Did you feel like you would never get pregnant but still got a BFP?

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I really didn't think I would ever get that positive after several failed cycles. We did 3 IUIs, 2 fresh IVFs, and finally got a + on our first frozen cycle. By the last cycle I had no hope left in me. We were coming up on our year anniversary at our clinic and I was already trying to mentally and financially plan for yet failure. I had even set up a consult with another clinic. I waited to test until the day before my beta and didn't actually pay much attention to my HPT since I was feeling super crampy like my period was about to start. When I did look,I was SHOCKED! I had a lot of anxiety and negativity for quite a few weeks, though, just still feeling like it couldn't actually work. I'm 20 weeks now and just starting to relax a bit. OP, it can happen for you, too! Please don't give up,I know you've been through a lot. It helped me to start thinking ahead about my next cycle so we would have a plan, even though DH thought that was a little crazy. I was only 29 when we started this process btw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That really gives me some hope as I have PCOS and husband has antibodies (this was a new diagnosis after 2 years so not too sure what that even means at this point) congrats on your pregnancy and adoption, i have looked into adoption but majority of countries i looked into we were too young! i def want to at some point though and will look into it more once i am through these cycles. hope you stay blessed and continue to build your family

Thanks, PP! Best wishes to you, too! Sounds like you have the desire to adopt, which is wonderful! I know many people wonder if it's possible to love an adopted child as much as a biological child and the answer is yes, of course! I have been blessed beyond belief and it really is the best of both worlds for us.

Good luck to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PS--this is the poster that got pregnant on 4th IVF for 2nd kid.


I HATE when people say that their positive thinking got them pregnant. My RE once told me that if the power of positive or negative thinking could impact whether or not you got pregnant...there would be fewer abortions. Your mind can't control your fertility. To think so puts unrealistic pressure on you. You will get pregnant if you can get pregnant. You won't get pregnant if you can't (bad eggs/sperm/genes/immune issues/uterine issues/implantation issues). Your mind can't control those issues. Can people THINK themselves out of having diabetes? cancer? heart disease? THIS is why we need to move away from a MORAL attitude about fertility. Fertility and infertility is a DISEASE (within the limitations of natural human aging).

Good luck to you.

I totally freak myself out even more because of ppl that say this, but I also think i can "fake" the positivity or trick anyone when i know deep down how i feel...so comforting to know that you felt the exact same way and it still worked. this will be my first frozen transfer (as long as I have some normal embryos) and GOD i SOOOO hope it works and at the same time am thinking, how does it work, how can it work, will it ever work etcetc...thank you so much for sharing ur experience

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really didn't think I would ever get that positive after several failed cycles. We did 3 IUIs, 2 fresh IVFs, and finally got a + on our first frozen cycle. By the last cycle I had no hope left in me. We were coming up on our year anniversary at our clinic and I was already trying to mentally and financially plan for yet failure. I had even set up a consult with another clinic. I waited to test until the day before my beta and didn't actually pay much attention to my HPT since I was feeling super crampy like my period was about to start. When I did look,I was SHOCKED! I had a lot of anxiety and negativity for quite a few weeks, though, just still feeling like it couldn't actually work. I'm 20 weeks now and just starting to relax a bit. OP, it can happen for you, too! Please don't give up,I know you've been through a lot. It helped me to start thinking ahead about my next cycle so we would have a plan, even though DH thought that was a little crazy. I was only 29 when we started this process btw.

whoops meant for the above reply to partly be in response to you, this is my first frozen transfer as well and hoping that is what i need, so happy for you, glad you finally got there, im soooo praying and hoping this will be it for me also, this has been the lowest and most doubtful i have ever felt!