Is this typical: parent taking notes for child to study for test...

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Anonymous wrote:My DS is a freshman at his first choice college. He was very busy throughout his school years. Except for quizzing him on country capitals for a Geography quiz or asking him spelling or vocab words, I can say that I did not help him with homework or studying since the was in the 3rd grade. Of course his clothes were clean, food was made, he had a ride wherever he needed to go, etc., etc. I other words, I was the mom and he was the student. The kids have to learn to balance their workload or reduce it when necessary (and sometimes they don't get all A's, gasp). Remember, you can't stay with them in college and your job is to prepare them for real life.

I was/am the exact same way. I have two in college and three still at home. I don't get involved in homework. I know these parents...they are the ones writing the entrance essays for college admission, calling or emailing college professors, then later wondering why their kids can't success in the workplace.

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Helping? Reviewing drafts? Giving input? Giving study tips? Yes.

Doing the reading and distilling the material into notes for DCs? Heck no!

What is the long term benefit to doing that?

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13:41 There is something in between doing absolutely nothing and writing their college entrance exams. If I had five children, I'd do nothing, too! I have one and DC got support and is now a top and totally independent high school student.

I'm not liking the smug tone in some of these posts!

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Going through something that was above my kid's head, making notes so that I was sure I understood it, so we could walk through it together?

Yep, some kids need that kind of support. Unless you know his kid, know their learning profile, know whether there are LD type issues, then don't judge.

For the record, I don't do this for my kid, but I'm a special educator know some special ed kids are who are lucky enough to have this kind of support, and for whom it makes the difference between being able to access an on-level class, and not being able to do so. If I were their parent, I'd make the same choice.

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I plan to follow my kid to college to help him study and take notes.

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PP here. My friend is a long-time and highly regarded teacher at a top DC private and she works with her child, too. Working with is not doing for.

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What if the dad is not so bright or not as bright as his kid? It would suck getting a bad or worse grade because you relied on someone who wasn't so smart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here. My friend is a long-time and highly regarded teacher at a top DC private and she works with her child, too. Working with is not doing for.

And if the kid goes to local college and lives at home, you can keep helping then, too.

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This is nuts. Parents doing the homework. When is enough enough. I especially love that the kids don't have enough time b/c they are in 90 minute dance classes and travel soccer. Priorities.

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I stopped "over" helping on homework when my 2nd grader got just a "G" on a Martin Luther King report that I put alot of time into.

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Will today's over scheduled kid turn into tomorrow's underachiever or drug addict?

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Anonymous wrote:I stopped "over" helping on homework when my 2nd grader got just a "G" on a Martin Luther King report that I put alot of time into.

LOL! I got a G on something, too, and was really insulted. My DC is in 4th and is basically independent. I check and go over things DC does not understand, but DC has to do the work.