Clothes for sahm...

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why the SAHM wardrobe is such a mystery to people - you must have worn casual clothes on weekends and evenings when you were working right? Why would your new SAHM wardrobe differ from that?


It was a transition for me. Pre kids, I had to wear suits to work or slightly less dressy, but not business casual. For the weekends, I only had a few lounge around outfits and then "going out" clothes. I didn't own things like ballet flats or riding style boots. Just work heels and f-me boots and heels for going out.


You didn't have "meeting a friend for coffee" or "heading to a winery for a picnic" clothes/shoes?


NOT OP: But who is the world has tons of heading to a winery for a picnic clothes? No meeting friend for coffee clothes either since I usually went out where I wore nicer dresses and heels.

Having to wear casual clothes once or twice a weekend to Target is a lot different than needing those type of casual outfits all the time. Does no one remember what it felt like to have to start your work wardrobe after college? Sure, you probably had a few peices you wore to some events or interviews but not an entire work wardrobe. This is the same concept except in reverse and it is no longer cool to wear ratty t-shirts, jeans, and flip flops or sneakers.
Anonymous
Get on some catalog mailing lists. Lands End, JCrew, Boden, Garnet Hill. Browse and get ideas.

It's mostly the same type of stuff you wore pre-work days. Jeans, Tees, Skirts, Dresses, tunics, leggings, etc. For shoes, flip flops are fine, ballet flats, boots-tall or short.

It's hard to believe you've never walked past any casually dressed mannequins or seen any casually dressed people as you shopped for work clothes.

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and F-me boots? really, OP?


Oh, take the prune out of your ass, lady. I'm 45 and still buy (rarely) fuck me shoes. Perhaps you're too out of it to be hip with lingo, but it just means sexy high heels.


uh huh

So then you won't take offense if someone tells you to fuck off then.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why the SAHM wardrobe is such a mystery to people - you must have worn casual clothes on weekends and evenings when you were working right? Why would your new SAHM wardrobe differ from that?


It was a transition for me. Pre kids, I had to wear suits to work or slightly less dressy, but not business casual. For the weekends, I only had a few lounge around outfits and then "going out" clothes. I didn't own things like ballet flats or riding style boots. Just work heels and f-me boots and heels for going out.


You didn't have "meeting a friend for coffee" or "heading to a winery for a picnic" clothes/shoes?


NOT OP: But who is the world has tons of heading to a winery for a picnic clothes? No meeting friend for coffee clothes either since I usually went out where I wore nicer dresses and heels.

Having to wear casual clothes once or twice a weekend to Target is a lot different than needing those type of casual outfits all the time. Does no one remember what it felt like to have to start your work wardrobe after college? Sure, you probably had a few peices you wore to some events or interviews but not an entire work wardrobe. This is the same concept except in reverse and it is no longer cool to wear ratty t-shirts, jeans, and flip flops or sneakers.


I think the PP just meant, didn't the OP have clothes she would wear for *that type* of outing. Or like what would she wear if she went to a movie in the afternoon or went to the mall, or met someone for a casual lunch on the weekend? Because normally that type of clothes would be good to have in your wardrobe as a SAHM. A lot of people just wear jeans and fitted t-shirts or sweaters for that type of thing, right? So if you don't have A LOT of those clothes, just buy more. And don't spend too much money on them, because your kid will spill stuff all over you if you do.
Anonymous
I like consignment and thrift shops to find clothes. It's like a scavenger hunt, and I never spend much. Today I got a Worthington blazer for $5!
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Ann Taylor Loft. They have a particularly good outlet in Leesburg.
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lulu lemon
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OP, this is going to come across as class-ist, but I think it matters where you live. Reading DCUM, it seems like there are women or neighborhoods that never see a pair of shorts, and riding boots are de riguer at the local playground or gymnastics class. In my NOVA neighborhood you see lots of jeans, age/figure-appropriate shorts or skirts and basic tops. I don't see the maxi dress styles that people on here reference except on rare occasions. I do occasionally see true workout wear at the park, including hair in ponytails and even ballcaps. Wearing a blazer on a day to day basis would be way overdressed around here.
Anonymous
Yep I agree it's a reasonable question. I had the same thing. When I was ready to jump back in and socialize more (had to make new friends as we moved out of state), I remember going to a short playdate. I looked awesome. Cute blouse, new well-tailored jeans, hair done up so pretty, wedge sandals. When I got there, my new friend was in her workout clothes. She complimented me on how nice I looked, but I could tell she thought I tried too hard!

