is it common to hate your house a year after moving in?
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Anonymous
| I moved to a new house last June and don't love it. There are lots of changes I want to make but I don't have the money. I am no completely unpacked... I keep looking at other listings. I thought it was the right house when we bought it but signs are saying it isn't. I am not sure what to do. I know we can't move for a couple years so I guess I am just going to deal with it and slowly make changes to it and hope it feels more like "my" house at some point. |
Anonymous
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Usually when people move quickly it is because the neighbor/s is/are psycho. Is that an issue, OP? |
Anonymous
| If you paid a lot for your house, you might feel this way. Please learn to focus on those things about your house that you do like, while you are there. No house is ever perfect. |
Anonymous
Those have unexpected costs too. They just come in the form of assessments. |
Anonymous
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Ugh, yes. We've lived in our house for about 1.5 years and I am ready to move. I dislike some aspects of the layout, wish that certain rooms were bigger, dislike the cabinetry and some of design materials used. Blah!
Our house was brand new (not built by us) and I really wanted to build or take on another renovation project but DH talked me out of it because I was pregnant and had a toddler at the time of our move. I wish we would've rented or just take the plunge as it seems foolish to radically change things to what is essentially a brand new house. |
Anonymous
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DH and I bought our first house together right after we were married. I found out I was pregnant the day we signed the contract on the house. It seemed like a great old house and we were so excited about the great yard and nice location.
Realized rather quickly that both my husband and I were in wayyy over our heads; I was too sick and exhausted and physically unable to complete many projects, every major system in the house needed update, repair or maintenance or replacement and yes, I hated it. But...we stayed for four years and brought our second child home to that house. It ended up being a great investment; we sold to a builder and made a nice little pile of cash that afforded us to upgrade to a new home that we could not have otherwise afforded. |
Anonymous
| Just an idea, but how would you arrange/stage your house if you were putting it on the market next week? Could you try doing that and see if you like it better? Boxes you haven't unpacked are really depressing. Hide them, get rid of the stuff (obviously you don't really need it), and make the place look superficially attractive. Sometimes that helps a lot. |
Anonymous
It depends. What are some of the reasons that you don't like the one you have. Are there changes that you could make that would make you appreciate the house more (or at least dislike the house less)? |
Anonymous
I totally understand I moved to a different house just over two years ago and it has been nightmare and that's putting it nicely. I always say it has a black cloud over it. with in the first year I had the washer go, hot water heater and furnace then my main breaker to the house kept on popping so needed to upgrade the breaker box. Then my neighbours are stand offish and down right rude. Also I have barking dogs surrounding me. Yea I get hating your home I totally get it. I want to sell but where do I go!? Also I just got a home evaluation done and the price has dropped by $5,000 since I bought and I put all this money into it. So guess I am stuck I feel for all the other people who left comments I totally get it |
Anonymous
| Here, in the DC metro, yes very common. |
Anonymous
| Been in this house since 2012 and have never liked it that much. I want to move. |
Anonymous
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I like my house and my neighborhood (and my shorter commute and better schools) but sometimes I wonder what the F I was thinking when I bought an older SFH as a single mom. The upkeep - both interior and exterior - is just more sometimes than I really bargained for. And I miss things about the previous place, like the freshly renovated baths and kitchen and the gloriously generous master bedroom closet. Sometimes I feel like my sh*t is everywhere, when it used to be neatly contained.
I do like where I live, though. I'm happier with a much-shorter commute. I'm happy not to be living with neighbors on the other side of the wall - they got really annoying at times. It's nice to have a driveway instead of a parking space that can be encroached on by inconsiderate neighbors. Maybe you need to take a couple of days off, focus on getting really settled into the house and then start appreciating it for what it is? |
Anonymous
| OP, do you you have kids? I know I felt the same way at first (though more dislike than hate) But when kids entered the picture I knew I was never going back to condo/apartment life - just too much stuff. |
Anonymous
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Wow this thread. I came here to post the same thing. I closed last week and I hate the place. I'm actually thinking of renting it out and renting another place! Great to know I am not alone! I have bought many homes, and this is the first time I have felt this way. I feel like it has sucked all the joy out of my life. It is along the orange/silver line, and I have been reduced to thinking that maybe Amazon will come here and build along the silver line and it will be a good investment (this is useless speculation, I know).
I found a perfect place to rent, so now I just have to figure out if it is worth the risk to rent it by the first of Feb, and try renting out my place. If I go too long without a tenant (more than 1 month), I will be out of pocket the whole mortgage payment. |
Anonymous
| I hated our rowhouse for nearly the entire 5 years we lived there (the first few months I was actually excited to be someplace new and be a homeowner). It got worse once we had kids and neighbors who smoked weed 24/7 moved in. The only redeeming quality was its proximity to work. |