The 11 year old and bathing suit shopping

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Anonymous wrote:Go to Target. They have the ruffled bikinis and tankinis. That's what many of the 11-13 yo girls had on at our pool this weekend.
http://www.target.com/sb/kids-girls-clothing-swimwear/Swimwear-Set/-/N-5xtvvZ5unnk#?lnk=Grid_GRLSWIM_0304_X0Y0W4|X0Y0W4&intc=430249|null

These are great! And probably cheaper than the mall stuff.

All the Tweens were wearing cute 2 piece suits, lots of ruffles and one shoulder look. Time to move beyond the year round swim team speedo one piece look.

Why? Why is there a need for little girls to strut around in barely there bikinis and bathing suits? Why do you even want to see that at the pool?

Yeah, I hate seeing skin at the pool! Where do they think they are? Oh, wait.

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Anonymous wrote:Go to Target. They have the ruffled bikinis and tankinis. That's what many of the 11-13 yo girls had on at our pool this weekend.
http://www.target.com/sb/kids-girls-clothing-swimwear/Swimwear-Set/-/N-5xtvvZ5unnk#?lnk=Grid_GRLSWIM_0304_X0Y0W4|X0Y0W4&intc=430249|null

These are great! And probably cheaper than the mall stuff.

All the Tweens were wearing cute 2 piece suits, lots of ruffles and one shoulder look. Time to move beyond the year round swim team speedo one piece look.

Why? Why is there a need for little girls to strut around in barely there bikinis and bathing suits? Why do you even want to see that at the pool?

The ruffle and one shoulder ones and the ones on the Target link are modest and cute. Unless you're Muslim (which may have been the case at our pool for the one poor tween in a full scuba suit).

It was hot at 2pm and the suit looked unbearable. It's meant for deep see diving, not hot DC area summers.

[Anonymous]

There was a girl who looked about 13 wearing an ill fitting bikini, riding up and exposing butt cheeks. If it were just the teen boys salivating over her I wouldn't mind as much. It was the 40-50 year old dads who couldn't keep their eyes off her that was nasty.

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Anonymous wrote:There was a girl who looked about 13 wearing an ill fitting bikini, riding up and exposing butt cheeks. If it were just the teen boys salivating over her I wouldn't mind as much. It was the 40-50 year old dads who couldn't keep their eyes off her that was nasty.

So it's her fault that these grown men couldn't get a grip on their behavior?

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And some of those 40 year old dads looked pretty nasty in their suits. They should cover up.

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Anonymous wrote:There was a girl who looked about 13 wearing an ill fitting bikini, riding up and exposing butt cheeks. If it were just the teen boys salivating over her I wouldn't mind as much. It was the 40-50 year old dads who couldn't keep their eyes off her that was nasty.

So it's her fault that these grown men couldn't get a grip on their behavior?

So buy her a good-fitting suit, but this is not why she should have to cover up. At least not in this country last time I checked.

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Anonymous wrote:Go to Target. They have the ruffled bikinis and tankinis. That's what many of the 11-13 yo girls had on at our pool this weekend.
http://www.target.com/sb/kids-girls-clothing-swimwear/Swimwear-Set/-/N-5xtvvZ5unnk#?lnk=Grid_GRLSWIM_0304_X0Y0W4|X0Y0W4&intc=430249|null

These are great! And probably cheaper than the mall stuff.

All the Tweens were wearing cute 2 piece suits, lots of ruffles and one shoulder look. Time to move beyond the year round swim team speedo one piece look.

Why? Why is there a need for little girls to strut around in barely there bikinis and bathing suits? Why do you even want to see that at the pool?

The ruffle and one shoulder ones and the ones on the Target link are modest and cute. Unless you're Muslim (which may have been the case at our pool for the one poor tween in a full scuba suit).

It was hot at 2pm and the suit looked unbearable. It's meant for deep see diving, not hot DC area summers.

Was it a true neoprene scuba suit, or regular Islamic swimwear?

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Anonymous wrote:Go to Target. They have the ruffled bikinis and tankinis. That's what many of the 11-13 yo girls had on at our pool this weekend.
http://www.target.com/sb/kids-girls-clothing-swimwear/Swimwear-Set/-/N-5xtvvZ5unnk#?lnk=Grid_GRLSWIM_0304_X0Y0W4|X0Y0W4&intc=430249|null

These are great! And probably cheaper than the mall stuff.

All the Tweens were wearing cute 2 piece suits, lots of ruffles and one shoulder look. Time to move beyond the year round swim team speedo one piece look.

Why? Why is there a need for little girls to strut around in barely there bikinis and bathing suits? Why do you even want to see that at the pool?

The ruffle and one shoulder ones and the ones on the Target link are modest and cute. Unless you're Muslim (which may have been the case at our pool for the one poor tween in a full scuba suit).

It was hot at 2pm and the suit looked unbearable. It's meant for deep see diving, not hot DC area summers.

