It is a miracle/ blessing when males survive and reach adulthood with minimal or no disability

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Anonymous wrote:I'm calling sock puppet on 11:36. Jeff?

I'm also getting a big kick out of this: "he surely would not have survived if he'd been born into the families of some of those whom have already posted their feelings about your statement."

That's because we would have gotten rid of such child, Spartan style. {this is sarcasm}

[Anonymous]

OP, FWIW I too have read that certain conditions, such as ADD and autism, are more prevalent in boys. If I recall correctly, it's because these are linked to the Y chromosome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you are the one with some problems. Get a grip!

Consider yourself lucky if your kids were born healthy and without disability and if they aren't risk takers. Just curious, do you have kids? If so, are they all healthy and disability free? What gender? Have they ever made choices that could have been life-threatening?

I hope you never have to experience almost losing a child in the womb, having a terrible labor, wondering if your newborn is going to make it, having your child diagnosed with a disability which is probably 5 times more likely in boys and then sitting in the ER wishing your child didn't make a particular choice.

Glad you asked. I have two boys and one was born with an auto-inflamatory disease that is very trying on him, we have been to the ER at a minimum of a dozen times and have experienced full blown hospitalizations and surgical procedures. And YES they are boys so they swing from the cieling fans and sometimes get hurt.

However, as a mother and a GUIDE for my children I do not wallow in his illness, nor do I treat him differently than any other healthy child, nor do I let my anxietey rule my thoughts and actions. People are born with flaws (even girls!) and it is NOT a miracle that they make it in life, it is expected. I have high standards for my children that will not be comprimised due to any challenges they may encounter in life.

As a parent it is my responsiblity to be their rock and be a source of emotional stablity. Please, for the love of your children, calm down.

[Anonymous]

OP, I have a little boy who was born premature and I completely understand. Premature boys are much, much likelier than girls born early to be very damaged by their early birth -- that is, to suffer major mental and physical delays. And boys are much more likely to have developmental issues in general. They are also four times more likely to have autism, and about five times more likely to have ADHD. You aren't imagining it. They are even more likely to get childhood cancer. So, given that 1 in 54 kids is apparently on the spectrum, and if you break that down its more like 1 in 35 boys, nope, you aren't being crazy at all. It is the media's constant blaring of these facts and your own experiences that are making it seem like it is the majority of boys however. Clearly, the majority of boys are fine, despite these increased risks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have a little boy who was born premature and I completely understand. Premature boys are much, much likelier than girls born early to be very damaged by their early birth -- that is, to suffer major mental and physical delays. And boys are much more likely to have developmental issues in general. They are also four times more likely to have autism, and about five times more likely to have ADHD. You aren't imagining it. They are even more likely to get childhood cancer. So, given that 1 in 54 kids is apparently on the spectrum, and if you break that down its more like 1 in 35 boys, nope, you aren't being crazy at all. It is the media's constant blaring of these facts and your own experiences that are making it seem like it is the majority of boys however. Clearly, the majority of boys are fine, despite these increased risks.

OP here. Good point! I do think all the stats and articles can make you wonder and it is probably overblown. I also wonder if somehow boys are even more vulnerable to environmental toxins even in the womb and could that contribute to some of the issues?

And thank you to the mom of a child with ADHD poster. I appreciate that. You get it. I know it's not the norm, but I guess I was using hyperbole to say this is scary and boys seem to be at risk for so many more issues than girls in the US.

I think how I say this in person comes accross differently. I am not shaking in my boots crying about this. It's more "Holy shit there's a lot of crap that can hit boys." I don't think boys were quite so at risk when I was growing up. I was particularly surprised that a male fetus is less likely to make it. I often use hyperbole to start threads on DCUM, just to get a discussion going or even for humor (though was not trying for humor here). It is interesting and I admit sometimes entertaining to read people's feedback.

To the sock puppet accuser i can tell you the mom of ADHD child poster was not me if that is what you were thinking. I was actually shocked to come back and see so many posts, let alone one from a person who gets why I'm thinking about all this.

I completely agree women in many other coutries are at a much much higher risk due to life circumstances. Absolutely!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: During my pregnancy I recall reading that male fetuses are more likely to have issues and less likely make it to delivery than female. Once out of the womb, male babies and children are more likely to have ADHD and Autism and they are more likely to be risk takers. Males are more likely to have certain diseases and so forth.

Well we had many scares when our son was still a fetus and once he was out we dealt with new issues (more likely to occur with boys) for which we have gotten interventions. He's doing well, but some of the things he does make me pray he will make it to adulthood alive and in tact and he is not considered a particularly impulsive or wild child at all. I truly think I will feel so lucky if he can make it to adulthood and thrive with minimal disability. I must sound totally sexist, but I am not as worried about my daughter, other than surviving the pre-teens and teenage years.

