The expectations for adult women

[Anonymous]

The only expectations you need to live up to are yours and God's.

[Anonymous]

In the cartoon Daria, there is a musical sung by the mom and the youngest daughter that had the wonderful line "being second wouldn't be the worst... as long as no one else was first".

Just allow yourself to be second, without qualifications (and I'll try to take my own advice as well )

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sadly I think many of these unattainable expectations come from other women and I wonder if we are our own worst enemies. Some men may have these expectations too, but I suspect we women are screwing ourselves over. **warning** I'm a little venty and negative today.

Be model thin and look hungry, weak and frail, but make a good living and have a high ranking position & look great in career clothes and be able to eat whatever you want.

Bring home some bacon, fry it up in a pan, take care of the kids and never ever let him forget he's a man no matter how exhausted you are (bow chicka bow bow)

Meet the demands of family, in-laws, bosses, etc without complaint and make it look easy and fun

Shuttle our kids from activity to activity to playdate with a smile on our face.

Be sweet and doormatty whenever possible and don't say words like "no" "hell no" and "ef you, no way."

If you demand "me time" and do thinks for yourself, you are selfish.

Don't ever get sick and if you do, forget taking any time to yourself to recover.

Be the scapegoat for angry in-laws, kids and so forth and accept it with a smile.

Attend to your children's every emotional and physical need and expect daddy to be their favorite.

I know, I know...I sound bitter. I am bitter today, but not bitter most days.

Do you need some help with that there drinking problem you have there?

True. I think a lot of times, *we* are our own worst enemy. It's all about meeting expectations that no one has for us but ourselves. Therapy?

[Anonymous]

OP here. I just find this so be something sociologically annoying. I myself don't try to meet those expectations or at least I only aim for ones that are important to me. It just saddens me that as far as women have come we have made things harder for ourselves and out fellow sisters.If I had a dollar for every successful career lady I know who bashed the coworker who can't seem to lose the baby weight or the times my eyes glaze over as my MIL complains that I am not meeting her unrealistic expectations or that I have overheard another mom criticizing one of the classroom mothers behind her back. I personally say screw it, so I don't need to chat about this with a therapist, I just am sad that as far as women have come we are holding eachother back in a lot of ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I just find this so be something sociologically annoying. I myself don't try to meet those expectations or at least I only aim for ones that are important to me. It just saddens me that as far as women have come we have made things harder for ourselves and out fellow sisters.If I had a dollar for every successful career lady I know who bashed the coworker who can't seem to lose the baby weight or the times my eyes glaze over as my MIL complains that I am not meeting her unrealistic expectations or that I have overheard another mom criticizing one of the classroom mothers behind her back. I personally say screw it, so I don't need to chat about this with a therapist, I just am sad that as far as women have come we are holding eachother back in a lot of ways.

Ahh! I think women have always been this. It starts in adolescence, when we single out our mom for our bad behavior and moves on from there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only expectations you need to live up to are yours and God's.

And since God is essentially absent, and we have no way of knowing what He wants, you can factor this down to "yours".