Husband drove home drunk

[Anonymous]

Buy him one of these for Christmas ... ?

http://www.amazon.com/b?ie=UTF8&node=15992781

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thank you everyone, for sharing your advice and stories. I know how dangerous and reckless and stupid he was. This morning I told him that if anything like this ever happens again, he will be moving out. I told him that our daughter and I deserve better than a husband and father who would so carelessly risk the lives of others, or risk his own life, to drive drunk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband drove home drunk, was unsteady on his feet as he kissed our DC goodnight, and then passed out on the couch. I'm so angry that I can't see straight and wonder if I'm crazy for not kicking him out. This is the first time he's driven drunk in years, but he does have a tendency to get completely hammered at least once every couple of years (so intoxicated that I don't want our kid to see him). He does not drink to such extremes on a regular basis. Of course, it's the holidays so we have a lot of things going on, ranging from Christmas at his parents' house to family staying with us next week. What the hell am I supposed to do with this?

Report him to the police. He could have killed someone.

[Anonymous]

Trauma RN. He's an idiot. Major major idiot.

[Anonymous]

How did he respond, OP?

[Anonymous]

Show your DH this thread, OP.
Drunk drivers are murderers, in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

OP, I know some people would disagree with me, but I believe it is never acceptable to deliberately get drunk to excess. Harming one's body, placing oneself in harm's way, and placing others in harm's way are all wrong.

Why is it important to your husband to get totally trashed sometimes? He knows full well how wrong it is to drink and drive. What is so important to him about the experience of getting drunk that he is willing to do something (else) that is objectively wrong?

That should be your focus. I'm glad you gave him a scolding, but if you want to help him choose to change his life, you need to understand the nature of the choice he is making.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I know some people would disagree with me, but I believe it is never acceptable to deliberately get drunk to excess. Harming one's body, placing oneself in harm's way, and placing others in harm's way are all wrong.

Why is it important to your husband to get totally trashed sometimes? He knows full well how wrong it is to drink and drive. What is so important to him about the experience of getting drunk that he is willing to do something (else) that is objectively wrong?

That should be your focus. I'm glad you gave him a scolding, but if you want to help him choose to change his life, you need to understand the nature of the choice he is making.

Excellent post. You've put into words exactly what I was thinking.

[Anonymous]

I don't know if the cops can do anything when he's already home. But I would call them next time. Make a BIG scene.

[Anonymous]

over xmas heard the story of a dad who drank one too many, killed someone and is in jail for 10 years,missing out on the lives of his 2 young kids. 2 families destroyed. Made me think about driving after even one glass of wine....not going to do it.