"Tangled" the movie- negative theme re: adoption?

[Anonymous]

On a related note, why are Disney movies always missing the mother? Beauty and the Beast (no mom), The Little Mermaid (no mom), Aladdin (no mom), Cinderella (evil step-mom), Snow White (evil step-mom). I suppose a few of them have moms - Peter Pan (gratuitous parents), Sleeping Beauty (although Aurora is raised by "aunts"), The Lion King (real parents, but of course, they were lions). What's the deal with that?

[Anonymous]

Take a look at the Common Sense Media review (if you haven't already). Be sure to also read the "User Reviews".

http://www.commonsensemedia.org/movie-reviews/tangled

[Anonymous]

My opinion- A lot of adults are really bad about over thinking things. Sometimes a movie really is just a movie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:9:18 is the crazy one.

I'm with OP. I'd rather get a review from other parents than have to watch an entire movie myself before my child sees it. It's a better use of OP's time to come here than spend two hours unnecessarily. And I for one am glad OP asked because I don't want my children to have a negative view of adoption either.

Okay. I'm capable of reading an online synopsis for a basic storyline, but whatever. OP could have spent two minutes on Wikipedia to dispel her friends misinformation.

What I'm reacting to is the utter gullability of some people and the tendency to falsely read into things based on your personal biases.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My opinion- A lot of adults are really bad about over thinking things. Sometimes a movie really is just a movie.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:9:18 is the crazy one.

I'm with OP. I'd rather get a review from other parents than have to watch an entire movie myself before my child sees it. It's a better use of OP's time to come here than spend two hours unnecessarily. And I for one am glad OP asked because I don't want my children to have a negative view of adoption either.

Okay. I'm capable of reading an online synopsis for a basic storyline, but whatever. OP could have spent two minutes on Wikipedia to dispel her friends misinformation.

What I'm reacting to is the utter gullability of some people and the tendency to falsely read into things based on your personal biases.

But OP wasn't gullible, even if you think her friends were. She decided to get more info. Online synopsis can be wrong or gloss over small parts. Your preference for an online synopsis over OP's preference for getting thoughts from multiple parents is the better choice, it's your choice.

[Anonymous]

Isn't the better choice. Isn't not is.

[Anonymous]

I am an adult adoptee and while I don't have an issue as the evil hag presented as the real mom because I'm an adult, I would just exercise caution with a young adoptee. If you don't have adopted children, then you may not be as sensitive to such an issue, or you probably don't even see an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am an adult adoptee and while I don't have an issue as the evil hag presented as the real mom because I'm an adult, I would just exercise caution with a young adoptee. If you don't have adopted children, then you may not be as sensitive to such an issue, or you probably don't even see an issue.

Have you seen the movie? How is this an issue? You explain to your child that kidnapping and adoption are vastly different. Where is the problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am an adult adoptee and while I don't have an issue as the evil hag presented as the real mom because I'm an adult, I would just exercise caution with a young adoptee. If you don't have adopted children, then you may not be as sensitive to such an issue, or you probably don't even see an issue.

+1. Not sure why people are being so mean and dismissive. Kids think differently and adoption IS complex-- I'm not an adoptive mom, but I can understand given all the issues around adoption why a parent would be sensitive about it, and I can imagine a young girl in a snit yelling that her mom is an evil thief and her real mom wouldn't do ___.

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Anonymous wrote:You heard wrong - Mother Gothel kidnaps Rapunzel as a baby. Definitely not adoption!

Its an adorable movie - my 3 year old is crazy for it.

+1. Seriously, it's called Google.

OP here. In my defense, I've heard mixed reviews from other adoptive parents so I thought I would open up the question to non-adoptive parents to get their opinions.

Well, I'm sorry, but your adoptive parent friends are reading something into the movie based on their own experiences and personal sensitivities that just isn't there. An evil hag who kidnaps a baby is not an adoptive mother, and there is no way to read the story otherwise. End of discussion. Make your own assessments; stop relying on totally unfounded heresy from others to make basic parenting decisions.

OP here. I'm trying to make my own assessments, which is why I asked this question here, right? Sheesh.

No you're not. You're being lazy. Google the damn movie synopsis and you will see that you have nothing to worry about. What do you want us to tell you? Your friends are nuts and plain wrong.

Take a chill pill!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an adult adoptee and while I don't have an issue as the evil hag presented as the real mom because I'm an adult, I would just exercise caution with a young adoptee. If you don't have adopted children, then you may not be as sensitive to such an issue, or you probably don't even see an issue.

+1. Not sure why people are being so mean and dismissive. Kids think differently and adoption IS complex-- I'm not an adoptive mom, but I can understand given all the issues around adoption why a parent would be sensitive about it, and I can imagine a young girl in a snit yelling that her mom is an evil thief and her real mom wouldn't do ___.

+2 from an adoptive mom

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am an adult adoptee and while I don't have an issue as the evil hag presented as the real mom because I'm an adult, I would just exercise caution with a young adoptee. If you don't have adopted children, then you may not be as sensitive to such an issue, or you probably don't even see an issue.

Have you seen the movie? How is this an issue? You explain to your child that kidnapping and adoption are vastly different. Where is the problem?

I'm not saying it WILL be an issue, I'm saying to prepare yourself that it COULD be. You know, there are a lot of people out there who think adoption IS kidnapping. Adoptive parents have been described as baby snatchers or baby thieves. And to a young child who is still processing it, it wouldn't be unheard of for a child to turn to her adoptive parents and ask if she'd been stolen like that too. Or for a child to question the permanency of adoption- will I be returned to my "real parents" if I mess up, etc.

All I'm saying is it's better to be prepared than not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, there's no adoption in the movie. But Rapunzel grows up thinking that the evil hag kidnapper is her mother, which gives it an uncomfortable undertone.

No it doesn't it's your typical good versus evil. If you can't handle that storyline it's best to never watch a movie ever.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, there's no adoption in the movie. But Rapunzel grows up thinking that the evil hag kidnapper is her mother, which gives it an uncomfortable undertone.

No it doesn't it's your typical good versus evil. If you can't handle that storyline it's best to never watch a movie ever.

Did you invest your entire retirement fund in the after run profits of Tangled?