Was it a true neoprene scuba suit, or regular Islamic swimwear? [/quote
A SCUBA suit. I know the difference.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There was a girl who looked about 13 wearing an ill fitting bikini, riding up and exposing butt cheeks. If it were just the teen boys salivating over her I wouldn't mind as much. It was the 40-50 year old dads who couldn't keep their eyes off her that was nasty.

So it's her fault that these grown men couldn't get a grip on their behavior?

Of course it's not her fault. But I got hit on by adult men when I was that age and had no idea how to handle it. I wouldn't willingly put my daughter in that situation.

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Anonymous wrote:There was a girl who looked about 13 wearing an ill fitting bikini, riding up and exposing butt cheeks. If it were just the teen boys salivating over her I wouldn't mind as much. It was the 40-50 year old dads who couldn't keep their eyes off her that was nasty.

So it's her fault that these grown men couldn't get a grip on their behavior?

Of course it's not her fault. But I got hit on by adult men when I was that age and had no idea how to handle it. I wouldn't willingly put my daughter in that situation.

You're right that a 13 year old should be taught how to deal with the situation. Requiring her to coverup is not the answer--it's not her fault. She doesn't need an itsy bitsy teeny bikini, but the ones at Target and the like are fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is she a "poor tween" if she is covered up for her own and her familiy's religious and cultural beliefs? I don't want to hijack here, but I think it's great when I see girls covered up to swim because I think it shows amazing character!

I would bet it was her parent's insistence and not her amazing "character" as a tween that made for the decision to clothe her in a full wetsuit to go swimming.

[Anonymous]

oh man, the things i have to look forward to. my daughter is only two and i am going to enjoy these days of picking out suits with good coverage.

OP - have you tried using the skin health angle with your daughter? besides the obvious that it is sad to see 11 year olds in bikinis, people should be covering up for sun protection factors. maybe give her a lesson on skin cancer, wrinkles, etc. i know it sounds slightly morbid, but its reality and might help you make a better case.

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Anonymous wrote:There was a girl who looked about 13 wearing an ill fitting bikini, riding up and exposing butt cheeks. If it were just the teen boys salivating over her I wouldn't mind as much. It was the 40-50 year old dads who couldn't keep their eyes off her that was nasty.

So it's her fault that these grown men couldn't get a grip on their behavior?

Of course it's not her fault. But I got hit on by adult men when I was that age and had no idea how to handle it. I wouldn't willingly put my daughter in that situation.

You're right that a 13 year old should be taught how to deal with the situation. Requiring her to coverup is not the answer--it's not her fault. She doesn't need an itsy bitsy teeny bikini, but the ones at Target and the like are fine.

Nobody said she should "cover up," but there is a culturally acceptable line of what's considered appropriate for a 13 year old. You draw it at a Target bikini, for example. That's probably what most Americans are comfortable with. Would you let your 13 year old go topless at the pool if it were legal? Everyone and every culture has a comfort zone with this.

And IMO, age matters.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is she a "poor tween" if she is covered up for her own and her familiy's religious and cultural beliefs? I don't want to hijack here, but I think it's great when I see girls covered up to swim because I think it shows amazing character!

I would bet it was her parent's insistence and not her amazing "character" as a tween that made for the decision to clothe her in a full wetsuit to go swimming.

I don't think that necessarily accurate. I have teen daughters and we are Muslim. My 16 year old is naturally more modest than me, and she might choose to do something like this on her own. For example, she's considering wearing hijab when no adult women in the family do. For her at least, it has more to do with what her Muslim friends are doing.

So yes, while it might be at the parents' insistence, it's also possible her mom is sunning in a one piece a couple of chairs away. 8)

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Anonymous wrote:There was a girl who looked about 13 wearing an ill fitting bikini, riding up and exposing butt cheeks. If it were just the teen boys salivating over her I wouldn't mind as much. It was the 40-50 year old dads who couldn't keep their eyes off her that was nasty.

So it's her fault that these grown men couldn't get a grip on their behavior?

Of course it's not her fault. But I got hit on by adult men when I was that age and had no idea how to handle it. I wouldn't willingly put my daughter in that situation.

You're right that a 13 year old should be taught how to deal with the situation. Requiring her to coverup is not the answer--it's not her fault. She doesn't need an itsy bitsy teeny bikini, but the ones at Target and the like are fine.

Nobody said she should "cover up," but there is a culturally acceptable line of what's considered appropriate for a 13 year old. You draw it at a Target bikini, for example. That's probably what most Americans are comfortable with. Would you let your 13 year old go topless at the pool if it were legal? Everyone and every culture has a comfort zone with this.

And IMO, age matters.

If you're the poster complaining that the old guys couldn't keep their eyes off the 13 yo's ill-fitting suit, I don't get it. You'll feel better allowing your fully developed 16 year old (versus you're un/underdeveloped 11 yo) wear a bikini? I'm not disagreeing with you; I really don't understand what you're trying to say.