PSA

[Anonymous]

A friend has her college sophomore DD email her papers to her. Mom edits, rewrites, corrects, etc., and emails paper back to DD. Unbelievable.

[Anonymous]

Omg. My mom stopped checking my homework in 6th grade. After that, I was on my own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend has her college sophomore DD email her papers to her. Mom edits, rewrites, corrects, etc., and emails paper back to DD. Unbelievable.

Isn't this a violation of the college's code of ethics? Someone I know was nearly thrown out of law school because she didn't appreciate the no help with editing from others policy.

[Anonymous]

Can you imagine being in college or law school and asking your mom to help with your work?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine being in college or law school and asking your mom to help with your work?

I'm guessing helicopter parents tell their kids to send assignments to them for help, review and approval.

[Anonymous]

My FIL still helicopters around my 40 something BIL, and tries to get DH to participate as well. BIL has a work crisis, and it's conference calls to "help Dan." Thank goodness DH figured out that his father's professional advice usually is inappropriate (what, you got a bad performance review? take it over your supervisor's head! They're out to get you!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend has her college sophomore DD email her papers to her. Mom edits, rewrites, corrects, etc., and emails paper back to DD. Unbelievable.

I have a coworker who not only edits her daughter's college papers, but she types them, too. (daughter attends a nearby university)

[Anonymous]

Today was the entrance exam for School Without Walls.

I was surprised that the check in line was so long but then I realized that it was filled with parents, not just students. My eight grader waited on his own, just with his friend, they had their ID's and their invitation letter and are perfectly capable of saying their names and showing their ID.

After seeing all the parents standing in line, I waited around to see if I was supposed to do something (sign a form, etc) but only the kids went to the testing room and my kid successfully checked in without me doing or saying anything.

Maybe Walls is not for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Helicoptering toddlers and elementary aged kids is one thing, but continuing to do so for kids in college and grad school is just crazy.

They're the same parents. The ones who hover always hover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister recently conducted a phone interview. As she finished the discussion, she had already written down "hire" on his résumé when she asked "do you have any additional questions". The candidate said "no, but my mother has been listening in and has some questions." And the mom proceeded to ask questions. Because of this, the candidate wasn't hired. Based on college graduate he was mid-20s and this would have been his second job out of college.

Liar. Hire after a phone interview? Yeah, right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister recently conducted a phone interview. As she finished the discussion, she had already written down "hire" on his résumé when she asked "do you have any additional questions". The candidate said "no, but my mother has been listening in and has some questions." And the mom proceeded to ask questions. Because of this, the candidate wasn't hired. Based on college graduate he was mid-20s and this would have been his second job out of college.

Liar. Hire after a phone interview? Yeah, right.

I know people who were hired based on a phone interview. And others who have been made offers without any interviews.

[Anonymous]

I've been hired after a phone interview.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's happening, colleges are forcing parents to leave campus.

OP, my high school student handles all internship, etc., tasks. I butt out.

It's true. NYTimes did a big story about it a few years back, although the colleges call it "velcro parenting" which made me laugh. The colleges can't get rid of the parents! The parents fuss about the dorms and roommate selection. They try to insert themselves into the class selection process. One dean complained in the article that parents wanted to attend the first round of classes to make sure Suzy was in the right courses. One Ivy mentioned (can't remember name) said they instigated a 24 hour rule. Dorms open. Parents have to be gone by COB the next day. Too many parents were coming into town, taking a week at the local hotels and enjoying themselves and the colleges found it very disruptive.

[Anonymous]

OP -- when I read your post I thought you meant it was someone you knew who was writing, and my thought was -- so what? But, that is weird for a stranger to write in behalf of their child.

I'm a lawyer and a college career director here in DC. Trust me, I've seen everything. Moms + dads doing all of the talking for graduate student kids. One dad asked me seriously about how to advise his kid to become the President of the U.S. -- (he asked what activities he should belong to and what religion he should join!).

I try to remember that the economy is very tough and that kids have been raised differently nowadays. So, I'm used to it and don't hold it against them. I'm a believer in karma and hope someone will help my own college aged child someday.