8-yo DS can't take a joke

[Anonymous]

Children do not understand sarcasm. They are very literal beings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you told your son 3 times that you were buying him an X-Box and then said "just kidding" and you don't know why he got mad at you? This has to be a troll or else you are one of the more disgusting parents I've ever encountered. Can't wait til your son is a teenager and you can't understand why he hates you.

Not a troll. Not the most disgusting parent either unless you live in a bubble. Don't be so dramatic. I was just messing with him. Are you saying hes justified to throw the jacket at me?

OP, you sound like you have no empathy. You don't "mess" with a child and then wonder why he has anxiety and has a bad reaction like throwing his jacket. You just don't. There are some things a parent does not do. You are a parent. He is a child. Remember your role.

I think you might consider a parenting class. This is your child, not your sibling or your coworker or your buddy.

[Anonymous]

OP- you sound like a cruel person. Why on earth would you willingly put your child into a situation that provokes anxiety? It is painful to think about this. I sincerely hope you are a troll, otherwise, go get therapy now. God knows your child will need it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you told your son 3 times that you were buying him an X-Box and then said "just kidding" and you don't know why he got mad at you? This has to be a troll or else you are one of the more disgusting parents I've ever encountered. Can't wait til your son is a teenager and you can't understand why he hates you.

Not a troll. Not the most disgusting parent either unless you live in a bubble. Don't be so dramatic. I was just messing with him. Are you saying hes justified to throw the jacket at me?

OP, this is really a very sick game you're playing with your son. I can't believe I'd ever say that a child is justified in throwing a jacket at his parent, but yes, he was justified. In this case, he was justified.

Please seek therapy to help you, since you seem to be genuinely unaware of how disturbed your behavior is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you told your son 3 times that you were buying him an X-Box and then said "just kidding" and you don't know why he got mad at you? This has to be a troll or else you are one of the more disgusting parents I've ever encountered. Can't wait til your son is a teenager and you can't understand why he hates you.

Not a troll. Not the most disgusting parent either unless you live in a bubble. Don't be so dramatic. I was just messing with him. Are you saying hes justified to throw the jacket at me?

I don't know, OP. I love messing with my siblings, husbands, and some friends. It is a big part of the dynamic especially among my siblings. But I think that, for it to work, for it to feel fair, all the players need to be on the same level. Otherwise, it becomes mean and belittling. I am a huge kidder but I just wouldn't do it to my kids because they can't possibly understand. I would use his reaction as a sign that you need to rethink your MO.

[Anonymous]

*husband* not husbands...

[Anonymous]

Actually yes, you are one of the most disgusting parents I've ever encountered. Have I read or heard about worse parents on the news? Sure. But I've never conversed with them like this. None of my friends would ever treat their child like this either. I think he was totally justified in throwing his jacket. Way to go mom ....youve screwed up your kid. Get some therapy

[Anonymous]

OP is a troll. Don't fall for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is a troll. Don't fall for it.

is everyone who does things differently than you a troll? also do you win a price from Jeff for calling out one? jeeze.

[Anonymous]

This isn't just doing things differently. It is abusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This isn't just doing things differently. It is abusive.

so, abusive = trolling?

[Anonymous]

No, but some of us are finding it hard to believe that anyone is actually like this. It seems incomprehensible and bizarre, therefore the likelihood of trolling is higher.

Did you really need a walk-through on that one, or are you just bored today?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, but some of us are finding it hard to believe that anyone is actually like this. It seems incomprehensible and bizarre, therefore the likelihood of trolling is higher.

Did you really need a walk-through on that one, or are you just bored today?

is a parent who refuse to medicate ADHD a troll too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, but some of us are finding it hard to believe that anyone is actually like this. It seems incomprehensible and bizarre, therefore the likelihood of trolling is higher.

Did you really need a walk-through on that one, or are you just bored today?

is a parent who refuse to medicate ADHD a troll too?

What on earth are you talking about? Nice attempt to stir up trouble.

[Anonymous]

Two thoughts, OP:

He dishes it out to others because that's what you do. Who do you think he learns it from?

Teasing can be hurtful, especially if it targets physical traits or someone's personality/habits. And some kids are sensitive. My dad was a huge tease - I didn't mind and would joke right back. My brother, however, hated it.

Was it ok for him to get angry and throw his coat? No. But you also need to recognize and acknowledge that what you say bothers him and apologize. Model the behavior you want to see from him.