how often do you google your ex?

[Anonymous]

so weekly/every 2 weeks is not normal,then. and that's only on my computer. who knows what he does on his...

thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:so weekly/every 2 weeks is not normal,then. and that's only on my computer. who knows what he does on his...

thanks.

No. That is definitely not normal. Get thee to a counselor!

[Anonymous]

Never.

[Anonymous]

ah..OP thanks for clarifying how often this is happening. yeah..that is not good...

[Anonymous]

Every once in a while I look up an ex who was the first guy I ever loved. A wonderful person but sadly he suffered from depression and it scared me, although he was getting treatment. I broke up with him.

He is married, has a beautiful child, and has had a reasonably good career so I am glad things seemed to have worked out for him.

[Anonymous]

One night I got a bit tipsy and googled all my exes (about 5 people) in one night. Embarrassing enough, one went to linkedin so I'm sure he knows. No more drinking alone at night for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One night I got a bit tipsy and googled all my exes (about 5 people) in one night. Embarrassing enough, one went to linkedin so I'm sure he knows. No more drinking alone at night for me.

"Embarrassingly"

[Anonymous]

Hmm. You google them? Just Facebook. Laugh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmm. You google them? Just Facebook. Laugh

Drunk googler here- tried that first, 4 out of 5 of them don't have FB accounts. We are in our early 40s now, might have been different if we were 10 years younger I suppose...

[Anonymous]

I'm happily married. I have never googled any exes.

[Anonymous]

How do you know how often he is googling them? From web history.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you know how often he is googling them? From web history.

That was supposed to be a question (?) at the end.

[Anonymous]

Not the OP, but if you are signed in to google, there is also a search history. Not many people know it's there.

[Anonymous]

It has never dawned one to google an ex, so no.

[Anonymous]

Google: never. Facebook... now that is a different story!

I'm facebook friends with 2 exes (and my DH, so he knows), and DH is FB friends with 2 of his exes too. We're both FB friends with the longest relationships we had before getting together with each other, and we're both ok with it. I'm even ok that one ex tries to flirt with him there, AS LONG as his responses are appropriate (or he ignores her), and it's always appropriate or no response.

Then I occaisionally (like, 3 x/year) check the FB pages (cuz they have a level of public or friends of friends access) of 2 of my other exes because they get hotter and hotter with the years passing. I have ZERO interest in reaching out to them - seriously. Over the years since we've split, they've each reached out to me to be friends (not FB friends, but actual friends, email, getting together) but I felt they handled our breakups badly and so I had no interest. But damn do they look good, so I figure no harm in checkin on them on FB and revelling in the fact that "Yeah, I had him at one point! Yesssssss!"

And while my DH and I definitely have some challenges, I'm 100% clear he's who I want to be with, so none of this threatens that, because if I wanted to be with some of these other guys, I could. But I would never want to hurt my marriage with that. I really do truly love my DH, and that is that.

One of my hot exes that I am FB friends with, he was literally the first FB friend request I got when I set up my acct. It took me 3 years to accept it. But now that I did, I do enjoy seeing his pics, even though we don't talk directly to each other.

And then I have one ex who is in the entertainment industry and has a lot of twitter followers, so I follow his tweets and still see him when he's in town (DH has met him and likes him) so that's someone I stay up to date on too, but almost more as a fan than an ex.