Driving while black

[Anonymous]

Wow, CL, your daughter sure grew up fast. 13.5 years in one week. Aren't kids a miracle?

[Anonymous]

I'm curious as to how many of you PPs are black. The only PP who identified herself as black said she'd only been profiled a small handful of times and they were all during shopping excursions. She'd never experienced any type of racial profiling when she'd been pulled over as a teenager.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, CL, your daughter sure grew up fast. 13.5 years in one week. Aren't kids a miracle?

This is obnoxious. Are you a teenager?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, CL, your daughter sure grew up fast. 13.5 years in one week. Aren't kids a miracle?

Not again...can you all just stfu?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm curious as to how many of you PPs are black. The only PP who identified herself as black said she'd only been profiled a small handful of times and they were all during shopping excursions. She'd never experienced any type of racial profiling when she'd been pulled over as a teenager.

And that proves that racial profiling doesn't exist?

[Anonymous]

I'm a 32 y/o AA female.

I don't recall ever being pulled over because of my race. I have been pulled over for (legitimate) traffic issues. I, too, have a sassy mouth, but I learn to taper it when dealing with police. Some have been assholes, some have been nice. Doubt it had anything to do with my race.

I do have young men in my family who have been profiled/harassed by police. I'm 99% positive race was a factor in those incidents.

Like a pp, I have had issues being watched in stores, etc. Like her, it left me upset/disgusted/pissed/discouraged/etc.

OP, I think your daughter will be fine (as it relates to "driving while black"). That phenomenon, sadly, is usually reserved for black males.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op her: because in this country my son is considered white while my daughter is considered black. So i dont worry about my son as much as i worry about my daughter. The treatment i receive when i am with my daughter is far different from the treatment my husband gets when he is with our son. In England nobody looks at an interracial couple but here there is always that double look. Like they didnt see it right the first time. Sorry this has been my experiance.

Slightly off topic, but OP I just returned from 3 years in england and was amazed by how many mixed race couples there were there. Made me realize how few we have here, and how big the barriers here are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And once a sassy teen enters the justice system, the sassy white teen is apt to be depicted as just a teenager with an adjustment problem, whereas the sassy black teen is apt to be looked at as a danger to society.

Yes, agree with this. I think the OP was very clear that her daughter is sassy and that that can be a big problem for a black teen in contrast to a white teen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm curious as to how many of you PPs are black. The only PP who identified herself as black said she'd only been profiled a small handful of times and they were all during shopping excursions. She'd never experienced any type of racial profiling when she'd been pulled over as a teenager.

And that proves that racial profiling doesn't exist?

No, of course not. I'm just curious what is first hand knowledge and what is not. 2 people who have identified themselves have said they have not really experienced it from cops and think it is more reserved for black males. Just curious if the pps.from the first page who talked about being labeled in the judicial system etc (sorry i forget their exact wording) are speaking from experience or just what they've heard about or read. I think there is a difference.

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, CL, your daughter sure grew up fast. 13.5 years in one week. Aren't kids a miracle?

Please stop. This type of thing is no longer funny. You guys are messing up more threads then the person you are stalking.

[Anonymous]

OP, we are also a biracial couple (I am black and my husband is white) who moved over here from the UK.  I also went through a culture shock -from never thinking about my color to being very aware of it. 

My experience has been different from the PP's. We live in a predominantly white (quite upscale) neighborhood and I have been profiled, as in stopped simply so the police officer can run my license. I get really annoyed  but I keep shtum and just call my husband afterwards to vent. I was in my 30s when we moved here from the UK and had never been stopped by the police. Since moving here I have been stopped about 8 times in 10 years and all of those times were around my neighborhood.  My husband has been stopped once for not replacing some permit.

I have also been profiled in stores a lot. It really used to upset me having never experienced that before on the UK and never in my country of origin in Africa but I take it in my stride now.  I am a SAHM and I admit that i am often on sweat pants and a tee shirt so I probably look like I don't belong.

My son is only 10 but I already worry tremendously about him already.

[Anonymous]

This thread would lead you to believe that Black people need to live in fear.

I'm a 38y/o AA male. I've been pulled over at least 2x in my life for questionable reasons. I put my hands on the 2 and the 10 and got off both with warnings.

[Anonymous]

I'm wondering if racial profiling is also effected by the kind of car a black man is driving. I'm white, my husband is black. He has only ever been stopped once by a cop who was checking seat belts. He also drives a beige Chevy Malibu. I'm wondering if he drove a souped up bmw or a car that's falling apart if it would make a difference?

FWIW, we live in NYC and no one seems to care that we are a mixed race couple.

However, if your daughter cannot control her sassing, it will cause her more problems in life than just when she gets a speeding ticket.

[Anonymous]

Race race race. Don't be a bitch, don't disobey the law and don't sit in the left lane.

[Anonymous]

Hello OP,

I am a Black female over the age of 40 and I have been profiled only once. The other times I was pulled over were legit. That one time was many years ago in Vineland NJ, and I was 23 years old.

My brother on the hand was stopped multiple times in his youth simply because he was a young black male. I think both your daughter and son will be okay in regards to DWB.

Like previously mentioned, your daughter will be profiled often while shopping. It's sick. It's sad. It's America. Oprah Winfrey herself was profiled at Hermes in NYC when the shopkeeper saw a Black woman coming towards the shop and ran to lock the doors. It was not until later that she recognized the Black woman she locked out as billionaire Oprah Winfrey.