Does every mom think her kid is the cutest?

[Anonymous]

I think my child is adorable, and he gets a lot--a lot--of compliments. I also think he's brilliant. (He's 2.5 yo.) But... this is the thing. I hear other parents bragging about the identical stuff as I think but don't say outloud. Is it truly possible that there's an entire cohort of adorable precocious Einstein-worthy children? I really doubt it. I think the act of caring for a child (maybe especially a toddler) requires love and love is blind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I definitely recognize my kid's shortcomings, appearance-wise.

But, she's the best kid on the planet, flyaway hair and dark-circled eyes and all.

(Also, I don't worry, because I was a pretty funny looking kid, and by 16, was smokin' hot. Have aged quite well, too. She'll be just fine. )

+1

I recognize that there are children who are cuter than my own. But I was funny looking until my teen years when I made average.

[Anonymous]

I know my son is a pain in my ass.. does that count?

[Anonymous]

I think a good chunk of it is evolutionary. I am South Asian, and have always found children with darker features to be especially cute. Dark hair, brown eyes, dark skin - I have always been drawn to babies like that. My guess is that I am wired that way because I will never produce a blond child!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a good chunk of it is evolutionary. I am South Asian, and have always found children with darker features to be especially cute. Dark hair, brown eyes, dark skin - I have always been drawn to babies like that. My guess is that I am wired that way because I will never produce a blond child!

True, I too am Asian and find myself not finding blond blue eyes kids cute at all. I just melt seeing kids with darker complexion and darker hair. I'm nutty for my kid but I try hard not to talk to her about her looks since I know it's fleeting and onl skin deep. Some of my friends kids are really ugly and I see my friends just totally in love with them calling them handsome etc. so maybe it's all in the eye of the beholder. But there was a study that came out a while back that stated that prettier kids in the same family received more attention. Maybe over time parents begin to see the differences but I suect when they are young(chubby cheeks, chunky thighs) are just the cutest.

[Anonymous]

My son has a look that a lot of people find very cute - symmetrical face, big blue eyes, blond hair in a floppy cut. That being said, there are a number of kids in his daycare of different backgrounds that are also adorably cute.

[Anonymous]

A neighbor mentioned that she worried that her (really cute) preschool daughter was at higher risk for abduction because of being so extraordinarily adorable. That seems nuts to me. Other people with "the cutest child in the world" have thoughts like these?

[Anonymous]

I think part of it is delusions b/c I thought my oldest was the cutest baby ever, but now when I look at his baby photos I see that he was actually kinda funny looking until around a year old. I didn't think my youngest was very cute, until she hit about six months old. Now I think they are both adorable, so maybe my delusions continue .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A neighbor mentioned that she worried that her (really cute) preschool daughter was at higher risk for abduction because of being so extraordinarily adorable. That seems nuts to me. Other people with "the cutest child in the world" have thoughts like these?

Now that really IS delusional.

[Anonymous]

ehhhh no but I have stated when someone wanted me to helicopter my kid that I was sure anyone who abducted him would bring him back even the aliens

no Im not saying aliens are real and abduct people it was sacasm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think part of it is delusions b/c I thought my oldest was the cutest baby ever, but now when I look at his baby photos I see that he was actually kinda funny looking until around a year old. I didn't think my youngest was very cute, until she hit about six months old. Now I think they are both adorable, so maybe my delusions continue .

ITA with this. Didn't help that my MIL went on and on about my oldest. He was and is a good-looking kid -- big brown eyes, winning smile, etc. -- but is he the most adorable by an objective standard? No.

I will also add that I find that very good-looking babies and young children tend to be average-looking adults. You always see celebrity baby pics and they tend not to be the cutest babies. So you can't tell who is going to be a stunning adult. I think all my kids are adorable now but I am quite certain they will be average-looking adults just like their parents.

[Anonymous]

I find blond, blue eyed babies not cute. I am AA, and I guess it is a good thing since I'll never have a baby like that!

I prefer brown or olive skinned babies. I just think pale babies look sickly and the blue eyed blond ones look so Children of the Corn creepy.

[Anonymous]

Every parent thinks their kid is the best and most adorable. Parents love their kids just as much as you love yours. In the early years I have noticed that parents think their kids can do no wrong and are made of magic. It is only in the elementary school years that parents can see that their kids are not the best at absolutely every single thing. And they can start to see drawbacks to aspects of their child's personality.

My kid is sort of screwed then b/c he is only three and I see that now!

I find him very cute though but also find other kids cute. I think that everyone pretty much thinks their kid is the cutest. how could you not?

[Anonymous]

Can we please stop knocking the blond hair, blue eyed kids? I think it would be offensive for me to say that all AA and Asian and brunette and redhead kids are ugly and sickly and creepy, so please don't say that about my kids.

[Anonymous]

Yes and no. I had one baby that was undeniably gorgeous and 3 that were cute, but I was aware that I was blinded by love. It doesn't matter--just don't be obnoxious about your opinion.