.)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just found out that I am pregnant. I've been at my current job 2.5 years and it is very stressful, I dread going in every day and many days it makes me feel miserable. We don't need my income. I enjoy being a professional but I'm not sure the stress is worth it given that I will have a high risk pregnancy. I am already feeling morning sickness which is making work much more miserable. I've been thinking about asking to go part time instead of quitting, but I am worried of my boss's reaction, and how upset they will be about going part-time. Not sure what to do, this has been weighing on my mind.

I don't get it OP? You've been at this job for 2+ years and you're miserable and stressed and you don't need the $$? So why didn't you quit sooner?? Pregnancy or not? And why would you go PT if you plain just don't like it? Do you honestly think working less hours will make it that much more bearable?

Not sure what's keeping you from walking away? If you like being a professional there are other options - continuous ed., attending your field's annual conferences, tutoring (for example, if you're a chemist or something along the lines),

[Anonymous]

How secure is your husbands job? I find many women believe they don't need their own incomes...until they need their own incomes. The economy has been, and continues to be, brutal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just found out that I am pregnant. I've been at my current job 2.5 years and it is very stressful, I dread going in every day and many days it makes me feel miserable. We don't need my income. I enjoy being a professional but I'm not sure the stress is worth it given that I will have a high risk pregnancy. I am already feeling morning sickness which is making work much more miserable. I've been thinking about asking to go part time instead of quitting, but I am worried of my boss's reaction, and how upset they will be about going part-time. Not sure what to do, this has been weighing on my mind.

I don't get it OP? You've been at this job for 2+ years and you're miserable and stressed and you don't need the $$? So why didn't you quit sooner?? Pregnancy or not? And why would you go PT if you plain just don't like it? Do you honestly think working less hours will make it that much more bearable?

Not sure what's keeping you from walking away? If you like being a professional there are other options - continuous ed., attending your field's annual conferences, tutoring (for example, if you're a chemist or something along the lines),

OP here. Yup, that's right--miserable and stressed in this job for more than two years. Why I didn't quit sooner is because jobs in my field are hard to come by. This is a good job, even if it does make me miserable and stressed. If I quit, then it's likely I will not be able to find this good of a job again. I do think working less hours will make it more bearable.

[Anonymous]

Definitely try for part time before quitting!!

[Anonymous]

Are you definitely planning on being a SAHM after the baby comes? And you have all your ducks in a row for that financially, career-wise, retirement-wise, etc.? If yes to both, definitely quit and enjoy your pregnancy. But if there's any chance you might want to go back to this or any job, I would stick it out. As unpleasant as it can be, a bad job is not really the type of stress that can harm your baby.

[Anonymous]

Most of the parents I know in your situation had one parent quit or go part time AND had a fulltime nanny/housekeeper AND/OR had quit a bit of ongoing family support. Honestly, of the ones that both stayed fulltime in 60+ hours careers, most are divorced or divorcing.

[Anonymous]

Ignore above post, it should have gone into a different thread.

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Anonymous wrote:I did at 3 months pregnant. Didnt need the income and had insurance through my husband. One of the best decisions I've ever made. I did some volunteer work in my field and did a couple continuing education classes through a local hospital

I am so unbelievably jealous of you. I technically was in the same position with re: to not needing income or insurance but my husband wasn't supportive of me SAH.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't quit, but I'm biased in that my mind cannot comprehend a young person not working before they have kids. I would stick it out at least part time to save money and to stay in the job market in case you want to continue working in the next couple of years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you definitely planning on being a SAHM after the baby comes? And you have all your ducks in a row for that financially, career-wise, retirement-wise, etc.? If yes to both, definitely quit and enjoy your pregnancy. But if there's any chance you might want to go back to this or any job, I would stick it out. As unpleasant as it can be, a bad job is not really the type of stress that can harm your baby.

Stress does harm a developing baby. I thought everyone knew that. Of course it's impossible to know the exact extent. OP, why not doing something you enjoy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't quit, but I'm biased in that my mind cannot comprehend a young person not working before they have kids. I would stick it out at least part time to save money and to stay in the job market in case you want to continue working in the next couple of years.

Why not? Nothing wrong with being a stay at home wife (no kids). I was a stay at home wife for awhile and it was way more interesting than my boring job that I have now, and I actually had time to do things.

[Anonymous]

I'd stick it out. Work changes dramatically when you announce your pregnancy because people are so afraid of a lawsuit. You may find it much more bearable at that point, I did. Plus like others said things can unfortunately go wrong in a pregnancy and if that happens you might want this job. I would be clear with them that it is a high risk pregnancy and you need some accommodations.