I feel like as a new mom, there's a new casual. Not workout/yoga clothes, but not nice ones either (Amen to OP on not worrying about spills, stretching, etc).

My plan has been buying Old Navy, Target, other cheaper end stuff for a while.

Oddly I had a crazy splurge and bought White House Black Market after 5 months post partum. I missed my old work clothes. However, I returned everything. Not worth the concern of ruining nice items or being too dressy for the ocassion.
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That is so sad.
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I mostly shop at Sierra trading post, Loehmanns, gap, and macys. Don't have any favored brands really.
Anonymous
Why are you people wearing riding boots? I ride horses multiple times per week and only wear riding boots when I ride horses. Do you ride or are you posers.
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Anonymous wrote:Why are you people wearing riding boots? I ride horses multiple times per week and only wear riding boots when I ride horses. Do you ride or are you posers.

Stop being dense. Riding inspired boots are a style, no need to be annoying. Military inspired jackets are also a style and I don't hear anyone saying "Why are you wearing a military jacket? I'm in the military and only wear my jacket when I'm marching"
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Anonymous wrote:Why are you people wearing riding boots? I ride horses multiple times per week and only wear riding boots when I ride horses. Do you ride or are you posers.

Stop being dense. Riding inspired boots are a style, no need to be annoying. Military inspired jackets are also a style and I don't hear anyone saying "Why are you wearing a military jacket? I'm in the military and only wear my jacket when I'm marching"


Um yeah--I know. But I wear mine in mud, water, snow, etc. and sometimes even lots of horse poo. Frankly, I doubt a lot of the stylish boots called riding boots can withstand all that plus a 2000 horse stepping on your toe. Mine are tough boots and designed for abuse and mine might be good for a SAHM. But the nice riding inspired boots you are talking about are usually not as rugged. Some people wouldn't wear those in the snow or rain. The dense part is telling a SAHM who is looking for fashion help to go get riding boots. I can see it being part of a stylish wardrobe but not for running around at the park. THe SAHM needs a few pairs of shoes that are easy on, easy off and very durable. So stylish sneakers, comfortable flip flops/sandals, good boots for mud, snow-etc. I am a SAHM and my go-to shoes are sneakers, flip flops and flats in summertime. In winter I also wear sneakers, clogs, ankle boots (slip on), and I have a pair of Wellies for rain/mud and proper snow boots for snow. Then I have my "going out" shoes and my shoes from when I used to work outside the home. My stylish riding style boots (not my actual riding boots) are in those latter categories.

I guess I feel the same about military inspired jackets. I have a couple of those but right now, with two small children, I don't get up and throw on tight jeans, a pair of riding boots and a military jacket. I try to look neat and clean and wear attractive clothes that aren't frumpy but that can be washed a lot and that are comfortable for doing all types of kid-related activities. Military jackets and riding style boots are definitely relics from my pre-child days when my DH and definitely spent many days exploring vineyards. Those used to be my standard weekend outfits. Today, I don't really have weekends--I am SAHM every day--and the clothes are the same all week. I don't wear exercise clothes or t-shirts all the time but I don't dress like I am going to a vineyard to stay home, make food, do laundry, and watch Elmo.

Anonymous
PP you need to get out more. You are turning into a complete b..i..t..c..h
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