DD was asked by a boy to kiss and marry him in KINDERGARTEN!!!!!

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In kindergarten my son had 6 girls who wanted to marry him, and his favorite thing to say for a couple weeks was, "I haven't decided who I'm going to marry yet." I told him to enjoy it, because odds are good that it's going to be downhill from that point on.

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Sorry all.....OP here..... forgot to mention...the boy asked her to kiss her on the lips..and when she said no...he said he will marry her....the lips part is what threw me off a little....the rest of it is just cute...I totally agree...we had these episodes in preschool too....
So the kissing on the lips should not worry me too?

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Anonymous wrote:I know it can be taken by some as funny or cute...but I kind of freaked out...should I let the teacher know? I am not worried for her safety per se...but its so inappropriate...at the same time funny...and I dont want to put my daughter in a spot. If I let the teacher know and she speaks to DD about it, I dont want DD feeling like she should not be telling me this stuff anymore.
For now, I told DD to tell the boy that its not cool for 5 year olds., and that the boy will be in trouble with the teacher and principal if he asks again. I also told its germy and explained to her about spreading germs, so we only give high fives if we like someone at school. She likes this boy and he is her friend, so I also dont want to make it hard on her. So confused...

Cooties -- the technical term is Cooties.

And from what I recall, they always only spread from Girl -> Boy, not the other way around.

So your DD should warn her "fiancé"(?) that she has the Cooties, and that he should be careful around her.

That would be the prudent approach.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know it can be taken by some as funny or cute...but I kind of freaked out...should I let the teacher know? I am not worried for her safety per se...but its so inappropriate...at the same time funny...and I dont want to put my daughter in a spot. If I let the teacher know and she speaks to DD about it, I dont want DD feeling like she should not be telling me this stuff anymore.
For now, I told DD to tell the boy that its not cool for 5 year olds., and that the boy will be in trouble with the teacher and principal if he asks again. I also told its germy and explained to her about spreading germs, so we only give high fives if we like someone at school. She likes this boy and he is her friend, so I also dont want to make it hard on her. So confused...

Cooties -- the technical term is Cooties.

And from what I recall, they always only spread from Girl -> Boy, not the other way around.

So your DD should warn her "fiancé"(?) that she has the Cooties, and that he should be careful around her.

That would be the prudent approach.

Hahahaha! Sage advice wise one

[Anonymous]

And here I thought it was bad when my son in K came home and told me a girl on his bus informed him that she was his girlfriend the second day of school.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry all.....OP here..... forgot to mention...the boy asked her to kiss her on the lips..and when she said no...he said he will marry her....the lips part is what threw me off a little....the rest of it is just cute...I totally agree...we had these episodes in preschool too....
So the kissing on the lips should not worry me too?

In my oldest son's kindergarten, there was a group of 3 girls referred to as "The Kissing Girls". They would chase boys around the playground trying to kiss them, all while singing the song "Doncha Wish Your Girlfriend Was Hot Like Me". Apparently, the combination of the song and the kissing gave the girls special powers and allowed them to turn many an unwilling victim from the boys team to the girls team. Pity the young men who got branded by The Kissing Girls

Fortunately for me, my son found a set of sister wives so he was no longer part of The Kissing Girls evil empire.

By the end of first grade, their power seemed to wane.

[Anonymous]

My daughter has been "engaged" since preschool. One of the boys in kindergarten asked her to marry him, she said no, she's marrying (boy from preschool). This is all very very normal.

The kissing on the lips. Tell your daughter that she never has to kiss anyone she doesn't want to, and that she was fine to say no. Then don't worry about it anymore.

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As long as she doesn't turn into a bridezilla, I'd say you'll be fine.

Seriously, if the boy (or any other child) repeatedly tries to kiss her and the boy is not honoring dd's "space" and request to stop, then a teacher needs to step in. A huge part of kindergarten is learning those social norms. Teaching kids to respect each other's personal space is included in that. Some need some more guidance. It doesn't mean the boy is bad or that there's something wrong. He just needs some more direction.

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OMG, the boy must be a pedophile! Everyone, go call child services! Better yet, go call police.

I have a 6yo DS. He is a polygamist. And he likes them older. Let's sue those girls too.

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Anonymous wrote:Please. My first grader had three husbands already.

I love this answer

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Anonymous wrote:OMG, the boy must be a pedophile! Everyone, go call child services! Better yet, go call police.

I have a 6yo DS. He is a polygamist. And he likes them older. Let's sue those girls too.

haha

I can't even tell you how many boys my child has been "in love" with already. She's in 1st grade.

She apparently was involved in a peer pressure kissing ring that took place in the bathroom of her daycare at 4 years old. We thought it was funny, not cringeworthy.

I shouldn't be surprised - I was kissing a boy at school and showing off to the whole class at 5. And chasing boys around tables to kiss them, too.

He isn't threatening your kid with violence or anything. Now, if he knocks her to the ground, holds her down and forces a kiss on her, MAYBE then that would be an issue and worth a talking to.

But this kind of thing is COMPLETELY normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry all.....OP here..... forgot to mention...the boy asked her to kiss her on the lips..and when she said no...he said he will marry her....the lips part is what threw me off a little....the rest of it is just cute...I totally agree...we had these episodes in preschool too....
So the kissing on the lips should not worry me too?

She should tell him she's European and that a quick peck on each cheek will do.

[Anonymous]

BFD

[Anonymous]

In preschool, my son announced his intentions to marry three of his friends, two boys and a girl. It was unclear whether these happy events would take place consecutively or concurrently; he was too focused on figuring out who would be the ringbearer.

In kindergarten, he kissed one girl on the bus (that legendary den of iniquity) after having proposed to another in his class. I let the two-timing slide, but did suggest a playdate with my future daughter-in-law so they could see how their china patterns looked in our play kitchen.

So far in first grade, I've caught him carefully consulting the how-to manual (in this case, Grimm's Fairy Tales) as a prospective princess lay stretched out on the sofa, directing the action while awaiting her wake-up kiss. Much like a 1950s women's dorm, we now have an "open door and three feet on the floor" policy when playing with friends.

[Anonymous]

Soooo normal.

You just make sure she knows what to do if she doesn't like his attentions. That's all.