Worst mother on earth.
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Jeez, 22:41, it was my first worst mother post, or post, and yes, I was looking for reassurance, as well as making kind of a reverse ode to mothers day. I suggest you calm down. And as for growing a pair, I think there can be a little too much aggression, no? Moreover, as for going about my business - I am! You just barged on in and bossed my business about.
Just wanted to hear from others that dropped their medically fragile kid. Will post with more accuracy so as to avoid annoyance next time. |
Anonymous
| OP, I didn't have a preemie but I've definitely been the worst mother on earth repeatedly. The first time was when my first child was about 4m and fell off a couch and appeared to hit his head on a glass coffee table. I called the ped who told me to give him tylenol, take him to Childrens and to make sure he didn't fall asleep. I did just that, only the minute you put a crying infant in a car after giving him tylenol, guess what happens? I got so hysterical as I could see him falling asleep that I pulled into Walter Reed (it was still open then) and begged them to make sure he was still breathing. They were so nice to me even though I had no business being there and they must have had people with real problems to attend to. Of course he was fine, and later that day I realized the lump on his head was probably from a bug bite rather than the fall. We've all been in some version of where you are today, so don't beat yourself up - someday this will be a humorous story about your first mother's day! Enjoy the day! |
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22:41: these "worst mother" posts are formulaic, I'll give you that, and the "enough already" responses (like yours) are, too.
OP needs posters to reassure her that she's not a "worst mother" (BTW: OP, IMHO, you're fine, and not a "worst mother"!), and to share their stories about similar incidents that turned out well in the end. Reasonable & normal. You, 22:41, need posters to reassure you that you're inappropriate, unkind, and an "other" who doesn't fit in. You may also have hoped that other posters might join you in your me-vs.-OP post. It's normal to feel like you don't fit in with a certain group. And maybe you're right. Maybe you don't mesh well with this group, but fit in well with other groups. This is a thread about a worried new mother's concerns about her mothering. Her post isn't frivolous. So: not about you. Posters who are responding with reassurance understand that it's not about them. Maybe you think you're taking a stand against formulaic exchanges, but the issue really seems to be that you're offended this formulaic exchange isn't about you. |
Anonymous
It's kind of like the 115 lb woman who moans, "I'm SOOOO fat" all the time. It's annoying here. Very annoying. "I'm the WOOOOOORST MOTHER." ugh. |
Anonymous
No, it's nothing like that. You might want to consider why you are so bothered by something someone you don't know posts on an anonymous forum that has nothing to do with you. |
Anonymous
No, I don't think it's the same thing at all. When my DS rolled off the bed onto a hardwood floor at 5 months, I truly did feel like the worst mom ever. I had no idea that other moms had made this mistake until I came and posted on here. Often, moms will talk (in person) about the fun things their kids are doing but not as much about how they have screwed up. So, it was very reassuring for me when I read all the other posts by moms who had BTDT. As a mom, you feel sub a huge sense of responsibility for your kids to keep them safe. Then when they fall off the bed on your watch, you feel like you've failed them. OP just needed some reassurance that her kid will be fine and that she's not a horrible mom. |
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Lol! |
Anonymous
| Oh yeah, it happens. What I learned: Always put the baby on the floor. They can't fall off the floor. Seriously. |
Anonymous
| I agree that some of the posts are a bit much, but I also agree that starting a thread "worst mother on earth" is trolling for sympathy. If you put your baby down on a high object without keeping a hand on them, you probably shouldn't be surprised when they end up on the floor. |
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Alright, I submit -- the title was overly dramatic and sympathy mongering. I was all Er sweaty and felt terrible in the face of having to explain 59 times that no, he wasn't a healthy full term baby and no, I wasn't holding him. Just felt incompetent and yes, crappy. And I was nervous to tell my friends parents etc. because I've already been very whiny, let's talk
About meeeeeeeeeeeee post baby. So. Maybe meanie pants has a point. |
Anonymous
Yeah, you're right it's a stupid thing to do. I'm not the OP, but, yes, I did it. I was sleep-deprived, and didn't even realize that my baby could roll. Up to that point, he hadn't even rolled over onto his belly. So, I didn't think anything of leaving him on the bed. I have no prior experience with kids. So, yes, I was an idiot, and I will never make that mistake again. However, people make mistakes all the time. The best we can do is learn from them and try not to repeat them. OP doesn't sound like she was 'trolling for sympathy'. She unintentionally did something that she felt bad about. And, some of the other PPs have done the same thing. Good for you if you've never had a baby roll of the bed/couch/changing table. But, I'd bet that you have at some point made another mistake (or will someday make a mistake) that you will also feel somewhat bad about. Nobody is perfect. |
Anonymous
How's that hangover this morning? |
Anonymous
| Re the 115 pound woman complaing she's fat analogy -- OP gave birth five weeks early, her kid is at risk for brain bleeds issues, etc., and she dropped him on his developing head. cut some slack you total b. |
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My second child was in the NICU, and I've often said that I don't know how I would have had the basic confidence to handle motherhood had it been my first. While the nurses and doctors are incredibly caring, you are left with a feeling that you are fundamentally incapable of caring for the extra delicate and breakable human. You spend the first few weeks trying to parent your child in front of audience, who sets the standard on what you may or may not do with your child.
Unless you've been through it, I'm not sure you can dismiss it so easily. |
Anonymous
| My baby was also early and was in the NICU for 2.5 months. One of the first times I took her out on my own we were going to the ped. I had her in a bjorn and I just randomly lost my footing and completely wiped out and fell on the ground. Her head hit the ground. It was one of the most horrible moments of my life. I couldn't believe that we had spent all that time worrying over her in the NICU and then I dropped her on her head! I was so scared that I had broken her. But she was totally fine. It sucks, but stuff happens and you both will be okay! |