DH's intimacy issues - need perspective

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks all - the perspectives are useful to hear, especially from those of you who struggle with this yourselves or with your partner. Yes, past abuse has crossed my mind, but even if I was more confident that was the issue, I wouldn't know what to do about it. Given his introversion, and what others have expressed here, I think it's just as likely that it's just who he is. It's helpful to know I'm not the only one in this situation.

Yes, I knew this about him before we married, and had some reservations - which we discussed at the time, and those discussions are part of the reason I think he'd be open to therapy if I pushed for it now. It wasn't a deal-breaker then though, and I don't regret marrying him now. If there were ways to resolve some of our differences in this realm though -- either on his end, or on mine -- I think our marriage could only be stronger, which is the reason I posted. It helps to identify other ways he expresses his love for me, , but I sure do get sick of having to be a mind reader all the time and I don't think it's unreasonable to assume that a husband should bear some of the burden in making sure the sex is good for both partners.