My 4 year old DS called me a moron today

[Anonymous]

I know I need to fix this. I'm terrified that I'm screwing up my child. I'm probably not the smartest woman, but I'm not a moron. I'm so embarrassed and I feel stuck and alone.

[Anonymous]

Oh, honey. I hope you can stop dwelling on the specific comment -- it's not about you! It's about your H and how he treats you. You don't need to be embarrassed, and I hope you can realize that you deserve better, kinder treatment. I think a PP hit the nail on the head by saying that your son probably repeated this b/c he senses at some level that it's wrong and feels badly about hearing these things. You can model kindness for him and tell him that nice people don't say those things about each other without having to specifically say anything about his father. But you and your H should discuss this; you deserve better treatment from your partner and the parent of your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know I need to fix this. I'm terrified that I'm screwing up my child. I'm probably not the smartest woman, but I'm not a moron. I'm so embarrassed and I feel stuck and alone.

I think you should call a hotline and start talking to someone. http://womenslaw.org/ Just hearing affirmations that you are not alone, you are not trapped, what he's doing is wrong will make you feel better and stronger to do whatever it is you want to do.

The reason I know about this site is that I called the National Domestic Violence Hotline: [phone]-SAFE (7233) or (TTY) 1-800-787-3224 and they really helped me a lot. This site also provided me some local resources, which is very important in terms of knowing your options, because most legal solutions are county-specific.

You are not alone. Your H is wrong in how he's behaving but that isn't because of you. I encourage you to call the hotline and start talking about how you feel and what is going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You are talking about "abuse" and abuse, verbal or physical, will be taken very seriously at the police station.

See, this is what happens when a locally-focused website leaks into national usage. I don't know where you're writing from, PP -- Lenexa, Kansas? Pleasant Hills, AZ? -- but here in the District of Columbia, your basic MPD officer will not give you the time of day if you complain about name calling that ends there. Not only that, you'll probably get a lecture on wasting their resources.

There were two carjackings in Ward 3 this week, did everyone catch that? Do they have carjackings where you live PP?

So simpering about your husband being a douche, well, no.



(and OP, you do have my sympathy, you really do.)

PP lives in fantasy land. Name calling isn't illegal anywhere.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, she should go to the police for name calling. Whatever.
What if she has no place to go? Does she leave him because he's a jerk and then have no money, no home, no food, no job..... Whoever the poster is saying just leave has never been in a tough situation.

I make good money, college educated, am very strong and resourceful - anyone who knows me would tell you so - but it took me YEARS to leave my emotionally abusive DH. It was the hardest thing I've ever done. It was terrifying.

Don't judge til you walk in someone's shoes. It's easy to say, you should do this or that. You just don't know.

[Anonymous]

Myths about domestic abuse and how "easy" it is to leave.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=flISPGkIT6A&feature=related