Forum Index
»
Off-Topic
Anyone wish they were in their forties instead of thirties?
![[Post New]](/jforum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
| I certainly hear what you are saying OP. I find myself enjoying much more in my 30s than in my 20s. I hope the same can be said for the 40s. However, I felt like I didn't appreciate the things that I did have in my 20s, so I don't want to make the same mistake now and I want to enjoy each stage as I go through it. |
Anonymous
| Well, I don't wish to be older than I am, but I'm turning 40 next year and I'm really embracing it rather than fearing it for many of the reasons PPs have stated - my life is feeling more settled, I'm more emotionally mature and things just don't bother me as much, I'm more aware that life is short and that I should focus on enjoying it as much as possible . . . . |
Anonymous
| Nope. Not at all. I am 30 and 40 will come soon enough. The only thing I do wish is for my kids to be a little older (out of the baby/toddler age). I am so over pregnancy, sleepless nights, and diapers. Surly teenagers will be a challenge but it will be nice to have some "me" time again. |
Anonymous
| Not exactly, but I would like to have paid off my student loans (which will be done when I'm 39)! That being said, I get what you mean, OP, and if life really is that much better in my 40s then bring them on. I could really use a little contentment! |
Anonymous
| I hear you. I am in my mid-30's and so much happier and confident than I was in the 20's. I'm actually embarassed by the person I was in my younger days. But I really like where I am now and don't relish the idea of getting older. However, the alternative is certainly much worse, so I'm just happy with every day that I'm blessed to have! |
Anonymous
lol- this is one of the posters of the grandma mom threads- can;t you tell? whatever age- immaturity oozes out in her postings.. |
Anonymous
| PP, if you're going to complain, you have to post a more erudite response yourself! |
Anonymous
|
Now: A cup of coffee and the morning paper in the cool of the morning. Sharing a cigar on the front steps with my DH in the evening. Sweet small pleasures of the day. Much less turmoil. Okay, I'll take it. That was cute! |
Anonymous
|
I don't wish to be in my 40's instead of my 30's because life is so short as it is and I want to enjoy every moment. However, I find the posts with negative descriptions of people in their forties to be troubling. It's just that mentality that makes us so fearful of the aging process.
|
Anonymous
It is sad, she says that she is a mother. |
Anonymous
| I love not giving a hoot about what others think. It is the best freedom. I started really feeling it at 44. That is when the men started taking an interest in me, and I am married! I get invited to do more responsible things at work, and I am more willing to politely argue my point if I feel it matters and is relevant. I say less at meetings, but back down less. I no longer giggle with lack of confidence. I am a better mother. |
Anonymous
|
I recently turned 40 and it hit me like a ton of bricks, at first. That being said, so many people have observed in me over the past couple of years a confidence I didn't have 10 years ago. The confidence I'm talking about is in the work environment mostly, but as my children age, I also feel more confident in how my DH and I are raising them. . .
One thing the PP mentioned that has hit me as well. . .men (older than me, late 40s early 50s) find me attractive. . .weird b/c I'm married (not that one cannot be attractive and be married, but c'mon don't hit on me). I don't know if it is the ease in which I now handle myself or how I come across in the professional/social environment. . .either way it is a confidence/ego booster. A friend from high school told me what her neice said about turning 40, "it's just two 20s." Many other people have have quick to point out to me. . .40 it's the new 30. Not sure if I;d go that far, but mentally I'm better than I was in my early thirties, and physically, I'm getting back there, now that I'm done having babies. |
Anonymous
|
We're all aging and will all get to be 40+ one day if we're lucky. I'm certainly glad to hear so many women feeling pretty good about themselves and the natural course of their lives.
On the other hand, I'm still (I know) irritated by so many of the comments on the "Older Moms" thread that didn't ring true (not to mention the "39 again" blogpost. My aching almost 35-year-old back, fresh wrinkles and new crop of stray gray hairs know very well that age isn't just a state of mind. For me, 32 hit like a ton of bricks. And women do tend to look their age. They may be fit, well-dressed, freshly dyed and well-groomed, but they look their age, with very few exceptions. I feel like those women who say "40 is the new 30" and "60 is the new 40" are in denial, and unfortunately, that attitude is so popular (boomer demographics) that it's diminishing my right to age gracefully without having to pretend the years aren't leaving their mark. I've been a young woman. It didn't last long at all, but now it's very clear that my body is entering middle age, whether the rest of me feels ready or not! |