Destination wedding & asking for cash

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be generous of spirit. Couples are now asking for experiences not objects. Fine. Go or dont go but dont be bitter.

Signed, a bride with a local wedding and traditional registry.

I just don't think it's appropriate to ask for cash at all if you are basically requiring people to pay thousands of dollars to come to your wedding. If you are close to the couple you don't have much of a choice. Don't get me wrong, I love the idea is a shared adventure, I don't like the lack of tact or appreciation for the fact that they picked an extremely expensive location. We all live in DC, so why not have it here or close by and ask for cash? No problem with that - we would have been able to actually enjoy it.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I did a destination wedding and felt guilty I couldn't pay everybody's way. I did not expect a gift. But definitely not a gift from those who attended- expect for the couple's whose weddings we attended in India and the Midwest. Even then no gift would have only earned snark.


And yes that is one couple 2 weddings.

[Anonymous]

There is nothing wrong with what the bride and groom did. There is nothing wrong with whatever you choose to do. Keep it classy!

[Anonymous]

We flew cross country to SIL's wedding. The entire trip was over 5k to fly the family out and stay at a hotel. They asked for cash towards the honeyman. Tacky. They sent us a thank you card for attending the wedding but I think that's just a reminder to say "Hey, we haven't received your gift yet".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps a charitable donation to Habitat for Humanity wherever the wedding is. You know, because the happy couple is so concerned about housing.

LOL. Thanks for the laugh PP. Pretty sure this place has no poor people, but I'll certainly check!

Every place has poor people, as far as I can tell from the Habitat website.

[Anonymous]

WHAT? Is this a troll?

Just kidding. I just can't believe the balls on some people.

I would not attend and would send some small gift.

Tasteless and tacky. I could never be friends with people like this.

[Anonymous]

I am just glad I don't have friends this classless! I had a destination wedding bc my parents live out of the country in a tropical destination. Knowing that it would be a lot of money for our friends to attend my father had rooms available at no cost to them at a local resort. All they had to do was get there.

[Anonymous]

That is SO tacky. If you don't really want to go then don't go! I'd rather spend the $$$ on a nice family vacation Oh, and don't send a gift, or send them a gift card to Target or something.

[Anonymous]

I really dislike destination weddings. To ask for cash on top of that is absurd. If you're planning a destination wedding, don't be offended when some people you thought would attend end up declining.

[Anonymous]

Jaw dropping. I'm 32 but I feel 1,000,000 years old when I read things like this and wonder what is happening to people these days that they have expectations like this. Incredible.

[Anonymous]

Sooooooooo tacky.

[Anonymous]

I love destination weddings. For example, I'd rather fly to Aruba for a wedding, than the brides hometown in Ohio. As for asking money, that's kinda tacky, but if it's a close friend, I'd want to give them something nice anyway, so I'd rather it was something that they wanted/needed, even if it's cash.