Any wives ignore the mistress?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't exactly say "ignore", but my DH had an ongoing relationship for several years with a woman in another country. Once I found out about it, I was clear that it had to end, but wasn't willing to break up our family while he worked through it (so maybe a bit like the Surviving Infidelity philosophy the pp mentioned). I also come from a spiritual tradition that strongly supports working it out in most cases. I'd say my stance has been to fight for my marriage and family. It definitely hasn't been easy and our relationship is still a bit rocky, but we're still together and I think we're making baby steps forward, slowly.

Almost no one knows about our situation though because it's very difficult for people to understand. If your friend is trying to fight for her husband/family, try to be supportive even if it's something you wouldn't be able to do. It take more strength than you know.

How long has it been since you found out? Did the affair end? When did the affair end? How long did the affair end?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't exactly say "ignore", but my DH had an ongoing relationship for several years with a woman in another country. Once I found out about it, I was clear that it had to end, but wasn't willing to break up our family while he worked through it (so maybe a bit like the Surviving Infidelity philosophy the pp mentioned). I also come from a spiritual tradition that strongly supports working it out in most cases. I'd say my stance has been to fight for my marriage and family. It definitely hasn't been easy and our relationship is still a bit rocky, but we're still together and I think we're making baby steps forward, slowly.

Almost no one knows about our situation though because it's very difficult for people to understand. If your friend is trying to fight for her husband/family, try to be supportive even if it's something you wouldn't be able to do. It take more strength than you know.

How long has it been since you found out? Did the affair end? When did the affair end? How long did the affair end?

Jeez, does every post turn into an 'ask me anything' interrogation now?

[Anonymous]

I'm curious too.

[Anonymous]

A husband and wife were having dinner at a very fine restaurant when this absolutely stunning young woman comes over to their table, gives the husband a big french kiss, then says she'll see him later and walks away.

The wife glares at her husband and says, "Who the hell was that?"

"Oh," replies the husband, "she's my mistress."

"Well, that's the last straw," says the wife. "I've had enough. I want a divorce!"

I can understand that," replies her husband, "but remember, if we get a divorce it will mean no more shopping trips to Paris, no more wintering in Barbados, no more summers in Tuscany, no more Infiniti or Lexus in the garage and no more yacht club. But the decision is yours."

Just then, a mutual friend enters the restaurant with a gorgeous babe on his arm.

"Who's that woman with Jim?" asks the wife.

"That's his mistress," says her husband.

"Ours is prettier," she replies.

[Anonymous]

A husband and wife were having dinner at a very fine restaurant when this absolutely stunning young woman comes over to their table, gives the husband a big french kiss, then says she'll see him later and walks away.

The wife glares at her husband and says, "Who the hell was that?"

"Oh," replies the husband, "she's my mistress."

"Well, that's the last straw," says the wife. "I've had enough. I want a divorce!"

I can understand that," replies her husband, "but remember, if we get a divorce it will mean no more shopping trips to Paris, no more wintering in Barbados, no more summers in Tuscany, no more Infiniti or Lexus in the garage and no more yacht club. But the decision is yours."

Just then, a mutual friend enters the restaurant with a gorgeous babe on his arm.

"Who's that woman with Jim?" asks the wife.

"That's his mistress," says her husband.

"Ours is prettier," she replies.

I find this joke appalling on a number of levels (the implication that wives are "kept," that men hold the economic power in a relationship, that luxury goods are the reason to excuse infidelity, etc).

[Anonymous]

PP, I agree, but some men think like that.

[Anonymous]

Appalling, but true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A husband and wife were having dinner at a very fine restaurant when this absolutely stunning young woman comes over to their table, gives the husband a big french kiss, then says she'll see him later and walks away.

The wife glares at her husband and says, "Who the hell was that?"

"Oh," replies the husband, "she's my mistress."

"Well, that's the last straw," says the wife. "I've had enough. I want a divorce!"

I can understand that," replies her husband, "but remember, if we get a divorce it will mean no more shopping trips to Paris, no more wintering in Barbados, no more summers in Tuscany, no more Infiniti or Lexus in the garage and no more yacht club. But the decision is yours."

Just then, a mutual friend enters the restaurant with a gorgeous babe on his arm.

"Who's that woman with Jim?" asks the wife.

"That's his mistress," says her husband.

"Ours is prettier," she replies.

+1 did you make that up yourself or find it online. It's hilarious. You should add in, "if you have sex then we'll drop the mistress."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

A husband and wife were having dinner at a very fine restaurant when this absolutely stunning young woman comes over to their table, gives the husband a big french kiss, then says she'll see him later and walks away.

The wife glares at her husband and says, "Who the hell was that?"

"Oh," replies the husband, "she's my mistress."

"Well, that's the last straw," says the wife. "I've had enough. I want a divorce!"

I can understand that," replies her husband, "but remember, if we get a divorce it will mean no more shopping trips to Paris, no more wintering in Barbados, no more summers in Tuscany, no more Infiniti or Lexus in the garage and no more yacht club. But the decision is yours."

Just then, a mutual friend enters the restaurant with a gorgeous babe on his arm.

"Who's that woman with Jim?" asks the wife.

"That's his mistress," says her husband.

"Ours is prettier," she replies.