OP - as a mom with an ADHD son who also has a learning disability, what you expressed is EXACTLY how I feel on a daily basis. Thank you for putting it so eloquently and honestly and for putting yourself out there to be criticized by those with normally developing, athletic, "smart" sons. They will never know the pain felt when their child struggles to do the simplest things like tying their own shoes at the age of 9. I often wonder how DS will turn out. God put him in our family for a reason, as he surely would not have survived if he'd been born into the families of some of those whom have already posted their feelings about your statement.

No one is saying they do not have compassion for boys with disabilities. OP makes is sound as though all or the majority of boys have a higher risk of death and disability simply because they are male. That is the insane part of the post.

OP here. I clearly didn't express myself well. As I said in another post-I was being dramatic. However, in general boys are much higher risk for quite a few disabilities and illnesses than girls. A male fetus is less likely to make it to birth. You get enough numbers bombarded at you and you read enough studies and you start to think "It's a miracle boys make it to adulthood." Hopefully that gives you more of an idea of what I am conveying. I am not up crying all night about this. I have been told quite a few times I come accross as laid back and mellow (I personally would NOT go that far). Do the numbers concern me? Yes, and I think it's worth discussing WTF is going on. Wanted to spark a discussion about males being so much more vulnerable and why. As someone said a lot is linked to the Y chromosome.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I clearly didn't express myself well. As I said in another post-I was being dramatic. However, in general boys are much higher risk for quite a few disabilities and illnesses than girls. A male fetus is less likely to make it to birth. You get enough numbers bombarded at you and you read enough studies and you start to think "It's a miracle boys make it to adulthood." Hopefully that gives you more of an idea of what I am conveying. I am not up crying all night about this. I have been told quite a few times I come accross as laid back and mellow (I personally would NOT go that far). Do the numbers concern me? Yes, and I think it's worth discussing WTF is going on. Wanted to spark a discussion about males being so much more vulnerable and why. As someone said a lot is linked to the Y chromosome.

Well, we agree on that much.

On the other hand, girls have to deal with the little demons that are teenage boys (and adult males, for that matter), so it's hard to say who has the harder row to hoe.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I had forgotten about this article, but found it when I was googling to find examples of why one might start to question WTF is going on with boys.

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/03/090331112729.htm

[Anonymous]

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OP here. I clearly didn't express myself well. As I said in another post-I was being dramatic. However, in general boys are much higher risk for quite a few disabilities and illnesses than girls. A male fetus is less likely to make it to birth. You get enough numbers bombarded at you and you read enough studies and you start to think "It's a miracle boys make it to adulthood." Hopefully that gives you more of an idea of what I am conveying. I am not up crying all night about this. I have been told quite a few times I come accross as laid back and mellow (I personally would NOT go that far). Do the numbers concern me? Yes, and I think it's worth discussing WTF is going on. Wanted to spark a discussion about males being so much more vulnerable and why. As someone said a lot is linked to the Y chromosome.

Well, we agree on that much.

On the other hand, girls have to deal with the little demons that are teenage boys (and adult males, for that matter), so it's hard to say who has the harder row to hoe.

OP here. I think you are missing my point. I know you are trying to be funny but boys have just as much stress from the little demons that are teenage girls. Boys seem to be more vulnerable than girls to illness, and disability and in some cases their mortality rate is higher than girls with the same diagnosis. That is concerning to me and I wonder about it. I know there are many, many factors from genetics to lifestyle to testosterone to environment, but I wonder if things are getting worse for boys not better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: During my pregnancy I recall reading that male fetuses are more likely to have issues and less likely make it to delivery than female. Once out of the womb, male babies and children are more likely to have ADHD and Autism and they are more likely to be risk takers. Males are more likely to have certain diseases and so forth.

Well we had many scares when our son was still a fetus and once he was out we dealt with new issues (more likely to occur with boys) for which we have gotten interventions. He's doing well, but some of the things he does make me pray he will make it to adulthood alive and in tact and he is not considered a particularly impulsive or wild child at all. I truly think I will feel so lucky if he can make it to adulthood and thrive with minimal disability. I must sound totally sexist, but I am not as worried about my daughter, other than surviving the pre-teens and teenage years.

OP - as a mom with an ADHD son who also has a learning disability, what you expressed is EXACTLY how I feel on a daily basis. Thank you for putting it so eloquently and honestly and for putting yourself out there to be criticized by those with normally developing, athletic, "smart" sons. They will never know the pain felt when their child struggles to do the simplest things like tying their own shoes at the age of 9. I often wonder how DS will turn out. God put him in our family for a reason, as he surely would not have survived if he'd been born into the families of some of those whom have already posted their feelings about your statement.

