What to do when you don't like your DD's choice of friend?

[Anonymous]

My DD wanted to go off to the mall with a friend I thought was slutty. I let her go. The friend was using her to meet boys at the mall, and fooled around with 2, ditching my DD. She had a miserable time. We talked about it after DD finished pouting. "How did you feel when she abandoned you? When you agreed to go to the mall with her, what did you think your afternoon would be like? What do you wish your friend would have done instead? What do you intend to say to your friend about it?"

BTDT! Wow, it made me angry! You handled it well

[Anonymous]

Older kids set their own schedules and choose their own sports, activities and so on. It is hard to control them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a friend from 13-15 who I was told I couldnt see.

She was sweet and fun, but really messed up - came from an abusive household, parents on drugs, liar, ran away from her grandmother, and was very promiscuous.

My parents didnt know all the details but they didnt like what they did know and did not allow me to see her. I snuck out to see her as often as possible and did things I would not have done with my other friends, but also felt like I was the only sane thing in her life.

Eventually she got involved with a very possessive boyfriend who didnt allow her to see me. She was pregnant at 16 and we stopped talking shortly after that. It was too late for me in some respects, as I became involved with a guy that I would never have encountered but for her.

I'll never know if my parents did the right thing, but I always think that if they had allowed me to spend time with her, but at our house or under more supervised circumstances, I wouldnt have gotten into the situations that I did because I had to sneak around.

What situations and who was the guy you got involved with? Someone from the wrong tracks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a friend from 13-15 who I was told I couldnt see.

She was sweet and fun, but really messed up - came from an abusive household, parents on drugs, liar, ran away from her grandmother, and was very promiscuous.

My parents didnt know all the details but they didnt like what they did know and did not allow me to see her. I snuck out to see her as often as possible and did things I would not have done with my other friends, but also felt like I was the only sane thing in her life.

Eventually she got involved with a very possessive boyfriend who didnt allow her to see me. She was pregnant at 16 and we stopped talking shortly after that. It was too late for me in some respects, as I became involved with a guy that I would never have encountered but for her.

I'll never know if my parents did the right thing, but I always think that if they had allowed me to spend time with her, but at our house or under more supervised circumstances, I wouldnt have gotten into the situations that I did because I had to sneak around.

What situations and who was the guy you got involved with? Someone from the wrong tracks?

Your mom tried to help you, but you knew best. Typical teenager. That is why parents are so protective.