I find this joke appalling on a number of levels (the implication that wives are "kept," that men hold the economic power in a relationship, that luxury goods are the reason to excuse infidelity, etc).

I thought it was pretty funny and reflects the truth of some marriages I know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't exactly say "ignore", but my DH had an ongoing relationship for several years with a woman in another country. Once I found out about it, I was clear that it had to end, but wasn't willing to break up our family while he worked through it (so maybe a bit like the Surviving Infidelity philosophy the pp mentioned). I also come from a spiritual tradition that strongly supports working it out in most cases. I'd say my stance has been to fight for my marriage and family. It definitely hasn't been easy and our relationship is still a bit rocky, but we're still together and I think we're making baby steps forward, slowly.

Almost no one knows about our situation though because it's very difficult for people to understand. If your friend is trying to fight for her husband/family, try to be supportive even if it's something you wouldn't be able to do. It take more strength than you know.

Mark & Jenny Sanford?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't exactly say "ignore", but my DH had an ongoing relationship for several years with a woman in another country. Once I found out about it, I was clear that it had to end, but wasn't willing to break up our family while he worked through it (so maybe a bit like the Surviving Infidelity philosophy the pp mentioned). I also come from a spiritual tradition that strongly supports working it out in most cases. I'd say my stance has been to fight for my marriage and family. It definitely hasn't been easy and our relationship is still a bit rocky, but we're still together and I think we're making baby steps forward, slowly.

Almost no one knows about our situation though because it's very difficult for people to understand. If your friend is trying to fight for her husband/family, try to be supportive even if it's something you wouldn't be able to do. It take more strength than you know.

How long has it been since you found out? Did the affair end? When did the affair end? How long did the affair end?

I found out 3 years ago and yes, the affair did eventually end. I will say that even though we're still together we both have doubts about whether we'll make it long term.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't exactly say "ignore", but my DH had an ongoing relationship for several years with a woman in another country. Once I found out about it, I was clear that it had to end, but wasn't willing to break up our family while he worked through it (so maybe a bit like the Surviving Infidelity philosophy the pp mentioned). I also come from a spiritual tradition that strongly supports working it out in most cases. I'd say my stance has been to fight for my marriage and family. It definitely hasn't been easy and our relationship is still a bit rocky, but we're still together and I think we're making baby steps forward, slowly.

Almost no one knows about our situation though because it's very difficult for people to understand. If your friend is trying to fight for her husband/family, try to be supportive even if it's something you wouldn't be able to do. It take more strength than you know.

Mark & Jenny Sanford?

Nope.

Kinda surprised that you'd post someone's first and last names on a forum like this. I'd be upset if it were my name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't exactly say "ignore", but my DH had an ongoing relationship for several years with a woman in another country. Once I found out about it, I was clear that it had to end, but wasn't willing to break up our family while he worked through it (so maybe a bit like the Surviving Infidelity philosophy the pp mentioned). I also come from a spiritual tradition that strongly supports working it out in most cases. I'd say my stance has been to fight for my marriage and family. It definitely hasn't been easy and our relationship is still a bit rocky, but we're still together and I think we're making baby steps forward, slowly.

Almost no one knows about our situation though because it's very difficult for people to understand. If your friend is trying to fight for her husband/family, try to be supportive even if it's something you wouldn't be able to do. It take more strength than you know.

Mark & Jenny Sanford?

Nope.

Kinda surprised that you'd post someone's first and last names on a forum like this. I'd be upset if it were my name.

Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't exactly say "ignore", but my DH had an ongoing relationship for several years with a woman in another country. Once I found out about it, I was clear that it had to end, but wasn't willing to break up our family while he worked through it (so maybe a bit like the Surviving Infidelity philosophy the pp mentioned). I also come from a spiritual tradition that strongly supports working it out in most cases. I'd say my stance has been to fight for my marriage and family. It definitely hasn't been easy and our relationship is still a bit rocky, but we're still together and I think we're making baby steps forward, slowly.

Almost no one knows about our situation though because it's very difficult for people to understand. If your friend is trying to fight for her husband/family, try to be supportive even if it's something you wouldn't be able to do. It take more strength than you know.

How long has it been since you found out? Did the affair end? When did the affair end? How long did the affair end?

I found out 3 years ago and yes, the affair did eventually end. I will say that even though we're still together we both have doubts about whether we'll make it long term.

How long did the affair last?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't exactly say "ignore", but my DH had an ongoing relationship for several years with a woman in another country. Once I found out about it, I was clear that it had to end, but wasn't willing to break up our family while he worked through it (so maybe a bit like the Surviving Infidelity philosophy the pp mentioned). I also come from a spiritual tradition that strongly supports working it out in most cases. I'd say my stance has been to fight for my marriage and family. It definitely hasn't been easy and our relationship is still a bit rocky, but we're still together and I think we're making baby steps forward, slowly.

Almost no one knows about our situation though because it's very difficult for people to understand. If your friend is trying to fight for her husband/family, try to be supportive even if it's something you wouldn't be able to do. It take more strength than you know.

Mark & Jenny Sanford?

Nope.

Kinda surprised that you'd post someone's first and last names on a forum like this. I'd be upset if it were my name.

You really walked into that one