Best decisions I ever made...

[Anonymous]

Choosing to live in an up and coming neighborhood in DC. Then moving from DC to an area with a lower cost of living and near family (outside of the DC metro area).

Choosing to go away to college rather than staying closer to home.

Choosing to give DH a chance even though I wasn't quite sure I was attracted to him in the 'more than friends' way.

[Anonymous]

Marrying DH, hands down. I have degrees, and would have probably had a great life without him. But marrying him was truly a life changing decision, including a tremendous leap of faith to move half way across the world and start a life in a country where I have never imagined myself living. Paid off big time and completely changed my life and my perspective. OP, I don't see how getting married wouldn't affect your life, including your financial and family situation. How is that even possible? Would you be having the same lifestyle with half the income? Would you be having the same family without your spouse? Not to mention kids... How is marriage not life changing? I'm not saying it's always for the better, but still, life changing.

[Anonymous]

Those who don't think that getting married was a good decision have never needed the protections that marriage provides. There are over 300 statues and laws that covered married spouses that are not available to domestic partners. Those include the ability to visit in certain parts of the hospital, the ability to make certain life and medical decisions should your partner not be able to make those decisions, the ability to access finances and accounts. The list goes on. There are basic protections that the law puts in place once you get married. While you may not need most of them, they still provide you an umbrella of protection for you and your family. May you never need those protections...but they are in the law in case you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Those who don't think that getting married was a good decision have never needed the protections that marriage provides. There are over 300 statues and laws that covered married spouses that are not available to domestic partners. Those include the ability to visit in certain parts of the hospital, the ability to make certain life and medical decisions should your partner not be able to make those decisions, the ability to access finances and accounts. The list goes on. There are basic protections that the law puts in place once you get married. While you may not need most of them, they still provide you an umbrella of protection for you and your family. May you never need those protections...but they are in the law in case you do.

but only if you are straight

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those who don't think that getting married was a good decision have never needed the protections that marriage provides. There are over 300 statues and laws that covered married spouses that are not available to domestic partners. Those include the ability to visit in certain parts of the hospital, the ability to make certain life and medical decisions should your partner not be able to make those decisions, the ability to access finances and accounts. The list goes on. There are basic protections that the law puts in place once you get married. While you may not need most of them, they still provide you an umbrella of protection for you and your family. May you never need those protections...but they are in the law in case you do.

but only if you are straight

^^ hopefully not for long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those who don't think that getting married was a good decision have never needed the protections that marriage provides. There are over 300 statues and laws that covered married spouses that are not available to domestic partners. Those include the ability to visit in certain parts of the hospital, the ability to make certain life and medical decisions should your partner not be able to make those decisions, the ability to access finances and accounts. The list goes on. There are basic protections that the law puts in place once you get married. While you may not need most of them, they still provide you an umbrella of protection for you and your family. May you never need those protections...but they are in the law in case you do.

but only if you are straight

PP here...I thought about putting a comment about that, but decided not to open that can of worms. Yes, I hope that Governor O'Malley is successful, too.

[Anonymous]

Divorcing H#1

Marrying DH

Having DC3, even though I wasn't sure about having a 3rd

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If marriage isn't affecting you either for better or worse then you are doing it wrong.

Sometimes it's for better, sometimes for worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Marrying DH, hands down. I have degrees, and would have probably had a great life without him. But marrying him was truly a life changing decision, including a tremendous leap of faith to move half way across the world and start a life in a country where I have never imagined myself living. Paid off big time and completely changed my life and my perspective. OP, I don't see how getting married wouldn't affect your life, including your financial and family situation. How is that even possible? Would you be having the same lifestyle with half the income? Would you be having the same family without your spouse? Not to mention kids... How is marriage not life changing? I'm not saying it's always for the better, but still, life changing.

That's funny, DH moved to be with me.

[Anonymous]

Studying my butt off in highschool, going to a great college, going to a great grad school, working my butt off and saving money like crazy when I was single.

[Anonymous]

Avoiding the marriage topic: asking my brother who was about to graduate college to move in with me, big sister, in the big city. We got a better place, he took care of me in a very, very bad patch, we each got married about the same time and now his kids are roughly the same as mine and we all live in this area. Easy visits for parents now grandparents. Our spouses and children are very connected. And I wouldn't have any of this w/o that one request. Love my bro.

[Anonymous]

1) Leave my ex boyfriend.

2) Take a low paying job as a prosecutor 7 years ago, which has lead to a wonderful career.

3) Have my daughter.

4) Get a breast lump checked out that everyone told me was scar tissue - turned out to be breast cancer.

5) Buy a foreclosure in my dream neighborhood.

6) Marry my wonderful husband.

[Anonymous]

Child #3 even if it meant being a SAHM with 3 kids under age 4 and a husband who is rarely home.

[Anonymous]

Going to the college I did, which directly led to meeting my husband in my first job after school.

Marrying my husband.

Having my kids.

Getting a tummy tuck. It's awesome.

[Anonymous]

OP here guess I should say that I don't really view it as a 'decision' for us it was natural. Maybe that's why its weird to me. If you had to make a decision then maybe it wasn't easy?