delaying kindergarten for 5 year old
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We are struggling with the same issue for our 4 yr old in preK. He is the youngest in his mainstream public school classroom with a summer birthday so he would be red shirted by most privates anyway. He has aspergers so his main issue is the socialization and the lack of interaction with his peers. Academically he does well and he attends an immersion language school.
We are in the process of getting an IEP so we will see how it goes in kindergarten. So far without supports, his playing with peers seems to be improving with encouragement from his teachers but we're hoping with supports, his social deficits won't be a reason to hold him back. He has three "girlfriends" in class who help him along and so far, the teachers have created a very nurturing environment where he isn't teased for his differences. Of course, this does not mean it'll be the same for kindergarten so it's very worrisome. Best of luck to you OP! |
Anonymous
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Is your child SN and receiving services? The reason I ask is that in making this decision you need to figure out what services, if any, you will get if you decide to not send him. This was the deciding factor for us. We have a very delayed SN 5 yo and did not want to send him to public K because he was most certainly not ready, but were essentially forced to do it after the county (AA) informed us that he would get limited therapy services at our home or whatever private program in which we placed him for care for that year. We decided it was better for him to get the full complement of services than have him go to a private preschool for another year with limited supports.
And yes, we have requested he be "retained" (new word for "hold back". The school is not objecting so he is repeatigng. |
Anonymous
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16:22 from ^^^^^.
The first few months were hell. We knew he wasn't ready for K and the school system soon found that out. In the end, though, it was the better decision to send him with the full complement of supports as he is progressing and is learning and a private pre-school with no IEP kids and limited supports could not have handled him or his needs. That being said, he will be retained. That's something that we are non-negotiable on. He needs the extra year to develop maturity and social skills. He's not ever going to "catch up" due to cognitive limitations. That, and I really don't care about his "catching up" to the NT kids his age. He is what he is and we love him for it. Just want him to be functional and happy. |
Anonymous
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I do believe that if you decide to hold back you are not eligibile for an IEP ( I believe I was told his for MOCO). This is not true in MOCO -- my DD was held back AND has an IEP. No problem. |
Anonymous
This is not true in MOCO -- my DD was held back AND has an IEP. No problem. I'm the PP who wrote that about MOCO. It is what I was told by a parent whose child was getting services and they wanted to hold the child back. The county attempted to pull services. I wonder if it was an isolated incident. Of course, you can't go by what a parent says--you have to research it. Glad to know you didn't loose services (gives me hope). |
Anonymous
| 16:34, how did you get to a place of acceptance? And at the same time, don't you wonder that such acceptance could possibly mean complacency that could keep DC from reaching his or her full potential? Just curious, I'm the OP from the catching up thread. |
Anonymous
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18:32, I'm sure you didn't mean your post to be offensive and are just asking questions.
To answer your question, I'm not complacent. I'm a realist. I have accepted my son and his limitations. Just because I accept them and am realistic about them does not mean complacency or that we've given up on him and his full potential. |
Anonymous
| 18:23: MO Co is a full of it. Unfortunately, your friend fell for it. The systems all to often mislead and misrepresent the law and facts. |