NP here. WTH are you talking about? People don't just leave babies with disabilities by the side of the Anacostia for the coyotes, I'm pretty sure he would have survived.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I have a little boy who was born premature and I completely understand. Premature boys are much, much likelier than girls born early to be very damaged by their early birth -- that is, to suffer major mental and physical delays. And boys are much more likely to have developmental issues in general. They are also four times more likely to have autism, and about five times more likely to have ADHD. You aren't imagining it. They are even more likely to get childhood cancer. So, given that 1 in 54 kids is apparently on the spectrum, and if you break that down its more like 1 in 35 boys, nope, you aren't being crazy at all. It is the media's constant blaring of these facts and your own experiences that are making it seem like it is the majority of boys however. Clearly, the majority of boys are fine, despite these increased risks.

OP here. Good point! I do think all the stats and articles can make you wonder and it is probably overblown. I also wonder if somehow boys are even more vulnerable to environmental toxins even in the womb and could that contribute to some of the issues?

And thank you to the mom of a child with ADHD poster. I appreciate that. You get it. I know it's not the norm, but I guess I was using hyperbole to say this is scary and boys seem to be at risk for so many more issues than girls in the US.

I think how I say this in person comes accross differently. I am not shaking in my boots crying about this. It's more "Holy shit there's a lot of crap that can hit boys." I don't think boys were quite so at risk when I was growing up. I was particularly surprised that a male fetus is less likely to make it. I often use hyperbole to start threads on DCUM, just to get a discussion going or even for humor (though was not trying for humor here). It is interesting and I admit sometimes entertaining to read people's feedback.

To the sock puppet accuser i can tell you the mom of ADHD child poster was not me if that is what you were thinking. I was actually shocked to come back and see so many posts, let alone one from a person who gets why I'm thinking about all this.

I completely agree women in many other coutries are at a much much higher risk due to life circumstances. Absolutely!

This part is just chromosomal. If there is a problematic error on the Y chromosome, the mother's DNA is less likely to be able to compensate for it than if the father had contributed a second X chromosome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have a little boy who was born premature and I completely understand. Premature boys are much, much likelier than girls born early to be very damaged by their early birth -- that is, to suffer major mental and physical delays. And boys are much more likely to have developmental issues in general. They are also four times more likely to have autism, and about five times more likely to have ADHD. You aren't imagining it. They are even more likely to get childhood cancer. So, given that 1 in 54 kids is apparently on the spectrum, and if you break that down its more like 1 in 35 boys, nope, you aren't being crazy at all. It is the media's constant blaring of these facts and your own experiences that are making it seem like it is the majority of boys however. Clearly, the majority of boys are fine, despite these increased risks.

OP here. Good point! I do think all the stats and articles can make you wonder and it is probably overblown. I also wonder if somehow boys are even more vulnerable to environmental toxins even in the womb and could that contribute to some of the issues?

And thank you to the mom of a child with ADHD poster. I appreciate that. You get it. I know it's not the norm, but I guess I was using hyperbole to say this is scary and boys seem to be at risk for so many more issues than girls in the US.

I think how I say this in person comes accross differently. I am not shaking in my boots crying about this. It's more "Holy shit there's a lot of crap that can hit boys." I don't think boys were quite so at risk when I was growing up. I was particularly surprised that a male fetus is less likely to make it. I often use hyperbole to start threads on DCUM, just to get a discussion going or even for humor (though was not trying for humor here). It is interesting and I admit sometimes entertaining to read people's feedback.

To the sock puppet accuser i can tell you the mom of ADHD child poster was not me if that is what you were thinking. I was actually shocked to come back and see so many posts, let alone one from a person who gets why I'm thinking about all this.

I completely agree women in many other coutries are at a much much higher risk due to life circumstances. Absolutely!

This part is just chromosomal. If there is a problematic error on the Y chromosome, the mother's DNA is less likely to be able to compensate for it than if the father had contributed a second X chromosome.

Interesting. So have male fetuses always been at greater risk or is this something that has increased over time?

[Anonymous]

Testosterone is an immunosuppressant.

[Anonymous]

OP, you need to put down the computer, stay the hell away from WebMD, and back away slowly. No one needs to get hurt. Or insane.

Why worry about things over which you have no control?

[Anonymous]

OP, it is a MIRACLE that you don't get killed each and every time you get into your motor vehicle.

Your use of Hyperbole is strange-all the back-up data you spew seems to me that you are not using hyperbole, but that you actually have an untreated anxiety disorter. Paxil.