Did DH stay in the hospital overnight when you had #2?

[Anonymous]

DH stayed home with DD #1. I thought I would want him to stay over but I really enjoyed the special one-on-one time with my new DD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH stayed with me. He did go home for several hours during the day, but came back in the afternoon. DC #1 was 2yo, but happy enough to have the extra attention from his grandparents.

I really enjoyed having DH with me - both to help with the baby, but mostly for the time we were able to spend together with our new little guy.

Ditto this.

[Anonymous]

I had an emergency c-section with #2, so we were there for much longer than planned. My mom came to stay with #1 while DH stayed at the hospital with me and the new addition. He went home each day in the late afternoon to shower, give my mom a break and do bedtime. Then he'd come back to the hospital to crash on the pull-out. It was only a 5-minute drive and it was nice to have some "just us" time to focus on the new little person. (This was during the Great Swine Flu Panic when children were banned from visiting.)

[Anonymous]

I had a c-section so my husband stayed with me both nights. My Mom stayed home with our 3.5 year old.

[Anonymous]

Wow, I'm starting to feel really bad.

My dh went home at night when I had our FIRST dc via c-section. He also slept at home when our second and third babies were born though MIL came to stay. I didn't think it was a bad thing since the hospital futon is horrible for sleeping but it looks like the other dh's handled it.

[Anonymous]

DC2 was born at 10 at night. DH stayed with us until 5 or so and then headed home so he would be there when DC1 (age 3) woke up. I think she would have been fine, as her beloved grandma was there, but he was nervous, and that was okay with me. The second night he stayed over.

[Anonymous]

He didn't. I had a c, but was OK on my own with some help from the nurses at night. I wanted one of us to be somewhat rested, and it clearly wasn't going to be me, since I was being felt up at various points by perfect strangers all night long. So he went home to get a decent night's sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I'm starting to feel really bad.

My dh went home at night when I had our FIRST dc via c-section. He also slept at home when our second and third babies were born though MIL came to stay. I didn't think it was a bad thing since the hospital futon is horrible for sleeping but it looks like the other dh's handled it.

Your DH was probably better rested. Nothing wrong with making a different choice on this one. Mine went home with #1, too. I had been hospitalized prior to pregnancy, and I remembered noise from the hall, etc., keeping me up. I couldn't see making him miserable, too. He arrived first thing each morning, left later in the evening. We were both happy with the choice. I think whatever you decide, as long as both spouses are in agreement, it's not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Wow, I'm starting to feel really bad.

My dh went home at night when I had our FIRST dc via c-section. He also slept at home when our second and third babies were born though MIL came to stay. I didn't think it was a bad thing since the hospital futon is horrible for sleeping but it looks like the other dh's handled it.

Your DH was probably better rested. Nothing wrong with making a different choice on this one. Mine went home with #1, too. I had been hospitalized prior to pregnancy, and I remembered noise from the hall, etc., keeping me up. I couldn't see making him miserable, too. He arrived first thing each morning, left later in the evening. We were both happy with the choice. I think whatever you decide, as long as both spouses are in agreement, it's not a big deal.

Mine went home after our first was born - I wasn't moved from L&D until 1 in the morning, plus he is a terrible sleeper anywhere away from home, including nice hotels. Hospital futon was just going to make everyone miserable, and I didn't see the point of neither of us getting any sleep, what with nurses coming in to check blood pressure, etc. all night. Our second was born at midnight, it wasn't hard to make the same call. First child spent the night at my sister's but my husband went home anyway. It doesn't mean he loves me any less or bonded less with our babies.

[Anonymous]

No local family here and DC2 was early. DH stayed ome with DC1, visited me in the afternoon and spent the rest of his time prepping for our early bird's arrival. DC1 was in daycare during the day.

[Anonymous]

No, but my mom did one night -- snowstorm + baby in NICU.

[Anonymous]

I sent him home with both. I didn't even give him the opportunity to decide. I also sent both kids to the nursery at night. I figured it was all the privacy I was going to get for the next 18 or so years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH will put DC1 to bed and head back to the hospital, our hired help will be home overnight and DH will be back in the morning before DC1 is awake.

DH will do DC1's morning routine (gymboree, naps, lunch at home) while hired help is off duty and bring DC1 to the hospital to see me in the afternoon. DH will put DC for nap, hired help will arrive then and DH will head back to the hospital to stay with me.

Hired help will feed DC1 dinner, tide up the house and DH will come back for night time routine.

Rinse and repeat for all days insurance/doctor allows me to stay Last time around they gave me an extra night. It was awesome!

WOW! You sound very pretentious. "Hired help"?? Why not say babysitter/nanny/childcare, etc? You sound like a princess!

[Anonymous]

Yes he stayed. With our first, I remembered those first two nights as very hard, but also very precious. So I didn't want him to miss it with our second. Thought it wasn't fair to baby 2.

We were lucky, however, to be able to call in the grandparents from NY to stay with #1 - who was spoiled rotten the whole time we were at the hospital. When we returned home, all #1 could talk about was all the ice cream he ate The new baby was fine and all, but the ice cream...oh, the ice cream!

[Anonymous]

4 kids. Sent husband home every time. The first time because there was no option. Hospital was crowded and ended up sharing a tiny room. With the second, I wanted him home with #1 who was not even allowed to come to the hospital because of the swine flu scare and after that you just know the drill and know the nurses will help you when needed and there is no need for husband to spent the night in a tiny couch.