Why is it so hard to get an interview or hired?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. MY DH was unemployed for one whole year. He had 20 yrs experience in his field. Highly respected, well-liked by all past employers....all of whom would line up for the oppty to give him a reference.
He had a mortgage, wife and three kids to support. His income went from $200k to $18k. THAT was hard. He had so many phone interviews, about 10 face to face, spent day and night networking while I went back to work. I tell you this to help give you perspective on your situation. No matter what you're going thru, there is always someone out there suffering 10xs worse.

Boo hoo hoo. If you made 200k then you shouldn't have lived like you made 300k. There should be plenty in the bank. Try making 40k then going down to 18k and then I will applaud your efforts and sympathize with your sob story.

Where does it say in the post that her and her DH lived like they made $300K. Was it because they have a mortgage and she was a SAHM (before she went back to work) and they had 3 kids. Her post says nothing about having excessive debt. Was the snarky response really necessary? Did it make you feel better?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to network, network, network. And look outside the DC region for jobs, if you're not already doing this.

I thought DC was the best market in the country.

I use to think so...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. MY DH was unemployed for one whole year. He had 20 yrs experience in his field. Highly respected, well-liked by all past employers....all of whom would line up for the oppty to give him a reference.
He had a mortgage, wife and three kids to support. His income went from $200k to $18k. THAT was hard. He had so many phone interviews, about 10 face to face, spent day and night networking while I went back to work. I tell you this to help give you perspective on your situation. No matter what you're going thru, there is always someone out there suffering 10xs worse.

Boo hoo hoo. If you made 200k then you shouldn't have lived like you made 300k. There should be plenty in the bank. Try making 40k then going down to 18k and then I will applaud your efforts and sympathize with your sob story.

Where does it say in the post that her and her DH lived like they made $300K. Was it because they have a mortgage and she was a SAHM (before she went back to work) and they had 3 kids. Her post says nothing about having excessive debt. Was the snarky response really necessary? Did it make you feel better?

This is the PP who's DH made $200K. Where where WHERE did you read that we lived like we made $300K? WTF? Job loss is difficult no matter how much money you were making, what an angry and random thing to say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
This is the PP who's DH made $200K. Where where WHERE did you read that we lived like we made $300K? WTF? Job loss is difficult no matter how much money you were making, what an angry and random thing to say.

OK, I let this go the first time, but since you repeat it:

It is whose, not who's. Who's is a contraction of "who has" or "who is". Whose is the possessive.

[Anonymous]

Bottom line - when someone asks a job-related question and a woman responds talking about her husband's job/income, especially when inferring that her husbands job matters more bc he has a wife "to support" (gross), it's not received we'll on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

and so how does a SAHM mom describe the fact that she is not bringing in an income and DH is the sole income earner YOU FUCKER?!?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: it's not received we'll on DCUM.

Another one to explain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: it's not received we'll on DCUM.

Another one to explain.

I'll handle this one. Allow me to retype this sentence on my iPhone, and allow autocorrect to do its magic:

Not received we'll on DCUM

Well look at that! Perhaps you could find a more productive contribution to the conversation than editing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boo hoo hoo. If you made 200k then you shouldn't have lived like you made 300k. There should be plenty in the bank. Try making 40k then going down to 18k and then I will applaud your efforts and sympathize with your sob story.

Seriously, this kind of comment is infuriating. The cost of living is so high in DC. With student loans (as the OP explained she has) and the exorbitant rent in this region, it's hard to save money.

I'm also getting tired of this "well, you think you have it bad, ..." Why can't people just have empathy? The OP is frustrated because she's trying to find a job in what should be a fairly solid field (she took out loans to get an education in that field), and she's frustrated.

Why can't people be supportive sometimes and give words of encouragement? There's no indication from her post that she lived like she made 300k.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boo hoo hoo. If you made 200k then you shouldn't have lived like you made 300k. There should be plenty in the bank. Try making 40k then going down to 18k and then I will applaud your efforts and sympathize with your sob story.

Seriously, this kind of comment is infuriating. The cost of living is so high in DC. With student loans (as the OP explained she has) and the exorbitant rent in this region, it's hard to save money.

I'm also getting tired of this "well, you think you have it bad, ..." Why can't people just have empathy? The OP is frustrated because she's trying to find a job in what should be a fairly solid field (she took out loans to get an education in that field), and she's frustrated.

Why can't people be supportive sometimes and give words of encouragement? There's no indication from her post that she lived like she made 300k.

Okay, I just realized this post was referring to another post, not the OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:and so how does a SAHM mom describe the fact that she is not bringing in an income and DH is the sole income earner YOU FUCKER?!?!

Uh, what? Hit up the meds, leech.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boo hoo hoo. If you made 200k then you shouldn't have lived like you made 300k. There should be plenty in the bank. Try making 40k then going down to 18k and then I will applaud your efforts and sympathize with your sob story.

Seriously, this kind of comment is infuriating. The cost of living is so high in DC. With student loans (as the OP explained she has) and the exorbitant rent in this region, it's hard to save money.

I'm also getting tired of this "well, you think you have it bad, ..." Why can't people just have empathy? The OP is frustrated because she's trying to find a job in what should be a fairly solid field (she took out loans to get an education in that field), and she's frustrated.
Why can't people be supportive sometimes and give words of encouragement? There's no indication from her post that she lived like she made 300k.

Thank you!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to network, network, network. And look outside the DC region for jobs, if you're not already doing this.

The only issue with this is DH works and I have a child. Even if I were to get a job offer in another area, I couldn't just expect my family to pack up and move.

[Anonymous]

Not to change the subject back to what op originally asked but I think you also need to reach back out to these companies that you are sending your résumé to. Hey get so many resumes and you need to do something to set yourself apart. Also, try LinkedIn to connect with other people at these organizations. It an only help.

It's hard but you can do it!

[Anonymous]

If DH sees a job he likes, he applies through the normal process. He then also searches Linkedin to find someone who can introduce him to anyone at the company, who then might be able to speak with him on the phone or in person (he does coffee/breakfast at least a few times per week) about the company (and so far, he has not received a "no") and then asks that person to fwd his resume to the hiring manager (also has not received a "no").

Its obviously no guarantee than he'll get a job or even an interview, but it does substantially increase the chances of his resume being seen amongst the piles they get. And if there are multiple people at the company who can send your resume along and can say they met you and you were a good/nice person, chances skyrocket.