White Girls w/ Curly Hair

[Anonymous]

White girl here, with extremely curly hair. I think part of the problem, at least for me, is that when I buy Marie Claire or Glamour because there's a blurb on the front cover that says something like "New exciting styles for your curly hair!" and then I open the magazine and the models look like this:




Hello! That is NOT curly hair...that is barely wavey hair. So, in fact, I do relate to African American hair products and get more out of them. My hair has never looked better since I started using Miss Jessie's products...Curly Pudding, etc. I'd buy the sampler and see which one works best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it...that when I google curly hair, or anything for curly hair...it is all AA specific?

I can not seem to find anything to help my white (not bi-racial) poor DD with extremely curly hair. I can not be the only one out there with a white child with curly hair.

Am I?

Shame on you OP. Why do you use the term "poor DD"? That says something about you that you will probably make her feel ashamed about her curly hair.

Extremely dry curly hair is a PITA. Poor child for having to deal with it for the rest of her life. There's nothing bad about acknowledging that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:if the product works for curls, why do you care if it's AA-geared? It won't turn your daughter brown or black...

Seriously? You don't realize that AA hair is different then white hair? What planet do you live on?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I assume you don't have curly hair?

If you are willing to spend the money, I highly recommend the DevaCurl line.

No - I have very, very straight hair. I have no idea what to do with it. Do I comb it? Brush it?

I feel like she's going to look back on her pictures from when she was younger and be embarassed.

[Anonymous]

curly hair is drier...that's why they are soapless products...

[Anonymous]

Oh, but be careful what messages you send, OP! I have very curly/frizzy hair that my mother was always trying to find ways to help me style. I felt so ugly and insecure, and I think my low "hair self esteem" contributed to low "body self esteem," eating problems, etc. I wish my Mom had been brave enough to find a cute short no-maintenance cut for me when I was young (even though they were much less in-style than they are now), so that I could have grown up without avoiding the pool and sports that would require me to wash my hair, etc. When I think of the hours I spent as a teen in giant rollers, ironing my hair, and crying in front of the mirror -- what a waste!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it...that when I google curly hair, or anything for curly hair...it is all AA specific?

I can not seem to find anything to help my white (not bi-racial) poor DD with extremely curly hair. I can not be the only one out there with a white child with curly hair.

Am I?

Shame on you OP. Why do you use the term "poor DD"? That says something about you that you will probably make her feel ashamed about her curly hair.

I used that term because I don't know how to help her. But, you can read into my feelings anyway you want from the few lines of text on the internet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:if the product works for curls, why do you care if it's AA-geared? It won't turn your daughter brown or black...

Seriously? You don't realize that AA hair is different then white hair? What planet do you live on?

Human hair is human hair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, but be careful what messages you send, OP! I have very curly/frizzy hair that my mother was always trying to find ways to help me style. I felt so ugly and insecure, and I think my low "hair self esteem" contributed to low "body self esteem," eating problems, etc. I wish my Mom had been brave enough to find a cute short no-maintenance cut for me when I was young (even though they were much less in-style than they are now), so that I could have grown up without avoiding the pool and sports that would require me to wash my hair, etc. When I think of the hours I spent as a teen in giant rollers, ironing my hair, and crying in front of the mirror -- what a waste!

Seriously? Oh the drama!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I assume you don't have curly hair?

If you are willing to spend the money, I highly recommend the DevaCurl line.

No - I have very, very straight hair. I have no idea what to do with it. Do I comb it? Brush it?

I feel like she's going to look back on her pictures from when she was younger and be embarassed.

Always dampen the hair, is what I found; use a widetooth comb or bursh like 1st and 3rd from left

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I assume you don't have curly hair?

If you are willing to spend the money, I highly recommend the DevaCurl line.

No - I have very, very straight hair. I have no idea what to do with it. Do I comb it? Brush it?

I feel like she's going to look back on her pictures from when she was younger and be embarassed.

Never brush curly hair. Always condition it, and comb it when the conditioner is in. Then just finger comb it with your fingers to release and re-activate the curl. Keep it in a short, fun style.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:if the product works for curls, why do you care if it's AA-geared? It won't turn your daughter brown or black...

Seriously? You don't realize that AA hair is different then white hair? What planet do you live on?

Human hair is human hair.

Not even remotely true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:if the product works for curls, why do you care if it's AA-geared? It won't turn your daughter brown or black...

Seriously? You don't realize that AA hair is different then white hair? What planet do you live on?

Human hair is human hair.

Yes. And blue eyes and brown eyes are both eyes.

And black skins and white skin are both skin.

Hair is hair - but we can all admit that AA hair and white hair have different properties, which is why they have different products - for different needs.

If you can't see that. Well. Whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:if the product works for curls, why do you care if it's AA-geared? It won't turn your daughter brown or black...

Seriously? You don't realize that AA hair is different then white hair? What planet do you live on?

Human hair is human hair.

Yes. And blue eyes and brown eyes are both eyes.

And black skins and white skin are both skin.

Hair is hair - but we can all admit that AA hair and white hair have different properties, which is why they have different products - for different needs.

If you can't see that. Well. Whatever.

Yes, one tends to be coarser and drier than another...but all curly hair is...which I believe, actually, is the whole point of this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it...that when I google curly hair, or anything for curly hair...it is all AA specific?

I can not seem to find anything to help my white (not bi-racial) poor DD with extremely curly hair. I can not be the only one out there with a white child with curly hair.

Am I?

Shame on you OP. Why do you use the term "poor DD"? That says something about you that you will probably make her feel ashamed about her curly hair.

Sweetie, if her mama doesn't know how to care for curls, she is a "poor DD" indeed! Curls look beautiful if they are well-cared for, but I don't know anyone who finds tangly, messy curls appealing.